Gave My Card to a Woman, Now She Won't Leave Me Alone

[BethCooks4U]

Well said, Beth. Yes, we are called to share our faith - but we do need to be sensitive. It's our calling to share, but it's the Holy Spirit's job to convict and bring people to reconciliation with God. That takes the pressure off us.

I know that Debbie had an amazing conversion experience, and her point of view comes from that experience. There is one way - and only one way (through Jesus Christ) but the journey there is unique for each person.

And I was in no way being critical of that at all. I was giving another point of view.

 

[jrstephens]

So what ever happened?

Wow I can't believe everyone is so scared of a 66 year old woman. Am I saying that there aren't nut jobs out there that are over 60? Of course not, but sometimes I have come across widows, or lonely elderly people who just want someone to talk to. I'm sure you have seen them eating alone in a restaurant, in the grocery store buying frozen foods or groceries for one.
If you go to a nursing home, you'll see them. Anyway I think she is probably lonely and if she does care for your soul, SO WHAT!!
My goodness it took 22 years of my wasted life before someone cared for my soul and shared Christ with me. I wouldn't be offended if someone witnessed to me or tried to convert me.
I WOULD BE OVERJOYED!!! Thank God there are still Christians who share their faith, caring for the souls of the lost and trying to reach out, because you never know. I would rather be safe than sorry. As a Christian I have never felt offended, angry or hurt that someone was trying to share Christ with me. I have been happy about that. I tell them that I am a Christian and then as children of God we can pray for one another and speak of what the Lord is doing in our lives.
That's my two cents! I know there are pushy people out there who believe you have to be a member of their church in order to really be saved, but hey that's when a good bible study is needed! I wouldn't be so quick to push her away, just be honest and tell her that you have small children and can't get out to meet her. If she says she would like to come over, if you feel uncomfortable, tell her that you are busy. Just because she's not interested in PC doesn't mean she is not a human being with feelings and can be discarded.

Debbie

Well said Debbie. You are an inspiration.

 

[ivy5683]

This isn't about sharing her faith with me or even her age, it's the fact that she pretended to be interested in Pampered Chef in order to get to talk to me. She isn't a widow, she isn't lonley, she has tons of family in the area, so that's not the case.
She lied to me, plain and simple and that is what made me cautious of her, not affraid of her. My husband is in law enforcement so he has engrained in me to be cautious of strangers, especially ones who take things a little too far as this lady has. The questions she asked set off red flags, do I have grandparents, how close are they, where was I born, when was my birthday, my parents, how old they were, where my kids were born, what my husband did, where he was from... she wanted too much personal information all at once, that made me question her.
I don't think it's fair for you to judge my cautiousness about her, I have two small children who are with me 24/7, and their saftey is my priority, people take children every day, people who are ordinary looking and kind looking watch and wait for someone to let their guard down, that isn't the case with this woman but you just never know and I'm not going to take that chance on a stranger.

 

[KellyTheChef]

Nicki~

I don't blame you at all! God gives us a brain to use, and a sense when things are not right. You have every right to be cautious and upset that this lady lied to you in order to get your information. I pray that nothing else "comes" of this situation so you can move past it.

I have never had dangerous or suspicious things happen to me while doing PC, but my recruiter did...and it IS possible, since we live in a world that has MANY wonderful and caring people, but also nut cases and liars too!

 

[ChefBeckyD]

This isn't about sharing her faith with me or even her age, it's the fact that she pretended to be interested in Pampered Chef in order to get to talk to me. She isn't a widow, she isn't lonley, she has tons of family in the area, so that's not the case.
She lied to me, plain and simple and that is what made me cautious of her, not affraid of her. My husband is in law enforcement so he has engrained in me to be cautious of strangers, especially ones who take things a little too far as this lady has.
I do'nt think it's fair for you to judge my cautiousness about her, I have two small children who are with me 24/7, and their saftey is my priority, people take children every day, people who are ordinary looking and kind looking watch and wait for someone to let their guard down, that isn't the case with this woman but you just never know and I'm not going to take that chance on a stranger.

You have every right to be cautious - especially when someone has lied to you.....that should send up caution flags for anyone.

 

[TheChaoticCook]

this Isn't About Sharing Her Faith With Me Or Even Her Age, It's The Fact That She Pretended To Be Interested In Pampered Chef In Order To Get To Talk To Me. She Isn't A Widow, She Isn't Lonley, She Has Tons Of Family In The Area, So That's Not The Case.
She Lied To Me, Plain And Simple And That Is What Made Me Cautious Of Her, Not Affraid Of Her. My Husband Is In Law Enforcement So He Has Engrained In Me To Be Cautious Of Strangers, Especially Ones Who Take Things A Little Too Far As This Lady Has.
I Do'nt Think It's Fair For You To Judge My Cautiousness About Her, I Have Two Small Children Who Are With Me 24/7, And Their Saftey Is My Priority, People Take Children Every Day, People Who Are Ordinary Looking And Kind Looking Watch And Wait For Someone To Let Their Guard Down, That Isn't The Case With This Woman But You Just Never Know And I'm Not Going To Take That Chance On A Stranger.

Amen!!!!!!

 

[BethCooks4U]

Nicki, you have to be cautious. I have always been taught that you have to pay attention to the red flags you feel (well, I can't think of the saying but you get what I mean). Go with your gut.

If you weren't a caring person you wouldn't be upset about this.

 

[PampMomof3]

Do you have any "cults" in your area? I was surprised when I found out how many "compound-type" groups are here in FL.

R U serious? Where?

 

[ivy5683]

And I am offended by the comment 'Just because she's not interested in PC doesn't mean she is not a human being with feelings and can be discarded.'
Her lack of interest in PC is not why I discarded her, it was the fact that she lied to me, I have no room in my life for liars. No matter what their age or agenda is.

 

[sk8rgrrl99]

Nicki - I agree with you 100% about being cautious. It's your job as Mommy to protect your children and you need to protect yourself too. Someone that asks for all that information would put me off too. And you definitely do not need to deal with someone that lies to you.

 

[chefsteph07]

I think we all have a right to decide who we do or don't want in our lives, this woman, whatever her reasoning is, her agenda, whatever, has no right to call her umpteen times, ask about her personal life,go to lunch w/ someone you don't know, what have you, if she does not want to give that out! It is harrassment, plain and simple, and why should it matter if it was a "loney old woman, widower, Christian, whatever"..versus a MAN who did the same thing to her.

There are crazy people out there, if you think someone is interested in your business, but it turns out she's not and wants to talk about "other things", why are you automatically obligated? Let's look at the big picture!

This is the reason why I don't have my address on my business cards, but it is in the phone book, I am not hard to find! But that doesn't mean that I want someone showing up on my doorstep who I think is interested in one thing but I find out they are not..I have a right to kick them off my doorstep!

 

[mmmorgan20]

Why don't you just flat out tell her that you are NOT interested in whatever she wants to share with you. Sometimes you just have to be straight forward even if it might hurt her feelings. She sounds a little weird.

 

[laurano75]

I feel like if she was going to share something legitamate, she would atleast explain it over the phone.I would use caution....especially since she is asking all of those personal questions.As a mother, I feel that you can never be too careful.I would be polite and just let her know that you are not interested.You have to be firm with people like her.After reading some of these posts, I think that I will NOT put my home # & address on my business cards.Good luck!

 

[chefsteph07]

Like I said before, if this were a MAN doing the same thing, there would be no debate.

 

[mmmorgan20]

I think that I will NOT put my home # & address on my business cards.Good luck!

I really regret putting my address on my cards. I wonder if I could black it out.....

 

[PChefPEI]

Nicki, I sure hope that this woman has been leaving you alone! Good for you for following your gut and leaving her out of your life!

 

[Sheila]

It's the middle of the night here in Japan, I'm about to go to bed & didn't have time to read all the comments.

10 years ago, I'd have said she sells AMWAY! LOL

I'm a retired Police Dispatcher, and it's instinct for me to automatically think the worst! So I have to say: don't think that just because she's in her 60's that she's not a con-artist. The older they are, the easier it becomes to con people. If she tries to get you to cash a lotto ticket or something stupid for her, DON'T DO IT! Anything involving exchange of money needs to be reported to your local police department immediately. Including a vehicle description & license plate number if you can get it.

If you'll PM me her name & number and anything else you know about her ... I'll do a little public research & see if any red flags pop up.

Edited to add: You know she has your address, so keep in mind that trying to get you to meet her for lunch could also be a ploy to get you out of the house so someone else can break into your home. I would let her calls go to voicemail and definitely don't tell her that you have errands to run or a show to do ... that's just letting her know when you'll be away from home. KWIM?

Hopefully, it's all just some poor lonely woman who's looking for a friend ... but it's always better to be safe, than sorry.

 

[chefsteph07]

Shelia: I love your "NEWS" section of your signature! Congrats!

 

[PChefPEI]

Shelia: I love your "NEWS" section of your signature! Congrats!

I thought the same thing. Congratulations!

 

[Sheila]

Thanks ladies!

And curiosity had the cat ... so I took the time to read all the posts. I didn't realize when I did my first response that your hubby is in Law Enforcement. I'm sure he knows how to do all the public searches too. LOL