Intervention for My Wife's Business: A Husband's Perspective

[Jenni]

Oh good grief, now you're mentioning idvorce? That is over the top.

I am changing my post... I meant every word I said but I should not be adding fuel to the fire. After giving it thought it does not help the situation!

 

[cwinter474]

I cannot find "report post" anywhere? Help please. I think the whole thread should either be deleted or locked.

Thank u dear Lord for my great husband!

I agree, I can't find the report post either.

Greg, Lock and or Delete, for her safety. Even if this post was started with good intentions, it is way out of control.

 

[thecougchef]

has everyone seen that rennea is expecting?!
My BIG news!!!

 

[etteluap70PC]

I agree, I can't find the report post either.

Greg, Lock and or Delete, for her safety. Even if this post was started with good intentions, it is way out of control.

Its the I in the red triangle under your avatar

 

[jrstephens]

has everyone seen that rennea is expecting?!
My BIG news!!!

I did and that is great!

 

[TammyStar]

:angel:

um Wow?? I just wanted to bump this because I can't wait to read more responses.

 

[susanr613]

i did report the thread when paulette suggested it. oh greeeeggggg where are you?

yes, renea's news is wonderful and her post today on whats for dinner is a funny follow-up

 

[babywings76]

aahh, people please don't bump it. Every time I read this title in the New Posts thread it sends shivers up my spine and a knot in my stomach. I think others are trying to steer us to check out other threads, so we'll all post there and let this one die and go to the bottom of the pile. Greg must not be on right now to remove this so please post another thread if you want to discuss other topics so this one can just go away.

 

[cmdtrgd]

I'm not saying this is what happened, but...I have been in situations where I needed someone to help me get out by being firm. I ASKED my friend/husband/whatever to take something away from me and keep me from it. There is a slight possibility this is what is happening.

 

[TammyStar]

If that be the case and yes sorry for bumping this again but then Kristi should have gotten on here and announced it herself. Isn't admitting one has a problem the first step???

 

[AnnieBee]

I have to agree with Kate. In my opinion the guy was very polite and started my showing his/their aprecciation for CS, and what she has gained from being here, and only then stating that being here too much had become a hindrance. If he really was a "jerk" being overly controlling, why would he have done that?

I'll be the first to admit that often I spend/waste too much time here, and while it has helped me tremendously with my business, it has also taken time away from it, and also to a small extent, my family. My DH has said more than once, that if I spend too much time on here he will ask me point blank to stop coming. And I really don't think that is unreasonable. He is very supportive of my business, and also of the fact that it takes me away from him and the kids while doing shows (which leaves him the not always happy task of getting our 3 very young and strong-willed kids to bed by himself, which I admit I don't like doing myself!), but he is protective of the time we DO have together, and why should he not be? He works hard at work, and doesn't want to come home and find me at the computer all night! He understands that I have friends here, and doesn't mind me coming on for the social aspect, as long as it is within reason. He is supoortive of my business as long as I am actually doing my best to acheive goals with the time I spend on it.

And although some of you have talked about it being her responsibilty to stop coming, like Kate says, that is sometimes easier said than done, and sometimes we need a kick in the rear or someone to help us and be firm. And after all, the guy also said that they discussed it, so it doesn't sound to me as though he just came on, stole her password and forced it on her.

Now, I also understand the concern of abuse, but it just doesn't seem like that here to me. Yes, maybe she could have come on herself to explain, but maybe they just decided for him to do it. IMO, if he was really trying to control, he wouldn't have said anything to us - probably no-one would have noticed for a while if she had just disappeared... Actually, to me he sounds like he trying to help her do her best in her business. Maybe they're not doing it the way we'd choose to do it, but we're all different, right?

ANyway, of course I could be completely wrong (I hope not, for her sake), but I just wanted to give a different perspective.

You are all, of course, welcome to differ in your opinion.

 

[JTNT8704]

I agree with Annie.... I didnt read it the same way most of you did.

 

[janetupnorth]

i did report the thread when paulette suggested it. oh greeeeggggg where are you? yes, renea's news is wonderful and her post today on whats for dinner is a funny follow-up

I also e-mailed Greg back when I first posted. He may be out still for the day.Once again I believe:
1. It should stay for record.
2. It should be locked.I personally don't know how he meant it good or bad and can't judge without the facts, but either way we should move on.

 

[susanr613]

thank you for offering a more optimistic perspective. now let's all take a deep breath and move on.

 

[pclinskie]

I don't think he meant this is a controlling way. She was sharing not knowing what to do, and he said, I'LL DO IT FOR YOU!

 

[Chef Kearns]

Okay, before I posted I asked my husband to read it without sharing with him what you guys said. He also thought it was very controlling and could've think of any way it could've been considered otherwise. I'm shocked, but I'm hoping it was a compromise that they made together.

 

[JAE]

It is possible that she knows what he did, and she's okay with it. We may be the ones blowing this way out of proportion. IMO, there are other, more mature ways to go about this for them, but I really don't think we should be judging w/o knowing.

 

[lacychef]

I agree with you Jae; shocking as it is.

 

[JAE]

I agree with you Jae; shocking as it is.

Shocking that you agree with me or shocking that this thread was started? Just wondering.

 

[etteluap70PC]

I really did not want to post because I want this to fall off the board but I wanted to say that the people who are expressing concern are (I'm sure) hoping it is nothing and something they decided together. We should not judge anyones actions no matter how they make us feel.
But... Also are hoping that maybee someone will act to do something positive just in case this is a bad situation. Many times we as a society do not want to see the bad. We just look away and do not think it is possible. I think in this situation anything is possible.

I agree this post needs to stay for the reccord but needs to be locked.

 

[PChefPEI]

I agree - I love to cook and bake with my nieces. They are 1 and 3. We make a mess and have to hose down them and the kitchen after but it's worth it.

I totally agree! People can't believe that I would let my DD get into such a mess!! I can't believe NOT letting her!! It's too much fun and we just clean up afterwards!

She once got into my big tub of flour when she was almost two, and instead of getting angry or annoyed, like some would, I went for my camera and got some great pics! I'll have to post them in my photo albums later!

 

[Kitchen Diva]

I reported it to Greg as well. Just in case. I won't say anymore other than I hope there is no cause for worry.

 

[tabnat80]

Let me just tell you, if my husand did this to me, it would p' me off royally. I mean, I would never go in his email and change the password. That's treating your spouse as a child and not as your equal. I'm sure that he wouldn't want the same done to him. Way too controlling