Prayers Needed: My Dad is Back in the Hospital

[pamela]

I know we don't often post this kind of thing here on DCS, but I just need some prayers heading our way and you are all such a great support for me.
My Dad is back in the hospital and it just isn't looking good. His weight is only 113 lbs. and he is feeling OK, but they got a call from the oncologist last night that he needed to go to the ER asap as his kidney function is in question. He had been in her office Thursday and my guess is the lab results just got to her and his results prompted her to admit him again. I fear that with the kidneys getting involved as a problem, his body is just not able to handle much more trauma, which at this point is pretty much everything. He was supposed to have a PET scan Wednesday to see where the status of the lymphoma is, but I guess right now that is a moot point.

I am scared. My Mom is scared. She asked me this morning to have my DH come over and go into their attic to get my Dad's military uniform...he wants to be buried in it. This really is the first time in months that I have felt that we are nearing the end of his life, and that just makes me want to crawl in a hole and cry, cry, cry. Before now, I have always been the one seeing the silver lining and trying to bolster their spirits...now that kidney function is in question and he can't keep a good weight on him, it looks to me like his body has said "enough" and I can't see any good in anything.

Just please keep us in your thoughts and prayers for a positive outcome~and even if that means his passing, that we are strong enough to handle that. Thanks ya'll for letting me use you as a sounding board once again.

 

[PampMomof3]

Oh Meg just reading how you need to get the military outfit out made me cry and feel for you. I'm SO Sorry about your daddy and hope that his body gets another chance to prove the doctors wrong.

Please keep us updated.

 

[BethCooks4U]

Meg {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

You and your family are in my prayers. It's hard to deal with the prospect of losing a parent. Be strong and more important take care of you.

 

[finley1991]

Wow Meg... sending thoughts and prayers your way.

 

[ChefLisa]

Oh Meg, your post has moved me to tears. I will pray for all of you.

How long have your Mom and Dad been married?

 

[pamela]

Oh Meg, your post has moved me to tears. I will pray for all of you.

How long have your Mom and Dad been married?

30 years~the 2nd marriage for both of them. My parents divorced when I was 7 and my Father was in & out of my life for many years. He passed away this past November. The man I call my Dad (as there is a difference between a Father & a Dad!!) is actually my step-dad. He has known me since I was 8 and raised me. He has never NOT been there for me and my brothers & sisters. I actually talked to my brother yesterday before all this happened, and he was talking about how once when we were little, our Father was supposed to have him for the weekend to take him fishing. Now, my brother LOVES fishing. Father didn't show up....brother was seriously upset, so my Dad took him instead. This was even before my Mom married him! I always mention to people that anyone can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad. When I was about 8, my Father remarried and pretty much ignored all of us. Not to be judgemental, but we were put aside for him to concentrate on his new family. I had closet doors that were on a track, and they never would close properly. My Mom would tell my Father, over & over, "Margaret's closet doors are still broken" (it was bad enough that the door would fall out & hit me!)....weeks went by...no fix on the doors. One day, I came home from school and my closet doors were fixed! I asked my Mom if my Father had come to repair them and she said "no. Jeff (my stepdad) was worried that you would get hurt, so he fixed them"

gotta go.......can't typoe through the tears

 

[Mel5497]

(((gentle thoughts and warm prayers meg)))

 

[ChefLisa]

Well your Dad really sounds like a very special man. How wonderful that you, your mother and siblings have him in youf lives!

 

[cheftiffany]

Your family will be in my prayers!!

Those are great stories. He sounds like a fantastic man.

 

[cheftiffany]

I always mention to people that anyone can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad.

I say the same thing although it has more to do with the experiences of others like my husband than my own.

 

[chefkathy]

Meg, praying for you through the tears. (((HUGS)))

 

[pamperedlinda]

Hugs and prayers Meg.

 

[pamela]

I am a little better now~I went to the hospital to visit with my Dad and spoke with his nurse. He (the nurse) was very informative as to what is happening but no one really knows why it is happening. The kidney values have come down a tiny bit, but they will do those daily. He is on a renal diet to prevent him getting too much potassium, as that level was too high. His BP is too low. The kidney specialist ordered an ultrasound for tomorrow to see if there is any swelling in the kidneys, but that won't show why. I feel pretty strongly that his body is just totally out of whack due to the chemo treatments and his inability to eat. I am really unsure what, if anything, they can do for him to make that better. Treating cancer isn't for whimps, that's for sure.

I plan to head in there tomorrow to see what the ulltrasound shows...just going to take baby steps with this as well as my business. I am supposed to be doing New Consultant training AND our Cluster meeting tomorrow night and where I go is a 45 minute drive, so I have to get my act together for all of that tonight in order to be able to stay as long as possible at the hospital tomorrow......

Don't we have a call tonight???? What time????

 

[MORFIA]

hugs love and prayers---

 

[pamperedbecky]

Oh Meg, I'm so sorry to hear that!! Here's even more prayers and thoughts coming your way......

Hang in there!

 

[pamela]

Becky~I haven't forgotten your question about the chicken! Going to search for it now and post it for you!

 

[pamela]

update~Dad is doing well enough to complain! Had a renal ultrasound today and we should be hearing the results of that tonight or tomorrow. His hematocrit was low enough for a blood transfusion and he got a push of iron, so he shlould be feeling like Superman soon! No real news yet, so I am going over there tomorrow to see what cages I can rattle....it pays to have a former lab tech in the family! I can get info out of anyone~almost like the mafia!

 

[imported_iteachurkid]

Wow Meg, I am just seeing this post and am crying as I read it. I'm sending hugs and prayers your way. If I can do anything, please don't hesitate to let me know. Which hospital is your dad in? I'll be in the west end tomorrow afternoon if you want to meet for coffee to get out for a bit. Just let me know.

 

[pamela]

Thanks, Jen. He is in Johnston-Willis. My Mom talked to the oncologist last evening and she doesn't seem to know whay he is having renal problems anymore than any of the other docs, so we are just in a holding pattern right now. I think we should be hearing today about the renal ultrasound results, so keep your fingers crossed it is something as simple as he isn't drinking enough water!