Thinking of Quiting School Already

[Chef_2_Four]

It's not that school is to hard, it is to hard with FT work, and kids. DH does NOT help with house hold chores like he said he would. the kids cry for me when i am at school. when i try to do my homework they demand my attn. granted they are 2 or 3. i am seriously going to talk to DH about going back to school when he gets done. he has about a 1 1/2 yrs left. I just can't do it. I'm not trying to be oh poor april. I just got lectured by my MIL about getting onto the kids and its hard for them. i understand that but being a media clerk is not what i want to do for the rest of my life.

 

[nikkijo]

DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR MIL THIS TIME!!! if my MIL had her way every wife would be a stay at home mom.

I would sit down with your DH and talk to him about how important this is to you. Why should he get to go to school while you don't? It can be done!

One of my good friends is a single mom and went back to school when her daughter was 1 because she wanted a better career for herself that required additional schooling. She said it was very hard because of homework, papers and because she couldn't devote as much time as she would like to her child.

Well she graduated last year and said it was all worth it. She is so happy she did not give up. You shouldn't either!!!!

 

[apriljc]

Here is my advice to you about school. If you really want to go back to school don't let you MIL stop you. I have two boys ages 6 and 4. I also am married to a man who just doestn't quit working. My husband and I are both in school. He has class Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday nights. I have class on Tuesday nights. We both work FT jobs and my DH also works a PT job and mows for people too. He is hardly ever home, besides Tuesday nights. He says he helps around the house but I haven't really figured out by what he does. I really wanted to go back to school and get my teaching degree and so I thought if this is really what I wanted to do than I might as well do something for myself. Don't let other people stop you. The in-laws and my parents are somewhat supportive but I just don't really listen to them. I just like to brag to all of them when I do good and get a good grade. I like to rub it in their face a little. As for the studying it can be hard to deal with the house and kids but I do most of my studying after the kids go to bed or I make my DH take them for awhile.

 

[Chef_2_Four]

well I talked to DH about it. he immediately got all ticked off. i told him that it was hard with work, and everything. well he said oh you don't think its hard for me. (he works 2 days a week) and i replied well you have me to do the housework. whoops on my part he got really ticked after that! anyway he said that he was sorry for not thinking oh i need to put laundry in so I am going to start giving him a little list on the days that he isn't in school. 1 load a day or something so then on the weekends i'm not playing catch up with laundry, and homework. so anyway, i will tough it out! wish me luck!! oh by the way i want to be a media specialist which requires a masters so i will be in school for awhile!! anyway i think it will be ok. thanks for the support!!

 

[heather223]

Don't Give UP!! I currently work FT, do PC, and am going to an online college to get my teaching degree. I have a husband that does try to help around the house, but still doesn't do all that I need him too. It is very hard to find the time to study and do PC but I know in the end it will all be worth it. Sometimes I just have to not get as much sleep to make it all work. Believe me, you will figure it out and it will be worth it in the end.

 

[nikkijo]

Glad to hear that your DH is being supportive! Sometimes guys just don't think of everything that needs to be cleaned. My DH says make me a list and I will do it.....well I prefer not to cause then I feel like his mother. Good Luck and have fun in school!

 

[katie0128]

April - I know where you are coming from with the whole housework thing. DH is supposed to help and take care of the kids when I have PC stuff to do. (Mind you, I also have a PT job and when you add the time I'm transporting kids to my work time, I'm gone as long as I would be with a FT job.)

Anyway, I rarely get the office time that is "scheduled" on Wednesdays (yep - one day a week is all I'm allowed to have... DH is too busy for me to have any other "dedicated" time.) It is supposed to be from 7p until I get done. But since DH doesn't usually come home until 7:15p or later, then I have to get him dinner (since he couldn't possibly warm up his dinner and take care of the kids) and play with the kids while he is eating (again, he couldn't possibly eat while watching them play in the other room)... I'm lucky if I get to "work" by 8p. Then I'm interrupted more often than not and after the kids are in bed (which I have to help do), he complains if I want to keep working. My favorite is when he calls me at a show and tells me he is having a hard time with the kids and I need to come home as soon as possible!!! I should just ignore him when he calls, but the one time I did that, something really was wrong and I still haven't heard the end of it!

I finally got to the point that I decided that he really isn't going to be any help. So, I have quit trying to rely on it. I have made a list of what I need to do each day and don't really factor him into my schedule much. That way, when he does decide to be helpful or comes home on time... it is bonus time for me.