Should You Support Your Daughter's Direct Sales Party?

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The article discusses a dilemma faced by a mother, who is uncomfortable hosting a direct-sales party for her daughter, Amelia, despite wanting to support her. The mother feels that inviting friends for a sales event would create an obligation to buy, potentially straining friendships. Amelia argues that attendees can choose whether or not to purchase, indicating the mother’s concerns may not reflect the views of others. The response from Dear Abby highlights the growth of direct sales, noting that many people now recognize these events as promotional rather than social, leading to refusals of such invitations. The conversation also touches on varied opinions about the nature of these gatherings, with some affirming that they can still be enjoyable social events despite their sales intent. Overall, the article emphasizes the conflict between personal comfort in social obligations and the evolving landscape of direct sales parties.
pamperedlinda
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This article was in my Sunday paper:

Dear Abby: Daughter plans to host direct-sales party

Dear Abby: My daughter, "Amelia," recently joined the ranks of a "direct sales force." She has asked me to make arrangements so she can present her products to my circle of friends. I love Amelia beyond words and would do anything to support her, but I told her that in this instance I felt I would be betraying my friends by "using" their friendship.

In my opinion, hosting a "party" for the purpose of selling makes the invitees feel obligated to buy something whether they need it or not. I told Amelia I don't want to put my friends in that position. My daughter took immediate offense and told me I was way off-base because attendees are "free to purchase products -- or not -- as they choose." In other words, I'm the one with the hang-up and it isn't necessarily shared by others.

It upsets me terribly that my daughter is now angry and thinks I have abandoned her because I'm uncomfortable supporting this effort. She has another successful career, so this venture is not a matter of financial life or death to her. What should I do? -- In a Tough Spot in Illinois


Abby: Direct sales companies are rapidly expanding their forces these days, in light of the recession. And many people regard it as an attractive opportunity to replace lost income or hedge against job loss. According to USA Today, there are now roughly 15 million direct sellers in the United States.

With all that "partying" going on -- the objective of which is to sell, sell, sell -- many people have wised up to the fact they are promotional rather than social in nature and refuse the invitations. I see nothing wrong with inviting your friends, as long as they understand, in advance, the purpose of the party as well as the fact that you won't be personally offended if they do not choose to participate.


Do you think her daughter is selling PC now - she's in IL
 
pamperedlinda said:
Do you think her daughter is selling PC now - she's in IL

There are plenty of DS companies here, not just PC! It could be any company.
 
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DebbieJ said:
There are plenty of DS companies here, not just PC! It could be any company.

I know - it just struck me as funny. I have run into a few people like her, unfortunately.
 
I read this too....I thought she could have been a little kinder....
 
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Nanisu said:
I read this too....I thought she could have been a little kinder....

Abby or the mom? LOL

I didn't mean for this to turn into a debate - I just thought it was funny that the mom wrote to Dear Abby about it.
 
My mom would not write to Dear Abby, but this would be her if I pushed her to do a party. Just my opinion, but if I were Amanda I would lay off mom.

I like that Abby seems supportive but what upsets me is Abby's response about direct sales parties not being a social gathering but a marketing ploy. "many people have wised up to the fact they are promotional rather than social in nature and refuse the invitations"

Come on, Abby...have a party and tell me it's not fun!
 
I think people already have their opinions about home parties... either they like them and go or don't like them and don't go. I can't believe that reading this letter would change anyone's view either way.
 
This is true. Guess I won't call Abby to see if she wants to do a fall party!!!:approve:
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What are the benefits of supporting my daughter's direct sales party?

Supporting your daughter's direct sales party can boost her confidence and motivation. It shows her that you believe in her business venture, which can strengthen your relationship. Additionally, attending the party can provide you with an opportunity to learn about the products and potentially find items that you might enjoy or need.

How can I support my daughter without spending a lot of money?

You can support your daughter by attending her party and inviting friends and family to join. Even if you don't make a purchase, your presence can help create a positive atmosphere. Additionally, sharing her event on social media or helping her with promotions can also be valuable support without requiring financial investment.

What if I don't like the products being sold?

If you're not a fan of the products, it's still possible to support your daughter. You can focus on encouraging her and helping her with the logistics of the party. Your emotional support and enthusiasm can be just as important as making a purchase. You can also suggest ways she might diversify her offerings in the future.

How can I help my daughter prepare for her direct sales party?

Helping your daughter prepare can involve assisting with the setup, organizing the space, or even helping her practice her sales pitch. You can also help her create promotional materials or brainstorm ways to engage guests during the party. Your involvement can make her feel more prepared and confident.

What if I feel pressured to buy something?

It's natural to feel some pressure at a direct sales party, but remember that your support doesn't have to come in the form of a purchase. You can politely decline to buy anything while still being supportive. Communicate with your daughter about your feelings, and she will likely appreciate your honesty and understanding.

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