How Are You Coping After Losing Your Baby?

[mountainmama74]

Sarah, I'm so very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

 

[loreo]

Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[minirottie]

My prayers are with you Sarah. I delivered my stillborn daughter Isabelle Sept 2, 2009. I went in for my induction that morning and they couldn't find a heartbeat. I'd been at the docs for a non-stress test the day before and she was still alive...If you'd like to talk, I'm here...it's incredibly painful. I hope you can find peace with it at some point. I channeled a lot of my grief into trying to make the world (or my small part of it) a better place.

 

[Dotty]

Sarah, my heart goes out to you and your loved ones. Please remember that we at Chef Success are ALL with you in this time of need. If there is anything we can do, just ask.

 

[kristina16marie]

I'm so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you during this difficult time. I can't imagine the pain you must be going through.

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds" Psalms 147:3

 

[LarissaRed123]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter at 20 months old. Hugs.

 

[Paula R. Lewis]

Sarah, I lost a baby too, and was only six weeks along, but it was pure agony for me!!
We already had a boy and a girl, and my hubby wasn't real sure he even wanted a third child at that point, so he hadn't even been able to get used to the idea yet.
God did bless us with another son, a year later.
My pastor sent me a card during that time, with a letter in it. I still remember his words, "Just know that things WILL get better, because they will!!"
I pray God's special healing will flow through your heart, body, and entire home!

Blessings,
Paula

 

[gailz2]

Giant, warm, pampered hugs for you and your family.

 

[pampchefsarah]

Hugs and prayers to you, from one Sarah to another, and to your family.

 

[sarahsellcm]

We named the baby Ehtan D.H. The D.H. stands for Dinosaur Hippo because my 3 year old named the baby that when we found out we were pregnant because I hate calling the baby "it". So because we got so used to calling him that we just used the initials to stand for that. Might sound dumb but we just all were so used to calling him our little dinosaur hippo so it seemed right.

 

[chefa]

What a precious memory. You and your family are in our prayers.

 

[lcucinella]

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

Lisa

 

[wadesgirl]

We named the baby Ehtan D.H. The D.H. stands for Dinosaur Hippo because my 3 year old named the baby that when we found out we were pregnant because I hate calling the baby "it". So because we got so used to calling him that we just used the initials to stand for that. Might sound dumb but we just all were so used to calling him our little dinosaur hippo so it seemed right.

it doesn't sound dumb at all!

By the way I remember one thing my sister struggled with afterwards was that people seemed to avoid her because they really didn't know what to say to her. I think it would have been easier had people just talked to her like normal but don't feel like you cannot approach people. Talk to them about the situation, especially if you are having a hard day. The friends and family close to you should provide a good shoulder to lean on.

 

[sherri lynn]

Wadesgirl, I have found this to be so true (that people avoid you b/c they are not sure what to say). After we lost our twins, I would bring it up to people, so they did not feel so awkward (I don't know if I'm explaining this very well). I think people want to say something to comfort, but are afraid of upsetting those of us who have lost even more. It felt like to me, that other people felt if they brought it up, it would just upset me even more. When actually, the reverse was true. I wanted (and still want) to know that people did not forget them, so bringing it up to me was and still is a comfort. I know every person is different, and not all of us react the same way to a situation. Sarah, you are in my thoughts often these past few days, and wish I could just give you a big hug

 

[wadesgirl]

Wadesgirl, I have found this to be so true (that people avoid you b/c they are not sure what to say). After we lost our twins, I would bring it up to people, so they did not feel so awkward (I don't know if I'm explaining this very well). I think people want to say something to comfort, but are afraid of upsetting those of us who have lost even more. It felt like to me, that other people felt if they brought it up, it would just upset me even more. When actually, the reverse was true. I wanted (and still want) to know that people did not forget them, so bringing it up to me was and still is a comfort. I know every person is different, and not all of us react the same way to a situation. Sarah, you are in my thoughts often these past few days, and wish I could just give you a big hug

Exactly! Apparently I was the only person my sister felt comfortable to talk to because she told me the same exact thing.

 

[minirottie]

Wadesgirl, I have found this to be so true (that people avoid you b/c they are not sure what to say). After we lost our twins, I would bring it up to people, so they did not feel so awkward (I don't know if I'm explaining this very well). I think people want to say something to comfort, but are afraid of upsetting those of us who have lost even more. It felt like to me, that other people felt if they brought it up, it would just upset me even more. When actually, the reverse was true. I wanted (and still want) to know that people did not forget them, so bringing it up to me was and still is a comfort. I know every person is different, and not all of us react the same way to a situation. Sarah, you are in my thoughts often these past few days, and wish I could just give you a big hug

Yup this was exactly it for me. If you're okay talking about it, let people know. I'm a very open person and I'd let them know I might cry but it was okay to discuss...and we still talk about her, have photos of her in our room, etc.

 

[cookinfletch]

Sarah, my heart goes out to you. You are now included in my prayers.

 

[tiggerhale]

Prayers for you and your family. I have many friends who have had similar experiences in the past - and several this year as well. It's simply heartbreaking - hold on to hope. May God wrap you up in his comforting peace.

 

[cathyskitchen]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so awful losing a baby - you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[lindseystar]

Wow! I am SO sorry to hear that, I couldn't even imagine...

Our thoughts are with you.

*hugs*