Help! How to Get Rid of an Unwanted Host

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Discussion Overview

This thread discusses experiences with overly persistent hosts in the context of Pampered Chef shows. Participants share personal anecdotes about hosts who frequently contact them, often leading to feelings of frustration and overwhelm.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, describes a host who calls daily and expresses frustration over the lack of boundaries despite polite requests.
  • Another participant shares their experience with a "Looney Toon Host" who continues to call long after the show, often asking unusual questions about product usage.
  • Several users mention feeling overwhelmed by hosts who do not respect personal time and continue to reach out outside of business hours.
  • One participant notes that their host's persistent communication is likely due to loneliness and suggests that signing her up might help her engage with others.
  • Another participant reflects on the challenges of maintaining professionalism while dealing with overly enthusiastic hosts.
  • Some participants discuss strategies for managing communication, such as setting clear business hours and using personal phones for work-related calls.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ on how to handle persistent hosts, with some participants suggesting signing them up to provide structure, while others express concern that this might exacerbate the situation.

Contextual Notes

Participants share experiences from their roles as consultants, highlighting the challenges of balancing professionalism with personal boundaries in client relationships.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants facing similar challenges with persistent hosts may find shared experiences and strategies helpful in managing their own situations.

oy vey!!!
I wouldn't spot her a dime...and if I ended up spotting her i'd have it shipped to MY house and hold it til she pays up.
 
yeah...do not "spot" her..you'll never see your money again. Even though it's not much. I'd give her till tomorrow or MONDAY at the latest telling her that you would hate to have to call her friends and cancel the orders.
That might kick her butt into gear. She does sound very lonely but you've got to hold your stance because she also sounds like someone who takes advantage of every situation to THEIR advantage.
Be firm but polite and do not give up....when she see's she's not getting any friendship OR leway she'll give up and move on to her next victim of circumstance. LOL
 
dannyzmom said:
oy vey!!!
I wouldn't spot her a dime...and if I ended up spotting her i'd have it shipped to MY house and hold it til she pays up.
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I've done that for a friend of mine. You really have to be careful about doing that. I had her order for over a month and came very close to keeping/returning the products. She wasn't happy that I wouldn't give it to her without payment; esp. since she came to my house to pick up everyone's order and didn't get hers. She understood why, but couldn't do anything right away to fix it.

She's probably got $12.94 in bottles or could collect that much if she wanted....
 
I had another thought....I'm famous for speaking out of emotion and then thinking it thru later....LOL!
Maybe spotting her would be worth it...here's how...
See, ppl like that whom take advantage of ppl and every situation to benefit themselves KNOW they are doing it. You also hardly every hear from them again when they've taken advantage of you....get why it may be a good thing??? :D
So, you may have to decide what is more important...$12 and keeping HER friends happy with their products AND not having to have much contact with her....
OR
Not spotting her, letting her continue to try to take advantage of you in every situation, and possibly having to do it anyway because you'd rather not cancel her order and piss of her friends which may be potential clients of yours.
 
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crazy4dabug said:
I had another thought....I'm famous for speaking out of emotion and then thinking it thru later....LOL!
Maybe spotting her would be worth it...here's how...
See, ppl like that whom take advantage of ppl and every situation to benefit themselves KNOW they are doing it. You also hardly every hear from them again when they've taken advantage of you....get why it may be a good thing??? :D
So, you may have to decide what is more important...$12 and keeping HER friends happy with their products AND not having to have much contact with her....
OR
Not spotting her, letting her continue to try to take advantage of you in every situation, and possibly having to do it anyway because you'd rather not cancel her order and piss of her friends which may be potential clients of yours.
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I think you and Carolyn are both right.......the $12 out of my pocket is nothing compared to ticking off everyone who placed their orders, and ruining my reputation right out of the gate. So, I've decided to pay it, and have everything shipped to me. And just to make sure her guests receive their items, and don't end up in her cabinets I'll deliver them. They are all in my general area, so it's really not that big of a deal.
You know, the funny thing is........she hasn't called me since asking this. Hmmmm.....
 
amy07 said:
I think you and Carolyn are both right.......the $12 out of my pocket is nothing compared to ticking off everyone who placed their orders, and ruining my reputation right out of the gate. So, I've decided to pay it, and have everything shipped to me. And just to make sure her guests receive their items, and don't end up in her cabinets I'll deliver them. They are all in my general area, so it's really not that big of a deal.
You know, the funny thing is........she hasn't called me since asking this. Hmmmm.....
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I'd definitely deliver - you really don't want her coming to your house and inviting herself in!;)
 
ChefBeckyD said:
I'd definitely deliver - you really don't want her coming to your house and inviting herself in!;)
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Oh, what a thought Becky--that's all she needs!:(
 
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ChefBeckyD said:
I'd definitely deliver - you really don't want her coming to your house and inviting herself in!;)
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:eek: :eek: :eek: Good grief.......... I would go crazy if she started stopping by........I LOVE my house, but I do believe I would want to move if she started coming by!! Thanks to all of you for your suggestions, sharing your horror stories, and just letting me get it out!
 
I don't mean to...
amy07 said:
I know this is going to come across as horrible, but have any of you ever had a host that you cannot get rid of? I did a show on Sunday, cannot wait to be rid of this woman!! I did host coaching with her which I think she took as a sign of trying to be friends, and quite frankly I'm sick of her. I'm so serious when I say that this woman has called me EVERY day, sometimes several times a day for the past 3 weeks!!!! :eek: Even my husband calls her the "stalker".

At first I thought that she was just unsure of calculating her outside orders, which it is my job to help her. Then, I thought she was interested in the opportunity, which she may be. But she does not want to do cooking shows, only catalog or online orders. Quite frankly, I don't think she is playing with a full deck if you know what I mean. She even went as far as to say that she would try to collect orders for me,hinting at a kickback for her, Uh No thank you. If she wants to send people to my website fine or refer people to me great, but I am not going to pay her, nor do I want to deal with her anymore! She's driving me crazy!!!! I just started my business, so I really want to make a good impression and be helpful/thankful to my hosts, but she is putting me over the edge!

We are supposed to be closing her show on Thursday, so I'm hoping I can break free of her, or atleast until her order is received and distributed. I know this sounds awful, but you would really have to speak to her to understand, and deal with the calls at all hours. I have even told her quite politely, that I do not like to call or be called before/after certain hours, and then told her the hours-----no luck. Honestly, she calls me and says "Hey, what are you doing", like she is my best friend. She leaves messages on our machine, "hey, its me........." never leaving her name. I guess I should know who it is since she calls so much, but I think it is rude. Anyone ever seen or remember the movie "Single White Female"?........that's what my husband says it is like.

Sorry for the long post........needed to vent!

By the way, my son is in the same class as her son, so that's how I know her to begin with. And since I'm just starting out, I wanted to line up shows that are outside my friends/family circle. UGGHHHHH!!
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but this post has me laughing so hard I"m crying (good since my head is hurting all day :)

I don't have any advice, but I am sorry for you too. It may not be nice, but sure is funny!!! (not laughing at you but with you :)
Liz
 
amy07 said:
I think you and Carolyn are both right.......the $12 out of my pocket is nothing compared to ticking off everyone who placed their orders, and ruining my reputation right out of the gate. So, I've decided to pay it, and have everything shipped to me. And just to make sure her guests receive their items, and don't end up in her cabinets I'll deliver them. They are all in my general area, so it's really not that big of a deal.
You know, the funny thing is........she hasn't called me since asking this. Hmmmm.....
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Yes, I'd definitely deliver.
 
I would not spot her the money. I would close her order out without the $12 item. Then I would either deliver, or have a meet up place with the other guests!
 
Spot the moneyI would spot the money. It's only $12. If she doesn't pay, you can always hang on to the item for yourself, because I'm sure she got a discount and host benefits for these items, or you can ship it back for a refund.
Either way your show doesn't get messed up and your guests will be happy. Since you are spotting her the money, definitely ship the items to your home and make deliveries to the other guests.
Meeting people in person to deliver is a good way to thank them and to ask them about hosting their own show. Unfortunately she may be a guest at their show!!! :eek:
But that won't be the same as all the communication needed to host coach.
Also if you make your own deliveries, it's one less time you have to meet up with the stalker!! :eek: :eek: :eek:
Debbie :D
 
Oh, my sarcastic side is now coming out.

I think I will go to Wal-mart later today and bring up a $12.00 item to the check out and ask them to spot me for it until next week. Or maybe I will go onto Amazon.com and ask them to spot me for a book I want.

I just don't think spotting a host is appropriate, unless she/he is a very close friend. Then it is a friend helping a friend. If she needs help paying, she should be asking one of her friends, not you.

Lisa
 
ChefLisa said:
I just don't think spotting a host is appropriate, unless she/he is a very close friend. Then it is a friend helping a friend. If she needs help paying, she should be asking one of her friends, not you.

Lisa
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Unfortunately it sounds like she considers Amy her close friend!
 
For the sake of guests
ChefLisa said:
Oh, my sarcastic side is now coming out.

I think I will go to Wal-mart later today and bring up a $12.00 item to the check out and ask them to spot me for it until next week. Or maybe I will go onto Amazon.com and ask them to spot me for a book I want.

I just don't think spotting a host is appropriate, unless she/he is a very close friend. Then it is a friend helping a friend. If she needs help paying, she should be asking one of her friends, not you.

Lisa
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Well for the sake of guests and keeping a good reputation with potential hosts, the decision to either delete the order (which may cause bad feelings and anger), or pay the $12 and get on with the process of submitting.
Not that it would be your fault but you said she wasn't playing with a full deck! I would spot her and then just keep the items or return them after a week.
I would never ask a retail store or an online store to spot me, that would be ridiculous but saving face in the hopes of gaining loyal customers and potential hosts is another story!
Debbie :D
 
I don't think having to spot your host is appropriate either BUT when it comes to getting her off your shoulder and being done with the aggravation and making her guests happy I think it's worth it in thise case....for only $12 that is.
 
I would suck it up and pay the $12 for now and have the order delivered to your house.
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I do if a host is not responsive or engaged?

If a host is unresponsive or disengaged, try reaching out with a friendly reminder about the party and its benefits. Use multiple communication methods, such as text, email, or social media, to see if you can re-engage them. If they still do not respond, consider moving forward with the party without their active involvement, but keep them informed of any updates.

How can I politely decline to work with a host who is not a good fit?

To politely decline working with a host who is not a good fit, you can express your appreciation for their interest but explain that you are currently focusing on other opportunities that align better with your goals. It's important to be respectful and maintain a positive tone to leave the door open for future interactions.

What if a host is causing drama or negativity in the group?

If a host is causing drama or negativity, address the situation directly but tactfully. You can have a private conversation with them to express your concerns and encourage a more positive atmosphere. If the behavior continues, consider removing them from the group or limiting their involvement to protect the overall experience for other participants.

Can I replace a host with someone else if they are not participating?

Yes, if a host is not participating and you have another potential host in mind, you can replace them. Be sure to communicate this change respectfully to the original host, explaining that you believe a more engaged host will lead to a better party experience. Always prioritize maintaining good relationships and professionalism.

What are the best practices for managing difficult hosts?

To manage difficult hosts effectively, establish clear expectations from the beginning and maintain open lines of communication. Be proactive in addressing any issues that arise and provide support to help them succeed. If challenges persist, consider setting boundaries or transitioning to a different host to ensure a positive experience for everyone involved.

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