Quick Prayer for My Frame of Mind Tonight....

[KellyTheChef]

I missed this one yesterday too! Sorry Becky!

I pray, though, that God will continue to guide you and your family through this time...it's gotta be hard on all of you!

Glad your show went well, and thanks for your insight that you learned from your class! I never thought of it that way!! Kindof like "no prejudging" but BETTER!!! I need to keep that in my mind- what a positive way of looking at finding leads!!

 

[Intrepid_Chef]

I'm so sorry ... I just saw this.

May the peace of God that passes understanding GUARD your hearts and minds today.

 

[rennea]

Sorry to hear about your mom and her illness. Sending prayers and many good thoughts your way Becky.

 

[pamperedharriet]

I just found this thread this afternoon and want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, Becky. I have been wrapped up here at times over my head dealing with my husband's Alzheimer's. It's not fun as you know. It's a roller coaster ride never knowing how each day will be. If you want to talk you can e-mail me Becky.

 

[janetupnorth]

One of the pastors at my home church has dealt with his wife's alzheimers for about 6-7 years. One thing he said struck me as insightful. He said the disease for him was a blessing in disguise. They read the Bible together EVERY morning. He said he is constantly amazed by the "new" insights she has into scripture each and every time. He said she is like a child relearning scripture and it is amazing and challenging to him.

 

[ChefBeckyD]

I just found this thread this afternoon and want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, Becky. I have been wrapped up here at times over my head dealing with my husband's Alzheimer's. It's not fun as you know. It's a roller coaster ride never knowing how each day will be. If you want to talk you can e-mail me Becky.

Thank you Harriet. Sometimes it seems overwhelming. There are times when I talk to her, and she sounds completely normal, then she will call me in an hour and want to know when the last time was that she talked to me. She told my Aunt Judie that I only call her about once every 3 weeks - and I call her almost every day!

She is starting to forget to eat, and we had to take her meds away, because some of them, she was taking 2-3 times a day...and some not at all. Marking them off on a calendar didn't help, because she would mark them off w/o taking them, or forget to mark them off.

That's just the tip of the iceberg, as I'm sure you know.

 

[chefmeg]

Becky, does she live on her own or is there someone that lives with her that is helping?


This is nothing in comparison, but about 9 years ago my Mom fell and broke her ankle and tore tendons...she had to have major repair surgery. While in the hospital, she and my Dad got the flu...he was in NO shape to care for her when she came home! It about drove me crazy because they were in Alabama and I was in Virginia! I won't even go into the sad sordid details about my siblings that lives less and 10 and less than 40 miles from them...........it really is hard to be far away from someone you love that is ill. I understand Alzhiemers is the worst....I will keep praying for you and your Mom.

 

[ChefBeckyD]

Becky, does she live on her own or is there someone that lives with her that is helping?


This is nothing in comparison, but about 9 years ago my Mom fell and broke her ankle and tore tendons...she had to have major repair surgery. While in the hospital, she and my Dad got the flu...he was in NO shape to care for her when she came home! It about drove me crazy because they were in Alabama and I was in Virginia! I won't even go into the sad sordid details about my siblings that lives less and 10 and less than 40 miles from them...........it really is hard to be far away from someone you love that is ill. I understand Alzhiemers is the worst....I will keep praying for you and your Mom.

Well, that is part of the big drama right now.

Little bro and SIL have been living with her in a house owned by big bro. LB & SIL are spongers. Lil Bro is going back into the military, and leaving SIL & her 2 little demon children w/ mom. SIL is bi-polar, and doesn't have a good track record of staying on her meds. We (big bro & I) don't think she is the appropriate person to take care of mom - and so have decided she needs to either move in with me or big bro. (Big Bro is going to put the house up for sale) Lil Bro & SIL have convinced Mom that no one else can care for her like SIL can. SIL doesn't take care of her now.....Bro does all of the housework, cooking, takes mom to DR's appt's (or I make the 45 minute drive to take her). SIL can't even take care of her own kids (not my brother's kids BTW) and the kids are destroying the house - literally.

Anyway - that is way more drama than I'm sure you wanted to hear....but it comes down to my Mom being angry with me - and although I know it's the illness talking, not her - it still hurts, because my Mom and I have always been so close....and now she is telling me she would rather have SIL (who has treated her badly many times in the past) take care of her than me.

 

[PChefPEI]

Well, that is part of the big drama right now.

Little bro and SIL have been living with her in a house owned by big bro. LB & SIL are spongers. Lil Bro is going back into the military, and leaving SIL & her 2 little demon children w/ mom. SIL is bi-polar, and doesn't have a good track record of staying on her meds. We (big bro & I) don't think she is the appropriate person to take care of mom - and so have decided she needs to either move in with me or big bro. (Big Bro is going to put the house up for sale) Lil Bro & SIL have convinced Mom that no one else can care for her like SIL can. SIL doesn't take care of her now.....Bro does all of the housework, cooking, takes mom to DR's appt's (or I make the 45 minute drive to take her). SIL can't even take care of her own kids (not my brother's kids BTW) and the kids are destroying the house - literally.

Anyway - that is way more drama than I'm sure you wanted to hear....but it comes down to my Mom being angry with me - and although I know it's the illness talking, not her - it still hurts, because my Mom and I have always been so close....and now she is telling me she would rather have SIL (who has treated her badly many times in the past) take care of her than me.

Ouch! Yep, that's gotta hurt! I hope it all works out in the end for you. I will keep praying. You don't deserve this!!

 

[AnnieBee]

Oh Becky! I only just saw this thread, know you will be in my prayers. That is just a tough and sad situation, even with out the issues with your B and SIL. It is just a heartbreaking disease. I wish I could come over a give you a big hug (I'm almost close enough right now!). Keep praying and stand firm knowing that you truly have your Mom's best interests at heart. I'm sure once she moves she will be happy with her new situation. I will pray that your B and SIL will change their perspective and try to truly put her needs first.

And don't forget my signature verse!

Wish I could come and visit, but we are just going to take the time to hang out with family here. Next time I'm actually in Grandville I will absolutely let you know! Right now we're enjoying watching an awesome storm over the lake we are staying on. God's power is amazing!

Hugs and prayers,
Annabel

 

[Grandmarita]

What a heart breaker situation. You and yours are in my prayers.

 

[chefmeg]

Oh Becky, what a sucky situation. You and Big Bro are doing the right thing...but I guess the sad thing is is that your Mom doesn't recognize it in her illness...........I HATE moochers! Just makes me want to knock LB & SIL in the knees! This is one of those things I have asked God to help me with...having tolerance for mean people....I am sure He is trying, but I seem to be resistant! Imagine that?!

 

[rennea]

I know of other people that have gone through the exact same situation your in Becky. Why is there always someone in the family like that?? You and your big brother are doing the right thing, your Mom is most important in the situation. She is so vulnerable right now and needs people with the "right" intentions making decisions for her. I feel for you.

 

[AnnieBee]

Hey Becky,

any news or an update? I hope things are OK with you, I feel like you haven't been around much lately... Except I guess last night with the whole Kermit thing going on

 

[ChefBeckyD]

Hey Becky,any news or an update? I hope things are OK with you, I feel like you haven't been around much lately... Except I guess last night with the whole Kermit thing going on

Thanks for thinking of me and asking!We are in a wait and see mode right now. My older brother had to move today to New Orleans (He's a Marine, and will be stationed there for the next year), and my younger brother has just gone active duty again with the Army. So he will also be leaving some time this month. His plan was to leave his DW and her 2 little monsters with my mom, but that isn't going to happen. Sooooo, right now our options are to have my Mom move to Virginia w/ SIL (she and the kids aren't moving to New Orleans because DB, although stationed there, will be traveling 90% of the time, and it's only for a year - and they have a great church and great school where they are now....) OR SIL and kids would move up here and live with Mom. (This is where they planned on moving in a year anyway.) All of this will be decided in a couple weeks. I wish she could just come stay with me - but we live in a tiny 2 bedroom house, and we just don't have the room here. I keep dreaming that Ty and his Extreme Makeover team will knock on my door. Mom continues to deteriorate. We though Aricept would be the wonder-drug, but apparently it's not. She doesn't remember from one day to the next....the up side of that is that she can be totally ticked off at me one day, and the next day doesn't even remember it.It's funny - we aren't a demonstrative family....but now - I tell her all the time how much I love her - and she does the same with me. Wish I'd been doing it all along.It is emotionally, mentally, and physically draining. Thanks for praying!

 

[quiverfull7]

Oh Becky, my frustrations today pale in comparison to what you are being asked to walk through. I am so sorry. May God continue to hold you up through this. I'll keep praying.

 

[ChefBeckyD]

Oh Becky, my frustrations today pale in comparison to what you are being asked to walk through. I am so sorry. May God continue to hold you up through this. I'll keep praying.

Thanks Di! We pray for each other....that's how it works!:love:

 

[dianevill]

Hey Becky,

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and praying for you. My DH and I are going through an eerily similar situation with his father right now; we're just taking it a day at a time. I'm sure it's much more difficult when it's your own mother. I'll continue to keep praying for your family!