Why Must Life Be so Unpredictable?

[mommyhugz1978]

So for the past three months I have been without a cycle. My Life and emonitions of me thinking I am preganant were taken away from me yet again. See I have something called Polcysitc Ovarian Syndrome. So my body can go without a cycle for 2 or 3 months and give me the signs that Iam prengant when I am actually not. So I took everyones advice and went to the doctor yet again. I went last week for a regular check up told him what was going on. He said I want to do some blood work. If your not pregnant I want to find out why you haven't had your cycle. So a week later here we are. I went to the docs office this morning and found out that I am not pregnant. And being told that I have polycystic ovarian syndrome (again) that all of my hormone levels are exactly backwards. So I get to start taking a medicine called metformine that is commonly used for diabetics but it is supposed to help lowere your estrogen levels so you can ovulate and get pregnant. I promise myself that I would not cry in front of my doctor. I did good I didn't' cry at all I have been in pretty good spirits. UNTIL my family goes aren't you two jumping on the band wagon a little too soon.. you need to wait until your financially stable UH HELLO..... We make more than ample money though we are paying off some stuff still. BUT WHO ISN"T????? CAN I CRY YET????? cause I really want to right now. I want nothing more than to give my dear sweet husband a child of his own. AND I Can't do it... I don't' even know if I have it in me to get pregnant again. If their is anything to put a strain on a relationship again this would be it!!!!! Please keep us in your prayers... cause we need a few extra ones right now.:cry:

 

[tlennhoff]

*snugs* that stinks. I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[mommyhugz1978]

Thanks Tasha.... Life really sucks right about now...

 

[katie0128]

Sometimes your family can be the worst critics and cause the deepest emotional scars... I know I carry enough from mine!

 

[KellyTheChef]

Leah~

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
I pray that God has it in His plans for you and DH to have a child soon!
Ignore your family saying things they have NO BUSINESS saying...they are probably trying to help in their own way, but boy can people say things that are just dumb. Whenever someone says something to me that gets my defenses up, I try to stop- look and see if there is ANY validity to what they are saying- and then move on. If I need to change something, so be it, but if they are WAY off the mark, I try to chalk it up to their silliness.

Good luck with everything...glad you are working closely with your Dr. for this, too....

 

[mommyhugz1978]

It doesnt' help that I suffer from depression.....and when my family says and does things like they did today. IT just depresses me more.....

 

[Kathytnt]

Leah - Do a little research on boundaaries - Like I am one to suggest this but you may have to let your family know if they cannot be supportive you may have to limit contact. I know - easier said than done

Does the PCOS also have a tendancy to aggravate depression or cause some depression?

{{{HUGS}}} Sorry you are going through such a rough time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[chefann]

I'm so sorry, honey. I know you've been trying and hoping. And I ell terrible for you that your family would say such a thing to you. {{{hugs}}}

 

[ParishKitchen]

{{{Hugz}}}

I think I can relate to a lot of what you're going through, family issues included. I'm PM-ing you.

 

[mommyhugz1978]

Kathy,

PCOS can aggravate depression or cause it for reason such as not being able to get pregnant or feeling like your not normal. My DH keeps telling me that I am.... and not to worry about it. ( NORMAL that is) but well it doesn't' make it any easier.

A lot easier said than done on setting some boundaries with my family.. I work for my parents. So I see my family every day. I love them don't' get me wrong but I so did not need to hear this right now.

Leah - Do a little research on boundaaries - Like I am one to suggest this but you may have to let your family know if they cannot be supportive you may have to limit contact. I know - easier said than done

Does the PCOS also have a tendancy to aggravate depression or cause some depression?

{{{HUGS}}} Sorry you are going through such a rough time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[quiverfull7]

I'm saying a prayer right now for you and your husband... May God give you more strength that you even knew He could and may His peace surround you.

 

[PamperedTammy]

Leah--Hang in there! The bible says that our good Lord will not put more on us than we can handle. So just remember that and I will keep you in my prayers. Everything will work out the way it needs too, just don't give up!

 

[missydivine]

:angel: :angel: :angel:
:angel: Leah:angel:
:angel: :angel: :angel:
You are in my prayers!

 

[pamperedlinda]

Hugs Leah!
I feel for you girlfriend. Although I didnt have the medical issues that you do, I waited a LONG time for my DS. And yes, family just doesn't understand. They can be very insensitive and say things to you that they wouldn't dare say to anyone else. You will probable just have to tell them that you know they love you and want the best for you; however, you do not appreciate the comments that they have made. Its tough, but once you stand your ground hopefully they will back-off. If not, you've got us here that you can complain to!

 

[Tara1021]

Leah-
I know it's frustrating. DH and I are going through some fertility issues too. I too have PCOS and take Glucophage (metaformin). I used to have issues with my cycles, but found that when I dropped some weight (about 20lbs) my cycles started to normalize again. I suffer from depression as well. It gets better and you will conceive....The fertility isses are with dh and some surgery he had for hernias as a baby. We are going to visit a urologist in the next few weeks to see what he has to say. I'm taking the glucophage b/c the other pcos symptoms (cholesterol, weight) are my issue right now. I began taking it in May and had bloodwork again in July that showed improvement in my numbers. Hang in there!!!

Hugs!

 

[pchefjaime]

YOu are in my prayers. I am an OB nurse in real life pc for sport and fun!!! YOu will get pregnant!! Just sit back and go with the ride. I have hypothyroid which also leads to period issues. Once regulated we had no prob. Just do as told from Dr and then follow the course he tells you. If you have any ?'s feel free to ask me.

 

[momoftwins]

Leah - Big HUGS to you honey!!!! I do know what you are going through as I went through it myself (fertility issues, not PCOS, and family issues). What everyone has said before me I agree with 100%. If your family loves and cares about you and DH you should be able to tell them that you are having issues (if you are comfortable doing so) and to please not talk to you about it anymore as it upsets you (easier said than done).

Hopefully the metformin will help and if not, see what next step the dr wants to do. If he can't work with you anymore please please please go and see a fertility specialist. They WILL get you pregnant!!!!!

Please know that you and DH are in my prayers and I am always here for you!

 

[Jennie4PC]

Leah,
I am so sorry to hear about everything that is going on right now. From what you have said you have gotten a better guy this time around and he will love and support you no matter what happens:love:

 

[cookinmama]

If everyone waited until they were "financially" ready to have kids then there probably wouldn't be very many of us here today. So that aside I hope everything works out and you are able to have a wonderful bundle of joy because they are soooo worth it.

 

[etteluap70PC]

Leah... {{{{{ BIG HUG }}}}}

Family is tough! While we know they mean well the words can be very hurtful. I identify with you on this one soooooo much!

About the geting pregnant part it sounds like you are doing the right things. Try to bask in the fact that you are kicking but in your business. If you can try to be happy about the good things in your life more will follow.

Take care of yourself!

 

[krzymomof4]

I really feel for ya Leah. I am the poster child for not having kids at the most opportune time. With that being said, if I waited I would have 4 wonderful boys to run me into the poor house and drive me nuts.
My sister just went through this with her MIL. Her exact words to my sister were, "Are you stupid. I would have paid for your birth control!. You need another kid like both of you need another hole in the head!"
Needless to say that didn't go over very well.
God will do what is best. Pray for that. He knows what you can handle, he knows what he has in his master plan for you and your family. He might just be telling you to wait just a little bit longer.
Best of luck, and don't forget. The practice is the fun part!

 

[raebates]

Leah, I'm sorry. Fertility concerns can be disheartening, and people can be cruel because of their ignorance. You and your DH will be in my prayers.

 

[chefann]

That's horrible! Why do people think it's OK to say things to relatives that they'd never in a million years say to a stranger? I'd love to tell off my SIL, but I bite my tongue and am at least polite to her (well, except that I don't answer the phone when I see it's her number), which is more than I can say for how she treats everyone else.

Sometimes when family says things like that, all you can do is tell them, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is my life and if I choose to (have a child, get a tattoo, run naked through the streets), that's my decision."

 

[jrstephens]

Leah,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. I know it is hard to wait but remember all things come in God's timing. And I know it is easy for me to say that b/c I am not walking in your shoes and that is is easier said than done to say wait for God's time. But we know that He has things happen for a reason and that all things work to His glory. When you do conceive and have another child he/she will be all the more precious b/c of all you are going through right now.

I am praying for you and your health.

 

[RuthV]

Leah, first off (((hugz))). I, too, have PCOS. I was told three and a half years ago to loose 20 pounds and I'd probably get pregnant. Well that was 60+ pounds ago. I've had one miscarriage in that time but thats it. I have a six year old son and hubby and I have decided that we're not going to make our whole focus getting pregnant again. I am also bi polar(non-medicated by choice due to some side effects) so I fully understand depression issues. If we all waited until we were financially "situated" to have children then there wouldn't be many children. My experience has been that things happen when they're supposed to.