Calling Local Couples: Etiquette for Weddings You're Not Invited To

[cmdtrgd]

I have found a website that lists some local couples that are getting married in the near future as well as their info. Would it be ethical to call them even though I have no connection with them? If so, what would I say?

 

[DebbieJ]

Does it list their phone numbers? If you have to look them up, I would be hesitant to call them.

I found some engagement annoucements and it lists their employers. I figured I'd send some wedding registry info to their work address and then leave it in their hands. I don't need to be "stalking" them.

 

[pcheframsey]

Where did you find the website? Does it just list the local engagements for your area, or will it list them for all areas?

 

[cmdtrgd]

It is just for my area. Is it kind of like a planning place.

 

[Chozengirl]

I found some local ones in my newspaper.
They gave the names and I did an email search.
So I emailed two ladies about the wedding registry.
Nothing back yet, but I put it out atleast

 

[SillyChef]

I am not sure where I would stand on this one. On one hand I know that if I go to a bridal faire and give the info to the consultant, it would be expected for them to call me. But to just have my name in the paper and get a call from someone, might weird me out a little. Especially if it was to my work?!

Maybe make a connection with someone at the newspaper and maybe they can pass along the info instead?

 

[jenniferp417]

I'd try to look up addresses and mail them something... but there's no way I'd feel comfortable calling...

 

[chefkristin]

I have to agree-that would weird me out a bit, especially if I didn't give out my info. Mailings would be ok though. That isn't so weird.

 

[vwpamperedchef]

On the flip side of this, when my engagement was in the newspaper (featuring both last names) I was looked up (my address) and someone was soliciting me to purchase china. Personally, I felt turned off, and annoyed that someone would do such a thing. I realize PC is different as it has a registry, but this woman was soliciting me to purchase her china. It was weird.

Anyway just thought Id share. I just try to get to bridal shows, and leave a registry brochure out when I take orders at a show. You never k now who knows someone getting married. =)

 

[amy07]

I don't think I would like someone to contact me like that either. It's bad enough that alot of places "sell" your information when you do business with them. Maybe you could see about advertising on that site?

 

[cmdtrgd]

All of you have had great advice. I kind of felt like I shouldn't do this, but didn't want to miss an opportunity if it was okay. I'm going to leave them alone but contact the website to see if maybe I can get my info (brochure, recipe card, catalog) in an info packet - if they send one out. Thanks for all the replies!

 

[raebates]

I have sent information to local brides to be in the past, but I never got any response.

If you've been here long, you won't be surprised that I feel a need to explain. We have, maybe, 2 or 3 engagments listed in our paper in any given week. Of those, 65% are to be held within the following 2 weeks (not enough time to register or hold a shower), and 25% are for brides and grooms that live far away. That leaves only a couple of announcements a month (if I'm lucky) to contact. What I did was send a congratulatory note. I explained that I saw their announcement in the such-and-such paper. I told them that TPC offers bridal showers and a wedding registery. I told them how to contact me if they wanted more information. I ended with my best wishes, whether they contacted me or not.

I never felt it was pushy, and I never had any complaints. Of course, I never had any responses, either.