Seeking Guidance and Encouragement: My Issues with My Director

[chefann]

I'm getting teary-eyed here thinking how much we Cheffers love and support each other - more than our "natural" clusters, sometimes. I love that the initial reaction of everyone who has read Eric's story was the forum equivalent of "Oh, no she di'in't!" (You really need to see the finger wag and head bobble that goes with that. )

 

[Stampaholic1961]

Eric,
I don't mean to hi-jack this thread but years ago my uncle Chuck
married a woman with 4 kids. Their last name was McBean. The
kids are named Bonnie, Brian, Brenda & Barry. Just wondering if
there was any chance that there was a connection. Not sure if
McBean is a common name or not!!
Bev

 

[ericmcbean]

McBean is not that common. I have done extensive research on my family tree. We do have several distant relatives in the states. Primarily in Michigan and California. My great-great grandfather came to Michigan in
1857 from Scotland. My great uncle moved from Michigan to California. If you know anything else about them feel free to contact me. It would be exciting to find out if they are related to me.

 

[Stampaholic1961]

Eric,
I'll check with my mom to see if she knows anything
about them. All I know is my uncle Chuck married
Charlotte & she had the 4 kids. I haven't seen any
of the kids for over 20 years! They would probably
range in age from 45 to 53. Chuck & Charlotte live
in California. I'll get back to you when I hear from
my mom.
Bev

 

[Susan M]

I did the same thing you said here

work hard, promote to director & start having your own meetings
so you don't have to deal with her. Proving her wrong would be
the best revenge!!!
Bev

I had the same problem with my Director - no support and constant put downs. I was always angry and in tears every time I returned from a meeting. My husband said that it was in my best interest to do it on my own. So I did just that - I started recruiting like crazy, hold my own meetings now and haven't attended my director's meetings in a while. I am getting a lot of consultants attending my meetings and don't treat them the way she treated me. I also found a really great Director friend who lives upstate and we are on the phone constantly to each other giving each other words of encouragement as she has the same director issue. We have both grown a great deal since we adopted the new attitude that we don't need anybody else to succeed in this business - it was all up to us and we took on the challenge to be successful on our own and started to grow in a way we weren't before.

Don't stop the business because of her - because then she succeeded. I have met other straight guys in this business and they are very successful. It takes a lot of nerve on her part to make such a calous remark. Shame on her for her derrogatory remarks - she is a poor example of a director - you are special person who can make a difference in the world and don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Find others who can encourage you and be a great mentor and you too will grow your business!