?? Books Dealing With Death and Divorce ??

[chefjenibel]

I have a very dear friend who left her husband of 13 years about 2 months ago. She and her three children moved from their 2-story, 5-bedroom house into a 2-bedroom apartment and they have made a lot of sacrifices. Then, on Monday, her father (66yo) passed away suddenly. She is a very strong woman and doesn't like to accept help from others, but I feel like this is too much for anyone to handle. I would like to reach out to her by giving her an uplifting book on dealing with Death and/or Divorce. She is a religious person, so religious books are okay, too. I know a lot of you are very inspirational people, so I thought you might have some suggestions on a good book. Please keep this family in your prayers as well. Her 11yo DS is already very quiet and I'm just afraid of what he is truly feeling and not expressing. Thank you!!

 

[The_Kitchen_Guy]

I went that party quite a few years ago, but I suspect my situation was different and the uplifting books I read probably aren't appropriate for her.Check with the pastor of your church/her church because I find most clergy have a library of such books. Tell her the first 90 days are the hardest - when your chest feels like you've been hit with a 2x4 and nothing seems to make it feel better. Time is the only thing that makes it feel better.

 

[dannyzmom]

OMG - what an awful situation. I had a friend years ago who left with her 3yo twins...and 4 months later their Daddy was kille din a motorcycle wreck. It's SO hard. I'll keep them in my prayers.

 

[Chef_2_Four]

I will pray for her! I don't have a book to recommend for her, i'm sorry. Please give her a hug for me!

 

[Teresa Lynn]

I administered a grief seminar at our old church. I also worked in a funeral home during high school and college.
I would suggest any books (or her greeting cards) by Elizabeth Kubler Ross. I had a chance to hear her speak in Dallas in 93 she was excellent. We always had a variety of her books we included in our funeral packages.

 

[jenniferknapp]

I haven't had a chance to read the book "The Secret" yet, but my mom has really enjoyed it...especially after her divorce with my dad after 25 years...Here is a quick description from Amazon:
In this book, you'll learn how to use The Secret in every aspect of your life -- money, health, relationships, happiness, and in every interaction you have in the world. You'll begin to understand the hidden, untapped power that's within you, and this revelation can bring joy to every aspect of your life.The Secret contains wisdom from modern-day teachers -- men and women who have used it to achieve health, wealth, and happiness. By applying the knowledge of The Secret, they bring to light compelling stories of eradicating disease, acquiring massive wealth, overcoming obstacles, and achieving what many would regard as impossible.Hopefully someone has read it to let you know whether it is truely appropriate or not. Hugs

 

[ChefBeckyD]

I second Teresa Lynn's suggestion of Elisabeth Kubler Ross books. My brother was killed in a car accident when I was 20, and he was 19 - her book, "On Death and Dying" was very helpful for me.