What Do You Do to Get Rid of the Blues?

[pampchefrhondab]

I'm in a hurry and haven't read everyone else's responses, but I like to put on a good insperational CD - my favorite is Michael W. Smith Worship! Awesome! Always makes me feel so much better. I also like Amy Grant Hymns of Faith.

I sometimes read my favorite book - Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On by Stormie Omartian - WONDERFUL!

 

[janetupnorth]

ok, now you are all scaring me,

my daughter has had 2 of the 3 shots she turns 15 tomorrow
since shot #2 she has continuously had a headache, we've been back to the dr, have migraine meds for her now, I never thought about it being related to the shot.

I was against it in the beginning (because of its newness) but several good friends who are nurses and our dr. and my best friend who lost a mother to cervical cancer insisted she get it.

now, i'm second guessing myself and our decision

I'd have a serious chat with the doctors BEFORE she gets #3! Read up on what you can find on it. In my reading headaches were a warning sign...

I hope and pray she is fine!

 

[Kitchen Diva]

What are these shots people are talking about? Are they for cervical cancer? I'm sorry I just got lost when in the middle of what do you do to cheer yourself up I read about someone who's daughter died from migraine shots... I'm lost...

 

[janetupnorth]

What are these shots people are talking about? Are they for cervical cancer? I'm sorry I just got lost when in the middle of what do you do to cheer yourself up I read about someone who's daughter died from migraine shots... I'm lost...

Gardasil - the shot for HPV...

Usually given to teenagers...

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Oh, well that won't cheer me up!

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Gardasil - the shot for HPV...

Usually given to teenagers...

Oh, well that won't cheer me up!

 

[JAE]

I want to second, third, fourth, etc. the exercise and chocolate therapies. Even though I don't always feel like exercising, it usually helps me feel better for a while. I must add that vigorous exercise helps me more than not so vigorous. For me, that means a run/jog rather than a walk, but walking does clear my head a bit, too.

Actually, caffeine does help me feel better, but apparently when you come down from the caffeine "high" you feel more cranky. Doesn't stop me, but I thought I should at least give the warning. If you don't mind green tea, it is gentler than coffee or soda.

 

[Jean DeVries]

I run naked in the backyard.

And drink margaritas.

Actually, come to think of it, I do those in reverse order...

Hmmm....








...and yes, the backyard is fenced. But I've heard the neighbors are taking up a collection to have it domed.

 

[The_Kitchen_Guy]

I would think they wouldn't really mind, as long as it wasn't on Sunday.

 

[rennea]

I run naked in the backyard.

And drink margaritas.

Actually, come to think of it, I do those in reverse order...

Hmmm....

...and yes, the backyard is fenced. But I've heard the neighbors are taking up a collection to have it domed.

You addicts are all the same

 

[ChefBeckyD]

I would think they wouldn't really mind, as long as it wasn't on Sunday.

LOL!

 

[bsaxman]

Alcohol!!!!!!! :balloon: Just kidding. Actually, I find that jogging or exersizing will work miracles for stress and anxiety-- sometimes it requires much effort to drag myself out to do it, but afterwards I'm always glad I did. It releases those "Happy" Endorphins into your blood stream Oh goody!

 

[Kitchen Diva]

I run naked in the backyard.

And drink margaritas.

Actually, come to think of it, I do those in reverse order...

Hmmm....








...and yes, the backyard is fenced. But I've heard the neighbors are taking up a collection to have it domed.

I love you Jean! That just made me laugh so hard! Well it looks like if you need to cheer yourself up- just call Jean! She's better than chocolate and has less calories!

 

[stefani2]

Used to talk to a Counsellor (sp?) and take meds

To cope, now I:
Listen to music
Do something fun with my Kids (go to the park, zoo)
Do something for ME (pedicure, massage, chiro, etc.)
Plan a DATE NIGHT
Make a To-Do List
Organize to reduce my stress and anxiety
Educate myself on what I am going through (online, books, classes)
Practice practice practice my POSITIVE THOUGHTS
Practice practice practice my POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Make a Dream Board
Cut TOXIC people out of my life
Tell my mind to 'STOP' when I can't sleep at night because of all my thoughts

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Jenna, I like the part about cutting Toxic people out of my life. Of course I'd be mostly alone, but I like the idea! LOL

Kidding, I wouldn't be alone...

 

[janetupnorth]

Once again, that is very scriptural...I Corinthians 15:33 - "Do not be misled; Bad company corrupts good character."...and also relating to the commands to guard our hearts and minds...

 

[stefani2]

Yeah - I used to hang out with WAY TOO MANY Toxic and NEGATIVE people!

My family occ. would be VERY NEGATIVE - and lots of times I had to 'bubble' myself from their negativity. OR just point out something positive.

I also attended AL ANON and learned A LOT about 'letting go', 'acceptance', etc. LOVED IT - I SHOULD go back!

I still struggle with accepting that I CAN NOT TAKE ON OTHER PEOPLES STRESS - I can (just recently) listen to someone else vent and NOT take on their stress and problems.

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Yeah - I used to hang out with WAY TOO MANY Toxic and NEGATIVE people!

My family occ. would be VERY NEGATIVE - and lots of times I had to 'bubble' myself from their negativity. OR just point out something positive.

I also attended AL ANON and learned A LOT about 'letting go', 'acceptance', etc. LOVED IT - I SHOULD go back!

I still struggle with accepting that I CAN NOT TAKE ON OTHER PEOPLES STRESS - I can (just recently) listen to someone else vent and NOT take on their stress and problems.

Way to Grow, Jenna!

 

[stefani2]

Setting BOUNDARIES is really important too. That way, you don't get walked on or pushed around. I used to (and still do occ.) get taken advantage of.

When you are feeling 'blue'/feeling down/having negative thoughts - then SOMETHING IS OFF BALANCE. I have to look my Values, my life, my work, and see what is wrong. Once I have examined it, it helps to work on fixing the problem. Either way, practicing positive thoughts is ESSENTIAL.

Just know that you are NEVER ALONE! *hugs*

 

[Kitchen Diva]

Setting BOUNDARIES is really important too. That way, you don't get walked on or pushed around. I used to (and still do occ.) get taken advantage of.

When you are feeling 'blue'/feeling down/having negative thoughts - then SOMETHING IS OFF BALANCE. I have to look my Values, my life, my work, and see what is wrong. Once I have examined it, it helps to work on fixing the problem. Either way, practicing positive thoughts is ESSENTIAL.

Just know that you are NEVER ALONE! *hugs*

All very helpful info- you are very right. I also find pouring myself into my bible helps, too. Sometimes I just don't have the energy to open it, but am very glad when I make myself do it.

 

[stefani2]

It can be very hard and scary - but sometimes it is a person's past interfering with their present and future. I had to REALLY think about what past issues were continually making me spiral down - I was so sick of being sad ALL the time, or depending on meds, or having a negative effect on EVERYONE around me!
I had to take care of MYSELF FIRST! It was hard to do at first, because I didn't want to 're-live' and dive into those issues again. But I also realized that my past was going to CONTINUE to affect my present (my relationship with my DH, kids, family, and friends).
I decided to (ask Dr. Phil says), put my 'book of life' high up on a shelf - I won't ever forget the things that happened in my past - but I can CHOOSE to NOT read those same chapters OVER and OVER or even stay on those chapters. They are part of me and who I am today, but I don't need to dwell on them. I decided to get over them because it was NOT healthy!
I LOVE my life NOW - and I always tell myself 'I am strong enough to let go'

 

[ChefBeckyD]

It can be very hard and scary - but sometimes it is a person's past interfering with their present and future. I had to REALLY think about what past issues were continually making me spiral down - I was so sick of being sad ALL the time, or depending on meds, or having a negative effect on EVERYONE around me!
I had to take care of MYSELF FIRST! It was hard to do at first, because I didn't want to 're-live' and dive into those issues again. But I also realized that my past was going to CONTINUE to affect my present (my relationship with my DH, kids, family, and friends).
I decided to (ask Dr. Phil says), put my 'book of life' high up on a shelf - I won't ever forget the things that happened in my past - but I can CHOOSE to NOT read those same chapters OVER and OVER or even stay on those chapters. They are part of me and who I am today, but I don't need to dwell on them. I decided to get over them because it was NOT healthy!
I LOVE my life NOW - and I always tell myself 'I am strong enough to let go'

What a beautiful and articulate way of stating that! That is a powerful word picture!

 

[stefani2]

What ACCEPTANCE means:
-Replacing my rage and frustration with quiet patience
-Admitting that there are things I cannot change
-Putting an end ot my pain and struggles, and inturn - freeing my thoughts and energy to work on things I CAN change
-"Mind your OWN business"

~LETTING GO~
-To 'let go' to not to care FOR, but to care ABOUT
-To 'let go' is to not change or blame another. It is to make the most of MYSELF
- To 'let go' is not to FIX, but be SUPPORTIVE
-To 'let go' is not to JUDGE, but to allow another to be a human being
- To 'let go' is not to deny; but accept
- To 'let go' is not to regreat the past; but to grow and live for the future
- To 'let go' is to fear less and love


DETACHMENT
"I WILL let go of the problem which is destroying my peace of mind"

What DETACHMENT means:
- Detachment from my suffering. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to
- Essential to any healthy relationship between people
- Detachment promotes growth and less personal guilt


HAPPINESS:
"You need to let go of the past and start embracing the present for what it is RIGHT NOW."

"Happiness is when what you THINK, what you SAY, and what you DO, are in harmony." - Mohandas K Gandhi

1. STAY FOCUSED - LISTEN TO YOURSELF FIRST, AND OTHERS SECOND
Know WHAT you want to accept from others
Only accept advice that is in relation to where you want to go in life
2. NOTICE THE BEHAVIOUR OF OTHERS
Are you beginning to notice a lot of negative emotions to others?
Perhaps you should look for more positive companions
3. FOCUS ON LOVE
Give love in the form of a nice word, small surprises, etc.
Unconditional love is the centerpiece of your life


STRESS:
"Stress is unevitable, but you don't have to be a victim of it. You need to strength your inner resources such as courage, optimism, humility, humour, intuition, acceptance, and forgiveness. Always remember that your reaction to what is happening to you is actually causing your stress."

KACEY - it is ALL about baby steps and recognizing 'the little things' as goals