Saying Goodbye to My Mawmaw: Coping with Grief on Sad Saint Patrick's Day

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Discussion Overview

This thread centers around a participant's experience of grief following the passing of their grandmother, referred to as "mawmaw." The emotional challenges faced by the participant and their family are shared, along with reflections on memories and signs perceived during this difficult time.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, shares their emotional journey regarding the loss of their mawmaw, describing the ups and downs of her final days and the pain of letting go.
  • Several participants express condolences and share their thoughts and prayers for the grieving family.
  • Another participant recounts their own experience of loss on the same day five years prior, connecting through shared grief.
  • Some participants reflect on the blessings of having had their grandparents in their lives for a long time, emphasizing the importance of memories.
  • One participant mentions a comforting experience involving a beam of light at the time of their father's passing, relating it to the original poster's experience with clouds after their mawmaw's death.
  • Another participant appreciates the beauty of the cloud photo taken by the original poster, viewing it as a sign of comfort.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

There appears to be a general agreement among participants in expressing sympathy and sharing personal experiences related to grief, though no clear consensus on specific coping mechanisms or interpretations of signs emerges.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects a shared space for emotional support among participants, with many drawing on personal experiences of loss to connect with the original poster's situation.

Who May Find This Useful

Members of the consultant community who are navigating their own experiences of grief or seeking support during difficult times may find this thread relatable and comforting.

tabnat80
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My adorable mawmaw passed away tonight around 5. I haven't mentioned a whole lot on here about her the past week because it's been an emotional rollercoaster. One minute she was about the die, the next she was doing better. Ups and downs all week. Please keep me and my family in your prayers. We know it is for the best. She was in a lot of pain and had a lot wrong here the last month. I know she is in heaven with my pawpaw but it is still so hard to let her go. You know, I find peace in knowning that she isn't in any pain any more. I got to the hospital right after she died and when I went in to see her, I just had to get out. I went outside and sat on the curb and looked up. They sky was so incredibably blue and there were these two clouds. One looked like a huge angel. I took a picture with my phone just thinking how cool it was. When I showed my family, they said that it looked like and angel to them too. I believe it may have been one taking mawmaw to heaven. My poor mother is having a hard time. There are 6 kids and mom is the baby. She's always the one having to take the reigns. I know the next couple of days are going to be sad and hard on everyone. To add insult to injury, last MOnday her apartment's waterheater flooded and we had to go put all her stuff in storage so they could replace the carpet. It's just so sad. We don't even know where her mother's necklace is to bury her in. We've got to go dig through storage tomorrow. We just buried my pawpaw last year, ironically, the week of Easter. Go figure. Anyways, please keep us in your prayers. thank you so much.
 
{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and your family! Please know you will be in our thoughts and prayers in the coming days/weeks/months. When you need to vent or have a "shoulder" to cry on, we will be here for you!
 
I'm so sad to hear that. I'm so sorry for your loss.:( I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss.
 
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - may you find some comfort and peace with your family at this sad time.
 
Tabitha, I'm very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time.
 
I am so sorry for you!

I know all to well, that 5 yrs ago, on St. Patrick's day I found out my father died. And I can't believe its been 5 yrs.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. xoxo
 
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time!!
 
I am so sorry about your grandmother...but, just think how lucky you are to have been able to have her with you until you were an adult! I had my maternal grandparents around until I was 30-ish. The 'child' relationship is wonderful, but the 'adult' relationship is the gravy!
 
Take care during this difficult time. {{{hugs}}}
 
You are in my prayers.The cloud photo you took will be a comfort to you in the days to come.When my dad died in Iowa a few years ago, I was in my office & had this weird feeling. I got up to refill my coffee, but instead went to my living room window and looked out and in the middle of my back yard there was the strangest beam of bright light and at that moment I knew my dad was gone. I called the hospital, he had died a 5 minutes before. My brother didn't want to tell me yet (my mom had left the room to call me and I said it's ok I know he's gone) Extra hugs to your mom as she also deals with the anniversary of your grandfathers death. Rejoice in the Easter season and know her suffering is over.
 
I am very sorry for your loss.
 
Tabitha,
I wish I could take it all away. But know this, that in the end,
"God shall wipe away all their tears". Easter is coming for a reason. Think on that and in the mean time, all my faith and prayers go out to you. May her spirit never be far, and her maternal blood that runs in your veins warm your soul forever.
 
I am so sorry to hear this!
 
I'm praying for God's hugs for you and your family, Sweetie.

Blessings~
BeaLorene
 
Sorry for you loss, my thoughts are with you and your family in this time of grief.
 
May all your happy memories help you and your family through this incredibly difficult time. Sorry for your loss...
 
tabnat80 said:
My adorable mawmaw passed away tonight around 5. I haven't mentioned a whole lot on here about her the past week because it's been an emotional rollercoaster. One minute she was about the die, the next she was doing better. Ups and downs all week. Please keep me and my family in your prayers. We know it is for the best. She was in a lot of pain and had a lot wrong here the last month. I know she is in heaven with my pawpaw but it is still so hard to let her go. You know, I find peace in knowning that she isn't in any pain any more. I got to the hospital right after she died and when I went in to see her, I just had to get out. I went outside and sat on the curb and looked up. They sky was so incredibably blue and there were these two clouds. One looked like a huge angel. I took a picture with my phone just thinking how cool it was. When I showed my family, they said that it looked like and angel to them too. I believe it may have been one taking mawmaw to heaven. My poor mother is having a hard time. There are 6 kids and mom is the baby. She's always the one having to take the reigns. I know the next couple of days are going to be sad and hard on everyone. To add insult to injury, last MOnday her apartment's waterheater flooded and we had to go put all her stuff in storage so they could replace the carpet. It's just so sad. We don't even know where her mother's necklace is to bury her in. We've got to go dig through storage tomorrow. We just buried my pawpaw last year, ironically, the week of Easter. Go figure. Anyways, please keep us in your prayers. thank you so much.

Tabitha, I am so very sorry for your families loss. I will keep all of you in my prayers for sure. I hope your mother will be able to find peace through all this, knowing that her mother is happy, and in heaven with her husband.

Blessings and strength to you and your family during this very hard time.:(
 
Tabitha - so sorry to hear, but glad she isn't in any pain anymore.Feel blessed to have her so long. I lost my grandparents before I was born, in 1986, 1988, and 1996. I still have fond memories of all of them I knew though. Pull out the pictures and remember the fun times!I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers this week!
 
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Here are the pictures that I took. It was so strange. It was so bright and the sun was setting already pretty low behind the trees. This was taken with my camera phone so I hope it shows up here as clear as it did there.
 

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Thank you all again so much for your prayers. I really do appreciate them. I know tomorrow and Thursday are going to be very hard for us, but I do know that it's going to be ok.
 
Oh Tabitha~ That is beautiful! What a wonderful thing that you were able to capture it.:angel:
 
That is awesome. I know Jesus sent His angels to you to comfort you. Hang in there Tabitha.
 
wow those photos were amazing... what a nice memory for you to have... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What are some ways to cope with grief on a day that is typically associated with celebration, like Saint Patrick's Day?

It's important to acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to grieve. You might consider creating a personal ritual to honor your Mawmaw, such as lighting a candle, sharing stories about her, or preparing a dish she loved. Engaging in activities that bring you comfort, like spending time with supportive friends or family, can also help you navigate your emotions on this bittersweet day.

How can I honor my Mawmaw's memory on Saint Patrick's Day?

Honoring your Mawmaw's memory can be done in various meaningful ways. You could cook a traditional Irish meal that she enjoyed, share her favorite stories with loved ones, or participate in a community event that she would have liked. Creating a memory scrapbook or a photo album dedicated to her can also serve as a beautiful tribute.

Is it okay to feel joy while grieving on a day like Saint Patrick's Day?

Absolutely. Grief is a complex emotion, and it's natural to experience moments of joy even while mourning. Allowing yourself to enjoy aspects of the day, such as laughter with friends or fond memories, doesn't diminish your love for your Mawmaw. It's a sign of healing and honoring her life.

What should I do if I feel overwhelmed by grief on Saint Patrick's Day?

If you feel overwhelmed, it's important to take care of yourself. Consider stepping away from festivities to find a quiet space where you can reflect and breathe. Talking to someone you trust about your feelings can also provide relief. Remember, it's okay to seek professional support if your grief feels too heavy to bear alone.

How can I support someone else who is grieving on a day like Saint Patrick's Day?

Supporting someone who is grieving involves being present and listening. Acknowledge their feelings and let them know it's okay to express sadness. You might also offer to spend time with them, whether that's participating in a low-key activity or simply being there to talk. Small gestures, like bringing their favorite food or sharing a memory of their loved one, can also provide comfort.

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