She Keeps Changing the Date!!--Long Vent

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Discussion Overview

This thread centers around a participant's experience with a past hostess who repeatedly changed the date for a multi-vendor sale, leading to frustration and conflict regarding personal commitments. Participants share their reactions to the situation and offer support.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Debate/contested

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, describes the challenges of balancing personal commitments with business obligations, particularly regarding a boyfriend's return from deployment.
  • Another participant expresses frustration at the hostess's lack of understanding and suggests "blessing and releasing" the situation.
  • Several users mention that the hostess's behavior is inconsiderate and that it is important to prioritize family over business commitments.
  • One participant shares a personal experience of having a similar situation where they set up a table for a friend, noting that it did not go well without their presence.
  • Another participant suggests that having a trusted friend help at the event could be a solution, but acknowledges it may not be the same as being there personally.
  • Some participants emphasize the importance of standing up for oneself and not allowing others to dictate personal schedules.
  • One participant shares that the original poster ultimately found out the hostess had found someone else to take their place, indicating a resolution to the conflict.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

General agreement exists among participants regarding the unreasonableness of the hostess's demands and the importance of prioritizing personal commitments. However, there are differing opinions on whether to reach out to the hostess or to move on without further communication.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects the emotional challenges faced by consultants in balancing personal lives with business responsibilities, particularly in the context of military deployments.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants who have experienced similar conflicts with hostesses or who are navigating personal commitments alongside their business may find this discussion relatable and supportive.

pampered.chris
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So I have a past hostess who does a multi-vendor sale every year at her home, about 50 people walk through during the day. It isn't the BEST I have ever been too, but it is decent enough.
So she called me a few weeks ago about setting up this year on Sept 27th. Well I have booked NOTHING for any w/ends until after October 6th b/c w/ends will be time with my boyfriend when he gets back from Kuwait. So I say okay. She then calls and wants to push the date to the next w/end. I say again okay and tell her jokingly that she is really cutting into my "family" time w/ my boyfriend and DD (not his but they adore each other). She asked what I meant and I told her he has been deployed and will be home around the 8th of Sept and he and I won't see each other during the week, only on the weekends. She and I chat about it and she seems really understanding right?
Fast forward to Monday night. She calls and MUST change the date to Sept 20th. This is NOT going to work for me. I tell her that there is no way I can do it that date. She FLIPPED OUT!!! Starts yelling at me, asking what is she going to do people expect me to be there. She asks if I can send someone else to sit w/ all of my stuff and do my job from 9am till 4pm. I said I didn't think I knew anyone that would just "give up" their Sat to do this. She then, in a very snotty tone, says and what is so important that you can't be there? I WAS MAD!!:mad: I said to her, first of all I do not think I should have to defend myself for not being available, nor do I think it is right of you to ask me to do so. However, do you recall our converstation a week or so ago when I told you about my BF coming home, she said well yeah, so. I told her his family lives 3 hours away and that is the weekend that he told them we were coming down and his mother told me she is planning a party and can't wait to see us. She said, (are you ready for this?) "What is so important about that?". I hit the roof, and I don't get nasty w/ people ever, but this struck a nerve. I told her that I did not appreciate her attitude and that until she could act like an adult I would not continue this conversation with her. She said, well I didn't mean it like that. I told her that I am sorry that I am putting family first but that is one of the things that I LOVE about my business is I am able to do so. She told me she would get back to me.
I haven't heard from her since...should I call? Or bless and relase?
 
Geesh!

Bless and release! She sounds like an idiot who doesn't care about anyone but herself...

(Sorry, that sounds really bad, but COME ON...who wouldn't understand why this is so important to you and your BF?!!)
 
Wow that is really rude of her to act llike that. I would bless and release. It seems that it is her way or no way and I would not want to be any part of that.

On a brighter note, how exciting that your boyfriend is coming home. Have a wonderful time together. How long is he home for and how much longer does he have left?
 
I agree bless and release! Some people if they haven't gone through something just don't understand. Good for you for standing up and putting family first. I'm so happy your BF is coming home safely. Enjoy your time with him and DD :)
 
That's awful, Chris! I wouldn't bother thinking about her for one more second!! She obviously could care less about you, and only about herself. She can't possibly expect you to just keep changing your plans at her whim - what a B&%@$!!! Drop her like a HOT potato, girl!! (((HUGS)))!
 
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My BF is in the Air Force Reserves. He was a Marine for 10 years before he joined the Air Force (he has been in with them for 6 now). Being the Air Force Reserves, he is only gone for 4.5 mths (still seems like an eternity) and was deployed on May 2nd. So about 2 weeks from today I will pick him up at the airport!! I can not wait!!

And I guess I should say that I am so lucky that one of my GREAT friends will be at this woman's house selling TS and she'll keep the hostess from bad-mouthing me. AAHHH...lightbulb moment...I wonder if I can ask my TS friend to "man the PC station"???? I could give her some free stuff in exchange?! What do you think?

I know I should just ignore, but everyone I am afraid she'll find another PC consultant and I won't have this. I am the only one within 30 miles of here and this is in my hometown. I dont know. I will pray on it tonight and see what happens.
 
Just one thought - I had someone ask me to do a FR on the same night I was already booked to do a show, so I set up a table at her house and let the host do the selling. It didn't do very well, mostly b/c I wasn't there to highlight the points about everything.

If your TS friend is able to help and knows your stuff well, then it might be ok. But, it still won't be the same. Still, like you said, it will keep her from getting another consultant, and maybe next year will be better. Good luck and I hope it all works out!
 
Maybe that will work with the TS lady helping out at your table. This may give the lady a wake-up call that she can't change dates on you 3 times and expect you to keep holding weekends for her! That is very inconsiderate on her part to say the least. Maybe she realized when you told her you wouldn't continue the conversation, she stepped over the line!
 
I don't know how you are but I let things drive me crazy if I fell things are left on a bad note. I am not saying call her and kiss up but I think I would send a letter or email saying how you feel now. Someone else might have get her upset. But that is just the way I am. But take care of your family and when it is all over she will see that if not than you did all you can do. If you can not do it you can not do it and if everyone is expecting you there than she can direct them to you.
 
Release, release, release and to heck with the 'bless' part :D
 
I would NEVER deal with her again if it was me!! Kick her to the curb, or ya I mean bless and release! :)
 
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Well the decision has been made for me. I called her and found out that she found someone else that is going to come and set up for her. Oh well, eh?

Working on the releasing part...forgetting about the blessing part!!
 
you are one very lucky woman to have her out of your hair.
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I do if my host keeps changing the date of the party?

If your host keeps changing the date, it's important to communicate openly. Ask them if there are specific reasons for the changes and if there's a date that works best for them. Flexibility is key, but also express the importance of setting a firm date to ensure a successful party.

How can I encourage my host to stick to a date?

You can encourage your host to stick to a date by discussing the benefits of having a set date, such as better attendance and more time to prepare. Offer to help them promote the party and remind them of any incentives or promotions that may be time-sensitive.

What if the constant date changes are affecting my sales?

If the date changes are affecting your sales, consider discussing your concerns with your host. Explain how the changes impact your ability to prepare and promote the event. You might also want to suggest a more realistic timeline for planning the party to minimize disruptions.

Is it common for hosts to change party dates?

Yes, it can be common for hosts to change party dates due to personal schedules, unforeseen circumstances, or lack of commitment. It's important to remain patient and understanding while also encouraging them to finalize a date that works for everyone involved.

How can I manage my schedule with a host who frequently changes dates?

To manage your schedule effectively, maintain a flexible approach while also setting boundaries. Keep a calendar of potential dates and communicate your availability to the host. This way, you can accommodate their changes while ensuring you have time for other commitments.

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