Struggling with Spouse's Job Change and Income Loss - Need to Vent!

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Discussion Overview

This thread features participants sharing their experiences and frustrations regarding their spouses' job changes and the impact on family income. Several users express feelings of stress and confusion about their partners' decisions during these transitions.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant shares their frustration about their husband passing up job opportunities while expecting them to increase their income significantly.
  • Another participant discusses their husband's desire to start a new business, expressing skepticism about the viability of this plan and the expectation for them to return to work.
  • One user expresses a general sentiment that men can be self-centered in their decision-making, reflecting on their own experiences with their spouse's work habits.
  • Another participant humorously acknowledges the challenges of understanding men's perspectives during stressful times.
  • One participant shares positive news about their husband's job situation, noting that he has found work with the union and has apologized for his previous behavior.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ among participants regarding the expectations and behaviors of their spouses during job transitions, with some expressing frustration and others finding humor in the situation. No clear consensus emerges on the topic.

Contextual Notes

Participants share personal experiences related to balancing family responsibilities and financial pressures during their spouses' job changes. The discussions reflect a range of emotions, from frustration to humor.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants experiencing similar challenges with their partners' job changes or income fluctuations may find relatable experiences and perspectives in this discussion.

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Sorry I just need to vent with some people who understand.
So my husband is in the middle of switching over to a union job (this could take weeks)

He hasn't worked all week, and on Thursday and Friday he passed of working for a friend, PLUS his mom offered to put him to work, he actually said to her no Brooke's working on her sales!!!!!!!!!

Then passes up the chance to make money again today!!!!

He makes around $2,000 a month and I guess he thinks I can turn my $650 average paycheck into a $2,650 paycheck!!!!!!!

I'm beside myself right now. I only have 7 shows this month and 2 to close from last month, no where near what I need to cover his income!!!!!!
 
Yikes!!!How is he turning your check into more? Is he trying to help you? Tell him if he is going to pass on those jobs, then he needs to get on the phone for you and get some more shows booked.

I quit my job of 11+ years a couple of years ago to stay home with my son. Before that I worked 2nd & 3rd shift so he wouldn't have to go to daycare. To make up for part of my income I started babysitting and selling PC. I love PC, but not too crazy about the babysitting. Anyway, now my husband is sick to death of his job (Which I can understand. He's been there about 20 years and doesn't get treated well and hasn't had a raise in 4 or 5 years!). He is starting to say he would like to start growing things to sell, which is fine with me. He plowed up a big part of our field to grow pumpkins and Indian corn to sell this fall. He also wants to build some greenhouses. Well, I assumed he meant he would do this and I would take care of them until his business got going, and then he would quit if he did well enough. Well, he told me the other day, he wants me to go back to work so he can stay home and do that.

I just laughed at him. I don't mind doing what I got to do to help him get something like this going, but I'm not going to up and drop everything on something that might not even pan out!! Men!! What are they thinking sometimes?
 
I have come to conclusion that men only think of themselves and themselves only. I am sorry to hear about your husband not taking on jobs Brooke. My husband is hardly ever around. He works full time and also does mowing on the side. I also work outside of the house 4-5 days a week and when I am not at work I am at home with our boys, ages 5 & 3. When he does have the boys he has his grandma or his mother watch them. I just don't understand men's way of thinking. Hope things get better for and keep us posted on what he does decide to do.
 
Sorry Brooke - sometimes men can be big buttheads.
 
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I have good news!!!!! Even though his former boss is dragging his heel s on reporting his hours so he can go to work. The uinion rep called him this am he's going to work for the union tommorrow. He is at the office right now filling out all of his forms.:)

He aplogized to me for acting this way, he said he thought my resent idea were so good, and since I'm only $100 away from my $15,000 in sales that I could pull off that much more money!!!!!

I told him one day I plan for my paychecks to be that big, but it will take sometime just like it did when I started.
 
That's great...sometimes men just live in their own little bubble...sheesh!
 

Frequently Asked Questions

How can I cope with the emotional stress of my spouse's job change?

It's natural to feel stressed during a job change, especially if it involves income loss. Take time to express your feelings with your spouse, and consider seeking support from friends or a counselor. Engaging in stress-relief activities such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies can also help you manage your emotions during this transition.

What practical steps can we take to manage our finances during this time?

Start by reviewing your current budget and identifying areas where you can cut back on expenses. Prioritize essential bills and consider temporary adjustments, such as reducing discretionary spending. It may also be helpful to explore alternative income sources, such as part-time work or selling items you no longer need.

How can we maintain a positive relationship while facing financial difficulties?

Open communication is key. Discuss your feelings and concerns with your spouse regularly, and work together to find solutions. Show appreciation for each other's efforts and maintain a supportive environment. Planning small, low-cost activities can also help strengthen your bond during tough times.

What resources are available for couples dealing with job loss?

Many organizations offer resources for couples facing job loss, including financial counseling, job search assistance, and support groups. Websites like the National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) can provide guidance on managing finances. Additionally, local community centers may offer workshops or support groups tailored to your situation.

How can I help my spouse feel supported during their job search?

Encourage your spouse by actively listening to their concerns and providing emotional support. Help them set realistic job search goals and offer to assist with resume writing or practice interviews. Celebrate small victories together, and remind them that job searching can take time and persistence.

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