Kitchen Diva
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Hi guys!
I need some advice. Because in several areas of my life I am a logical person I have a VERY hard time when people don't do things that are logical.
Here is my example. DH is fairly overweight. He gained lots of it when he quit smoking and developed chronic breathing issues as a result of the weight gain and cigarette smoking, so he has to take steroids every day- they are low dose, but they've added to his weight gain. He is about 65 pounds too heavy for his short Italian frame.
He has a bad back- which he does nothing to take care of it, and when he throws it out, he uses my drugs (that I have left over from when I throw my back out and I take care of my back) and refuses to go to the doctor because "It'll be fine in a day or so".
We we are going on 2 weeks and he's grunting with every move he makes and just came up to get more medication (please don't get on me about him taking my pills, they are the same dose his doctor gives him, and I'm more upset that he's using my stash that I might need in the future which makes me have to call and get more than I am over the fact that he needs them to help with the pain)
Anyway logic tells me if you hurt GO TO THE DOCTOR! I'm so upset with him right now, and anything I say will be conceived as nagging and I don't know what to do. He also needs to use a back brace when he does heavy lifting and never does and always hurts his back.
I'm tired of his medical needs not being a priority and that he fails to see that they should be because he has a wife who is 9 years younger than him and doesn't want to be a widow. I'm also frustrated because if he'd lose weight he wouldn't snore so bad so that we don't have to sleep in separate rooms...he refuses to sleep on a bed in the spare bedroom and still sleeps on the couch which is making his back worse. I'm so ticked off at how stupid that is and how foolish he's being I could spit! Grrrr
Help me figure out how to get him to go to the doctor...what do I say? What do I do? I should just send the Holy Spirit after him...that'll teach him to mess with his spirit filled wife and tell her he isn't going to the doctor!
HELP me before I choke him (figuratively speaking that is) :grumpy:
I need some advice. Because in several areas of my life I am a logical person I have a VERY hard time when people don't do things that are logical.
Here is my example. DH is fairly overweight. He gained lots of it when he quit smoking and developed chronic breathing issues as a result of the weight gain and cigarette smoking, so he has to take steroids every day- they are low dose, but they've added to his weight gain. He is about 65 pounds too heavy for his short Italian frame.
He has a bad back- which he does nothing to take care of it, and when he throws it out, he uses my drugs (that I have left over from when I throw my back out and I take care of my back) and refuses to go to the doctor because "It'll be fine in a day or so".
We we are going on 2 weeks and he's grunting with every move he makes and just came up to get more medication (please don't get on me about him taking my pills, they are the same dose his doctor gives him, and I'm more upset that he's using my stash that I might need in the future which makes me have to call and get more than I am over the fact that he needs them to help with the pain)
Anyway logic tells me if you hurt GO TO THE DOCTOR! I'm so upset with him right now, and anything I say will be conceived as nagging and I don't know what to do. He also needs to use a back brace when he does heavy lifting and never does and always hurts his back.
I'm tired of his medical needs not being a priority and that he fails to see that they should be because he has a wife who is 9 years younger than him and doesn't want to be a widow. I'm also frustrated because if he'd lose weight he wouldn't snore so bad so that we don't have to sleep in separate rooms...he refuses to sleep on a bed in the spare bedroom and still sleeps on the couch which is making his back worse. I'm so ticked off at how stupid that is and how foolish he's being I could spit! Grrrr
Help me figure out how to get him to go to the doctor...what do I say? What do I do? I should just send the Holy Spirit after him...that'll teach him to mess with his spirit filled wife and tell her he isn't going to the doctor!
HELP me before I choke him (figuratively speaking that is) :grumpy:
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