ok, my DH's family and i don't get along. last month while he was training in CA (we live in AK) his folks visited him and invited us home for christmas. well, to make a long story short, EVERYTIME we go home to visit SOMETHING happens. i try my hardest to play nice but it just isn't in my wiring. i'm obnoxious, i'm sarcastic, and i say what is on my mind even if you won't like it. according to my FIL i'm a .... witch. i think you can fill in the real word. but it seems once a year my DH gets amnesia and wants to go home. i have already said i would be willing to go( my family and friends are in the same town so it won't be stuck with his folks 24/7). we even have free tickets home. if we do go, does anyone have advice on how to try to get along? i would try a heart to heart but this group isn't the heart to heart type. i have tried biting my tounge, i have tried playing nice, i have tried to fake having a good time. and then his dad's girlfriend opens her mouth and says SOMETHING, and usually keeps on about whatever and i end up having to defend myself verbally. it is just a vicous cycle. i want it to be different. any advice?