So I hate to be a downer here, but I can't help but be really disappointed in my mom...I just got engaged on Sept 29 and we are planning our wedding for Oct 16, 2010. My mom has been so uncaring about the entire thing. I am not sure how to handle her, but she is really bugging me and hurting my feelings and I would LOVE my cheffer friends' advice! Here are some of the things she has done/said: -when I showed her my ring, she said hmmm..that's pretty and then went back to watching tv...no hugs, no crying, no squealing, no "I'm so happy for you" etc. -a week after she told me that I was NOT allowed to remove family (extended) from my guest list to accomodate my friends...um... -same conversation she told me that she will NOT be paying for anything as she only ever planned to pay for two weddings and my sister was married twice (this is my first), the NEXT breathe she said, "The mother of the bride is the HOSTESS of the event". I thought, seriously, you won't pay for anything but you get to take credit for being the hostess? WTH?! -I didn't take her dress shopping with me, I just went the other day, I didn't even mention it to her b/c she quit talking to me, since the day she told me she wouldn't pay but is the hostess. But I ran into her in the store and showed her the pictures of my gown, to which she replied "mmmhmmm." a lady ran into her and she said in the most bored voice I have ever heard, "sorry she is showing me pictures of her wedding dress". Seriously! She is really bothering me and bringing me down. I have great anxiety over her ruining my entire day, and it is a year away. My mother is obviously someone who is a far cry from winning any mom awards, but still, what is her problem? Why can't I have a mom that is actually happy for me? I am FINALLY going to get married, have the most AMAZING man in my life who adores me and my daughter and my mother is like kryptonite to me right now. I don't get it and I don't know how to handle it. If I am this bothered by it with 11 months till the wedding...how am I going to get through the next year?! Help me!!! I need to have a talk with her but I don't know what to say, or how to say it...or if I should even care. But I will not tolerate her having this attitude for the next year towards me but taking over the "hostessing" of an event that I am working my butt off to make sure it is amazing. HELP!!!