Need Advice on Finding Info. About Someone
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The thread centers around a participant seeking information about their biological father, who resides in Bordentown, NJ, and is involved in the harness racing industry. Various participants share their personal experiences and connections to the area, while others discuss potential avenues for gathering information.
Discussion Character
- Anecdotal
- Exploratory
- Opinion-based
Main Points Raised
- One participant, identifying as a consultant, inquires about finding information on their biological father who lives in Bordentown.
- Another participant mentions having a consultant on their team who lives in the area and offers to connect them.
- Several users express curiosity about the size of Bordentown and whether it is a close-knit community.
- One participant shares their connection to the area through college and suggests that mentioning names might yield information.
- Another participant discusses their experience working in the courthouse and suggests checking public records.
- One participant mentions that their ex-husband is a private investigator and offers to share his contact information.
- Another participant provides the name and contact information for the participant's father’s stable, noting it is in the same town.
Areas of Agreement / Disagreement
Views differ on the best methods to gather information, with some participants suggesting personal connections and others recommending public records. No clear consensus emerges on a specific approach.
Contextual Notes
Participants share personal anecdotes and connections to the Bordentown area, reflecting a mix of experiences related to local knowledge and community ties.
Who May Find This Useful
Individuals seeking to reconnect with family members or gather information about relatives in the Bordentown, NJ area may find the shared experiences and suggestions relevant.
Denarella
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Carissidy said:wow Dena... what else ya got? hehe Getting support like this must make things so much easier... we can do it! Keep your chin up Kacey... Dena is doing great and maybe someone else tomorrow etc will also help out
His stable is about 10 minutes from my house. He's out in the country (I know. Im Capt Obvious. he has horses. OF COURSE he's out in the country). Im not familiar with it but I know the road its on.
Denarella
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Denarella
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Denarella
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Denarella
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Denarella
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Denarella
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Denarella
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Carissidy
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Hopefully we can get some more detective work done today....maybe? Iknow that you all gave good suggestions for the Paige case... But how would go about finding your birth father without having to hire someone. I know people do this stuff all the time. Does anyone live in New Jersey or have some possible suggestions as to how to go about this?
Denarella
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dannyzmom
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Denarella
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dannyzmom said:
I don't know but she has to be careful because maybe he doesnt want to be found....fine line with harassment/stalking laws. Im SURE that's not where she's going with this. I cant blame her at ALL for wanting to find him. I would simply make one phone call to his business, get him on the phone and feel him out. Obviously letters and phone calls to his home are not working. There's no other way to get around his new wife without her physically going there herself and taking that chance. I dont know the whole story so I dont want to speculate or assume and its none of my business.
Carissidy
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She has spoken to him on the phone before, the business is his, snd she needs to be able to find him at a location other than home. Apparently, the woman he married is not very nice and won't allow them to have contact. She has called and they have blocked her phone calls, won't answer unidentified numbers, and she has even intercepted a certified letter Kacey sent. My first response to her was...well maybe he doesn't want to see you and she said it's not that he just completely spineless, whatever...So, she was hoping to find local race tracks for horse races. Another issue she has is she doesn't know the schedule for the races. She doesn't know how she would know if he was racing or just training...he used to race the horses himself but she had thought from their last conversation that he may be just training the horses. I guess the next place to go would be the tracks in the area and see if there is any information of their tracks online or even available to view. It would be nice to find out he will be "here" at "such-in-such" a time and she could just show up. It is something that she NEEDS to resolve because it is something that she is having a very difficult time dealing with 
. I would just to be able to help her finally resolve this, it really ways on her mind...
. I would just to be able to help her finally resolve this, it really ways on her mind...
Carissidy
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Your help, though is much appreciated, Dena. They had been talking until his wife caught wind of it and here we stand... Yes I agree should just bite the bullet and go there and face him... lay it all on the line and see what happens.... You never know and I think thats what scares her... I don't know, maybe I shouldn't speak for her 
Denarella
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Carissidy said:Your help, though is much appreciated, Dena. They had been talking until his wife caught wind of it and here we stand... Yes I agree should just bite the bullet and go there and face him... lay it all on the line and see what happens.... You never know and I think thats what scares her... I don't know, maybe I shouldn't speak for her
But that's all she needs is to show up, the wife calls the cops, and his "spinelessness" leaves him hiding behind the evil stepmother and no one is there for HER. If he can't be a man and tell his wife "THAT IS MY DAUGHTER. You don't like it, there's the door", then I would be a little apprehensive to just SHOW UP and take that risk. Who's side do you think he's going to take should that scenerio arise?
Denarella
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Carissidy said:
Oh gosh, no! But harassing him (and my guess is the new wifey will call it that eventually) isn't going to help. If he's making NO effort to contact her and she's chasing after him, why bother? Im so sorry. Im not being harsh and thats probably how I am coming off. I certainly dont mean it that way. It just seems like if that were my biological daughter, I would bend over backwards and tell my new hubby where to go. If for some reason I had to give up a child and remain silent and SHE was trying to contact ME, NOTHING would come between us. But her dad seems to make no effort to keep a relationship going. She needs to contact him by phone at work, get him on the phone, and put him on the spot and see what HE wants the relationship to be and go from there. I certainly don't want her to get jammed up or have her heart broken any more than it already is...you know?
Denarella
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Carissidy said:
ANY mother, let me rephrase that, any GOOD mother would encourage him to have a relationship with ALL of his children. She 'won'. She got him to herself. Its not like his ex is stalking him! This is his CHILD. It takes two is all Im saying. Again, I don't know the story. I dont know why she was given up by him. But its your flesh and blood. I would be devasted to lose my son. He is my life as any parent feels. I just dont buy it....something's not right....
kaceyleigh2
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No wonder my ears were ringing 
The whole situation is very complicated, I agree. I have talked to him a few times and every time he has been very kind and did not deny that I or my brother were his. I do agree he is spineless b/c he won't stand up to his wife. I guess we just don't know the whole situation with his wife.
My brother died when he was 17 and Frank never got to meet him and I'd hate to think that I may never get the chance to meet him or him meet his grandson.
The whole situation is very complicated, I agree. I have talked to him a few times and every time he has been very kind and did not deny that I or my brother were his. I do agree he is spineless b/c he won't stand up to his wife. I guess we just don't know the whole situation with his wife. My brother died when he was 17 and Frank never got to meet him and I'd hate to think that I may never get the chance to meet him or him meet his grandson.
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