I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me Anymore...

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Discussion Overview

This thread features participants expressing feelings of overwhelm and stagnation in their business pursuits, particularly in relation to becoming a director within Pampered Chef. Many share personal experiences of struggling with motivation and managing various responsibilities, including family and household tasks.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant expresses feeling lost and unproductive, struggling to manage business tasks and personal responsibilities, including pregnancy-related challenges.
  • Another participant shares a similar experience of being in a slump, noting that they often regain momentum after completing shows.
  • Several participants mention feeling overwhelmed by various commitments and responsibilities, attributing their struggles to external factors like a long winter.
  • One participant identifies with the feelings of stagnation and expresses a desire to improve their situation but struggles to take action.
  • Another participant reflects on the possibility of depression, sharing their past experiences with counseling and the impact of hormones on their feelings of overwhelm.
  • One participant notes the importance of taking small steps and rewarding oneself for accomplishments to combat feelings of being overwhelmed.
  • Another participant highlights the isolation felt in their business journey, lacking local support from peers in Pampered Chef.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ among participants, with some acknowledging the potential for depression while others focus on external factors contributing to their feelings of overwhelm. No clear consensus emerges regarding the root causes of their struggles.

Contextual Notes

Participants share personal experiences related to balancing business goals with family and household responsibilities, particularly in the context of pregnancy and seasonal challenges.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants experiencing similar feelings of overwhelm or stagnation in their business may find resonance in the shared experiences and perspectives within this discussion.

KellyTheChef
KellyTheChef
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I don't know what my problem is. My goal is still to become a director, yet in the past month I have done NOTHING for my business. I have been late getting out host packets, my host coaching is non-existant, and I am sitting here wishing I didn't have to go to a show tonight.

Aside from that, my house is a mess, I have not reconciled our bank account and really "did bills" other than paying what I know is due, and the list goes on and on. Even my BSF bible study, which I worked so hard to get into...I haven't worked on it in weeks. I can't blame it all on the pregnancy, either, cuz this has been going on for longer than I have been preggo.

I just feel so lost and I don't know what to do.

I have a show scheduled for SATURDAY that I haven't even sent her one thing or even talked to her since scheduling it over a month ago.

What the heck is my problem?:confused: :confused:
 
We've all had those "slumps" the good thing is we usually get back into the momentum once we do a few shows. I am like that sometimes (and def. not preggo) but I think its because my shows are far apart.

Hopefully youll get back into it once Sat. show comes and goes!!
 
Your problem is a very long winter and too much to do. Once you get that "overwhelmed" by everything around you feeling it is hard to crawl out and do anything.Find something you really enjoy, make yourself a lists of tasks and when you accomplish them, give yourself a reward. Break things into smaller piles so you feel more accomplished.I'll pray that you feel rested and refreshed and can get stuff done!!!!Get some fresh air with Evan in between things...
 
I am with you in this boat! I have the same goal! I have been working so hard to get there and now a month has gone by and I havent done anything to pick myself up! My May is desperately going to pay for this! I need to get my June packets out soooooo bad! I keep telling myself... tomorrow, tomorrow... well how many tomorrows are going to whiz by without me mailing out my stuff!? I do think it has a lot to do with the long winter. Sigh
 
Oh Kelly are you a mind reader? I have felt the same for the past month at least! I am feeling very overwhelmed. I was hoping to drop one of my comitments but it can not happen right now.

I feel like I do not want to do anything. I feel like I am getting no where in my business. Hubby and I are going thru some issues. Where does it end?

I feel for you! Wish I could snap my fingers and snap myself and all of going thru this out of this funk!
 
Arn't you in your first trimester?

Give yourself time, I'm sure you'll snap back. Your body is using your energy to create a new little person. I bet in just a few weeks you'll be getting back to your normal attentive to detail self.

Weren't like this during your last pregnancy? If not maybe your baby is a differant sex than the other.
 
I have felt the same way! I feel like I'm just kind of floating along doing the minimal I can...and the guilty part of me screams "WHY ARE YOU JUST SITTING THERE??" I'm gonna start a list of things to do and get them done! Thank you Janet for that suggestion
 
Sounds like you have A LOT going on, Deb, with pregnancy, small child, household accounting responsibilities, and your goal to make director.

I agree with Janet. Take one step at a time - starting with the fundamentals for all Consultants, basics of taking care of your house/child, and most of all, take care of yourself. The rest will fall into place.
 
KellyTheChef said:
I don't know what my problem is. My goal is still to become a director, yet in the past month I have done NOTHING for my business. I have been late getting out host packets, my host coaching is non-existant, and I am sitting here wishing I didn't have to go to a show tonight.

Aside from that, my house is a mess, I have not reconciled our bank account and really "did bills" other than paying what I know is due, and the list goes on and on. Even my BSF bible study, which I worked so hard to get into...I haven't worked on it in weeks. I can't blame it all on the pregnancy, either, cuz this has been going on for longer than I have been preggo.

I just feel so lost and I don't know what to do.

I have a show scheduled for SATURDAY that I haven't even sent her one thing or even talked to her since scheduling it over a month ago.

What the heck is my problem?:confused: :confused:
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Have you thought about the fact that it could be a legitimate depression? There's certainly nothing wrong with it or any stigma about it, and if it is, it's not your fault. But losing interest in things that you once enjoyed doing is a telltale sign. You might want to talk to your doctor about what you are going through and see what he says. Especially since you said it's been going on since before you were preggers, it just may be the case. What's the harm in getting it checked out?
 
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leftymac said:
Have you thought about the fact that it could be a legitimate depression? There's certainly nothing wrong with it or any stigma about it, and if it is, it's not your fault. But losing interest in things that you once enjoyed doing is a telltale sign. You might want to talk to your doctor about what you are going through and see what he says. Especially since you said it's been going on since before you were preggers, it just may be the case. What's the harm in getting it checked out?
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I have seriously considered this. I have seen a counselor about 4 times in the past 3 years, but I don't feel like she is helping me. Perhaps I need to see someone else. I know that my mom suffered (probably, never diagnosed) with depression so that scares me. I need to call and make an appointment. Thanks for bringing it up and reminding me.

I know that some of my feelings of being overwhelmed are due to my hormones (I can even SEE when I am over reacting to something...but can't stop it) but like I said, a lot of this has been going on since BEFORE I got preggo (actually getting worse over the past few years) so I know that it's not all stemming from my pregnancy.
 
KellyTheChef said:
I have seriously considered this. I have seen a counselor about 4 times in the past 3 years, but I don't feel like she is helping me. Perhaps I need to see someone else. I know that my mom suffered (probably, never diagnosed) with depression so that scares me. I need to call and make an appointment. Thanks for bringing it up and reminding me.

I know that some of my feelings of being overwhelmed are due to my hormones (I can even SEE when I am over reacting to something...but can't stop it) but like I said, a lot of this has been going on since BEFORE I got preggo (actually getting worse over the past few years) so I know that it's not all stemming from my pregnancy.
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That thought crossed my mind too Kelly - especially with the long winter but focused on that rather than nailing you with "I think you're depressed". Leave it to Keith to be direct. :)

Although there is clinical depression and I believe that, I truly believe that most of us are focusing on us too much and not letting Christ fulfill our needs. I pray that you find the source of your lacking and un-motivation and that you find joy soon.

Keep us posted and let us know if you need encouragement - we're all here for that!
 
WOW,,, So many of us just feel so overwhelmed with everything. I agree with all of you on how I feel alot of the times too,, I know what needs to be done for my business but I have a very hard time getting started. I am all alone in my business. No friends that are in PC that live close to me that we could work together on this. I want to become a director so badly but if anyone is looking at me as how great they can be , I am not a very good role model. Alot of my problem is that I keep my grandkids alot,, the newest granddaughter 4 days aweek and now her mom is expecting again and I know she expects me to keep him too when he is born in August. I can't say no to any of my children, when they need my help. My oldest daughter is forever telling me,, mom you have to treat this like a business, set business hours, learn to say No, and stick to it. My office looks like a bomb hit it.. I have papers everywhere,, stuff everywhere. I want to just sit and cry and cry and cry and feel sorry for myself,,, So Kelly, you are not alone. I am 56 years old, the mother to 5 wonderful children and soon to be 9 grandchildren and I feel like a failure because I have gotten my business going. I can not wait for conference, I need a boost so badly. Thank you to all of you for listening,, and Kelly, I hope you and all of us can get our act together.
 
Have you checked your iron lately? I tend to feel tired and don't want to do things when my iron is low? Just a thought!

Get the rest you need and do one thing at a time, rather than looking at the big picture of EVERYTHING that needs to be done!

Take care! Spring is on its way, girl!
 
I kinda know what you mean Kelly.....I've been in a bit of a slump too...I agree with Janet though---too long of a winter doesn't help matters any, plus we've been so busy around here with kids' stuff. I think this weather starting to finally stay warmer will help us all out! I'll be thinking of you:)
 
I agree with all that was said above, just want to add one thing... don't beat yourself up over what you have not accomplished. Just jump back in where you are to achieve the things on the list Janet told you to make. I am proud of you!
 
I would also think hard about going to your Doctor, and finding a new counselor, (maybe a clinical psychologist). If this is not a clinical depression, then what have you lost, but if it is, they will be able to get you the help you need. Especially with a baby on the way, the last thing you would need is a bout of PPD. And if you are a little depressed, they will be able to help you manage things and get it under control before the baby comes, and keep an eye on you afterwards. I hope this doesn't sound too negative, I just know how hard this kind of stuff can be! My DH tends to be prone to depression (usually mild), and sometimes just talking it out with a good counselor (or spouse!) can help alot. Hopefully this is just the winter blahs! And I totally agree, get outside, get some fresh air and sunshine (not that there is much of that in our area right now!) and try to get some (mild) exercise - that can work wonders with both the blah's and depression :)

And as Janet said, bring it to the Lord and pray! Also, let your DH know how you're feeling, if you haven't already. Although he may feel a little helpless, it is important for him to be able to be by your side, and possibly even get counseling too if he needs it to know how to help you!

Again, I hope this doesn't sound too negative, and I hope it helps a little. If you ever want to get out of the house, your welcome to take a short drive to Medina! I'd love to meet you for real :)

One last thing. My DH has said that his experience in college with depression really made him come closer to God and rely on Him, because he couldn't do it himself. So over all, while not a fun thing to go through, it was a good thing for him. Also made him realise that his worth was not based on his achievements or what he could or couldn't do, but on being a child of God. Something we could all do to remember, especially when feeling overwhelmed with all that life throws at us! :)
 
Kelly,
I agree with everyone else. Go get a check up at your doctor. Complete physical and everything. And make sure to tell them what's been going on. I went through the same slump in March and have been doing so much better since going to see my doctor. They did a bunch of tests (blood, EKG, etc) but everything came back normal so he decided that since all the tests came back normal that I was going through a bout of depression and put me on medication to help with it. And boy has it helped! Plus it felt good to finally get everything off my chest and deal with it instead of hiding it!
 
Kelly... I'll PM you later but go right away and ask your Doc to check your Thyroid Levels... too busy to add right now but I'll get back to you.
Love you loads!
 
WOW - this thread has totally hit home for me! Business wise, I had a goal - and well - I haven't done a thing to get it done - I agree its the winter blues and pressure of owning our own business, plus running every weekend to 6 - 8 games with the kids sports (we won't even mention weekday practices and games!) I feel like there isn't enough time - and honestly - I don't feel like it at times as well - I have 3 shows scheduled this week (which is alot since I really only do 4 - 6 a month!) Host coached only 1 so far - and don't even feel like doing it! I have conference all booked, but am rethinking going now since I feel like I am only going to see my friend, have fun with the clustermates and well of course meet you guys!

Not helping am I?? Well, thanks Kelly for this thread and letting the rest of us know it wasn't just us!! Maybe we can all help eachother!!
 
Kelly I swear you having been reading my thoughts or been watching me the last few months. I have been feeling the same exact way!

I was just telling DH I am in this really weird funk and can't get out of it. My May is/was packed with shows, however, I don't even know how many will still hold, because I haven't called one of them. :(

I do agree that you should go to the doctor and tell them what is going on and get the help you need.
 
I'm there with all of you too!
 
Must be something in the new Greek Rub...
























Just kidding - I had to get SOME humor into this!!!!
 
Just pretend I'm Cher's character in Moonstruck.....SNAP OUT OF IT!
(I've always wanted to use that line!)

Okay, now back to being serious. You really do need to talk to your doctor. It could be, as others have suggested, your iron, thyroid, preggy-hormones, or even just too much on your plate. I read an article this past week that these days Americans are cramming 31 hours worth of activy into a 24 hour day. I can absolutely relate to that. May is busy busy busy! It seems like as soon as the weather gets beautiful the calendar is FULL!

Take care of yourself and see a doctor. If it helps, you KNOW we love you!

Hugs!
 
Oh good one Janet! Can always count on you to bring a smile to our faces!! Thanks for the giggle!!
 
Wow! I thought I was the only one feeling this way. I was diagnosed with PPD after I had my son (just over a year old). My midwife prescribed Zoloft which I am still on but lately I've been feeling lethargic and unmotivated. I haven't done any host coaching, CC calls, or anything else to help my business. I'm not much help but its nice to know I'm not alone.
 
Gosh Kelly, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through.
I have been feeling the same way ( sounds like alot of us are).
Hang in there, I am trying to get myself out of a slump, I had a great April
and am not motivated for May at all.
On another note, I went through a depression when I was pregnant with my
3rd child and I went to my ob and talked to him about it. I came out of it, I was just very overwhelmed. You'll make it through :)
I told my DH that I feel like a hamster in that little wheel just spinning and spinning and getting nowhere. He said 95% of the world feels like that???
Take care of yourself :)
 
Welcome to PREGNANCY!!! lol. I know you have done this before, but I think it is so easy to forget how we really feel!!! I was pregnant just a year ago, and I still give myself a hard time for not being right on top of everything!

I cannot keep my laundry done, or my house clean at all!

Give yourself a break during this time!!

Melissa
 
I just got this in an e-mail & thought of all of you on this post. I'm actually feeling good right now, but was in a funk in January. God's blessings on you!

HANDY LITTLE CHART
God has a positive answer:
YOU SAY GOD SAYS BIBLE VERSES
You say: 'It's impossible' God says: All things are possible (Luke 18:27)
You say: 'I'm too tired' God says: I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28-30)
You say: 'Nobody really loves me' God says: I love you (John 3:1 6 & John 3:34)
You say: 'I can't go on' God says: My grace is sufficient (II Corinthians 12:9 & Psalm 91:15)
You say: 'I can't figure things out' God says: I will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5- 6)
You say: 'I can't do it' God says: You can do all things (Philippians 4:13)
You say: 'I'm not able' God says: I am able (II Corinthians 9:8)
You say: 'It's not worth it' God says: It will be worth it (Roman 8:28)
You say: 'I can't forgive myself' God says: I Forgive you (I John 1:9 & Romans 8:1)
You say: 'I can't manage' God says: I will supply all your needs (Philippians 4:19)
You say: 'I'm afraid' God says: I have not given you a spirit of fear (II Timothy 1:7)
You say: 'I'm always worried and frustrated' God says: Cast all your cares on ME (I Peter 5:7)
You say: 'I'm not smart enough' God says: I give you wisdom (I Corinthians 1:30)
You say: 'I feel all alone' God says: I will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)

It looks a lot better in a table.
 
janetupnorth said:
That thought crossed my mind too Kelly - especially with the long winter but focused on that rather than nailing you with "I think you're depressed". Leave it to Keith to be direct. :)

Although there is clinical depression and I believe that, I truly believe that most of us are focusing on us too much and not letting Christ fulfill our needs. I pray that you find the source of your lacking and un-motivation and that you find joy soon.

Keep us posted and let us know if you need encouragement - we're all here for that!
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Janet, I agree with what you said... Kelly, I pray that the spirits of depression, sadness, etc be lifted from you, and I will pray the fruits of the spirit over you. I claim joy for you in the Name of Jesus. I pray that you will be able to find rest in Jesus, and in that rest, start to feel like yourself again.

Having gone through a severe hormonal imbalance for years, I understand what it is like to not feel like myself and to feel off. You may just be really low in a certain hormone, too! I think speaking to a doctor wouldn't be a bad idea.

I hope you will be able to find your joy again, and find the desire to start doing the things that you have been falling behind in. I wish I could come over and give you a hug and pray with you. I feel for you and will be lifting you up in prayer my little cyber fan! :)
 
crystalscookingnow said:
I just got this in an e-mail & thought of all of you on this post. I'm actually feeling good right now, but was in a funk in January. God's blessings on you!

HANDY LITTLE CHART
God has a positive answer:
YOU SAY GOD SAYS BIBLE VERSES
You say: 'It's impossible' God says: All things are possible (Luke 18:27)
You say: 'I'm too tired' God says: I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28-30)
You say: 'Nobody really loves me' God says: I love you (John 3:1 6 & John 3:34)
You say: 'I can't go on' God says: My grace is sufficient (II Corinthians 12:9 & Psalm 91:15)
You say: 'I can't figure things out' God says: I will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5- 6)
You say: 'I can't do it' God says: You can do all things (Philippians 4:13)
You say: 'I'm not able' God says: I am able (II Corinthians 9:8)
You say: 'It's not worth it' God says: It will be worth it (Roman 8:28)
You say: 'I can't forgive myself' God says: I Forgive you (I John 1:9 & Romans 8:1)
You say: 'I can't manage' God says: I will supply all your needs (Philippians 4:19)
You say: 'I'm afraid' God says: I have not given you a spirit of fear (II Timothy 1:7)
You say: 'I'm always worried and frustrated' God says: Cast all your cares on ME (I Peter 5:7)
You say: 'I'm not smart enough' God says: I give you wisdom (I Corinthians 1:30)
You say: 'I feel all alone' God says: I will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)

It looks a lot better in a table.
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Crystal, my Mom emailed this to me about a year ago! I printed it up on photo paper, and did some different colors for the God Says, You Say...and I hung it by my desk! It's a great daily reminder!
 
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