Who Will Comfort My Family After Losing My MIL to Cancer?

[PamperedDor]

Linda -

SO sorry for your family's loss! Prayers are being sent!

 

[Teresa Lynn]

Linda
Hugs and prayers to your family
its never easy especially around the holidays
Hoping your husband finds comfort in knowing her suffering is over.

 

[rennea]

I am very sadden to hear of you and your families loss Linda.

 

[laurichef]

Linda,
So sorry for your loss. Praying for all of your family.

 

[pamperedlinda]

Thanks everyone. DS actually took it very well. He's 6 and I don't think he will really understand that she is gone until we go to Colorado for the funeral and he doesn't see her.

All he said when I told him was "that makes me very sad" and "Is Gramps going to be lonely with out Nana?" We then called DH and Jacob talked to him and told him that Nana was in heaven with God.

On a lighter note.....I talked to DH a little while ago. He and his sister and his dad and several of his sister's friends are sitting around reminiscing. What's so funny about this is that my SIL is gay and is in a 'relationship'. So, picture this: its DH, FIL and 8 lesbian women sitting at FIL's house, drinking whiskey and reading entries from MIL's journals. (MIL was huge on recoring her memoirs). Well, they are reading the letters she wrote when SIL 'came-out' - entitled "My Daugher is a Lesbian") DH says it is quite comical what MIL had to say about the situation (this was @ 15 years ago).

 

[candiejayne]

I remember the night my grandpa died, we all sat around at my grandma's house and had a really good night, I had forgotten about it until you said about your hubby and family and the journal. We celebrated his life will all kinds of stories about him. I miss him dearly, I was 24 when he passed, and I'm thankful for all of the time I got to spend with him. I'm so sorry that your DS has to go through this at such a young age, but maybe it's easier for him.

I don't remember where I heard/read this, heck maybe it was even on here, but 2 children lost their mom. At the luncheon after the funeral they began to fight and one said to the other I'm telling mom, the other said you can't she's dead, then they said then I'm telling dad. Kids seem to be able to adjust so much better then we give them credit for!

I hope the services go well, and things during the holidays go as smoothely as possible for everyone involved.

 

[pcchefjane]

You are in my prayers in the loss of your MIL. I'm glad that your DH and his family are able to be "happy" in reliving some memories. We started a new tradition this year with our family Christmas tree since we have combine my ornaments and DD & SIL's ornaments on one tree. We let my 2 yo grandson take down 3 ornaments to hear the "ornament story". Some are mine, some are his Maw's (who has been gone 11-1/2 years), some are his Mom's, and some are his Dad's, so he hears stories all the time. I tell him things about his Maw all the time and he has her picture. Although he doesn't understand the concept of "living in Heaven with Jesus" yet, he knows Maw was a very special lady.

 

[lacychef]

So sorry Linda; {{hugs}} to you.

 

[PamperedCaniac]

God Bless your family and I will surely pray for you all!

 

[pamperedlinda]

Hey everyone,

We're in Colorado for the funeral (tomorow). The family could sure use some prayers of strength. They are all having a very tough time - especially FIL, his best friend died 4 days after MIL from pancreatic cancer (which was diagnosed 3 weeks before he died).

On a lighter note: DS is still trying to figure all of this out. MIL was creamated so he knows she is ashes (thatnkfully he hasn't asked how she became ashes, I'm afraid he would have nightgmares). anyhow, he keeps asking about parts of her body and if they are ashes too. Yesterday he asked about the yolks of her eyes.....I was lost on that one! He meant the Whites of her eyes!

The mind of a child is an entertaining thing!

 

[jesusluvsu2005]

Linda,
Prayers said for your family. I'm sorry that your FIL has to go through two close losses together like this. I'm glad that your son seems to be taking it well. I guess it's hard for kids to understand. And I am glad that everyone was able to enjoy the time together reading her journal. Hope you continue to have a safe trip!
God bless,
Amanda

 

[chefkristin]

I agree that it is very hard for kids to understand. But at the same time I feel that without them things would be a lot harder. They lighten up the seriousness a bit. I personally couldn't have gone thru some stuff with out my baby. Linda, may this all go as smooth as possible and know that your MIL is in a better place...a place without pain. (((HUGS)))

 

[candiejayne]

I'm very glad that he is asking questions, it means that he is trying to understand it, and the questions are definatly that of a 6 yo. I'm sorry to hear that your FIL is having a rough time. I'm not sure if I could deal with losing my spouse and best friend all in one week.

 

[lacychef]

Thinking of your family today Linda.

 

[pamperedlinda]

thanks Lacy. Everyone practiced their speaches last night and SIL played the DVD of MIL's photos....it will be very sad - I hope DH can get through his part w/o breaking down. Everyone had to stop several times to compose themself.

SIL's bday is tomorrow and we are planning to go out to dinner together this evening.

 

[lacychef]

I can relate with your SIL. My cousin died right before my 18th bday, & the funeral was the day before my bday. I think of him often, but especially around then.

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Linda, I'm very sorry for this news. I am sending prayers your way, for your husband and for your entire family!

HUGS!

 

[pamperedlinda]

We're home. The funeral was very nice, @ 250 people were there. It was a sad event. Everyone seems to be coping pretty well though. Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. DS saw his first REAL snow and had a blast, I'll post a few pictures of that later.

 

[Kitchen2u]

Glad you're home safely....now the real healing will begin for all of you ~ more prayers for all of you!