Intervention for My Wife's Business: A Husband's Perspective

[susanr613]

Fellow Cheffers, I was marrried to a controlling person. I don't want to stifle your comments. I will present for your consideration that the comments we're making might make it worse for the controllee. It fuels the "see I'm right in doing what I'm doing" attitude.

The person I was involved with did his best to drive wedges between me and everyone I loved. When my family or friends would comment, he would accuse them (to me) of being jealous or prejudiced. It has taken me years to regain the trust of my family and friends and trust for me in other people.

Sorry for the hijack.

 

[colegrovet]

I hope she's the one that had him do this for her..

 

[sk8rgrrl99]

Susan - as a person that's also been there - well said! Maybe we should stop this thread now.

 

[kaseydee]

The whole idea of an adult telling another adult what websites they can & can not go to is sad. I would never be married to someone who told me what I could & couldn't do. That is just another parent & they usually let go at 18yrs old.

 

[chefmeg]

Susan and Sarah are right and thank you to both of you for setting us Cheffers on the path to NOT POSTING ANYMORE ON HERE~it could be more detrimental to Kristina

 

[chefsteph07]

Fellow Cheffers, I was marrried to a controlling person. I don't want to stifle your comments. I will present for your consideration that the comments we're making might make it worse for the controllee. It fuels the "see I'm right in doing what I'm doing" attitude.

The person I was involved with did his best to drive wedges between me and everyone I loved. When my family or friends would comment, he would accuse them (to me) of being jealous or prejudiced. It has taken me years to regain the trust of my family and friends and trust for me in other people.

Sorry for the hijack.

You are right, who knows what else he puts her through?
This is prob the tip of the iceberg.

 

[Kitchen Diva]

My hubby respects me way too much to do something so demeaning! Can't wait for him to come home so I can tell him how much I love him!!!

I second that! Honey I love you!!! (just in case he's spying on me- which I'm sure he's not!)

 

[crissy11]

Well if he is still on here viewing what is being written then maybe she needs to change his password and tell him to get to work. He isn't too productive if he is still here.
Sounds like he is wanting the computer all to himself so she can't figure out what sites he goes to.... hmmmm....

 

[susanr613]

AdminGreg, any chance you can inactivate this thread so no one can post possible inflammatory comments? Some of us are concerned about the effect the comments will have on a member of the CS community.

Thank you

 

[PamperedCaniac]

Wow.... and I mean WOW! I want to say so much more about Love and Respect and controlling issues but I will just leave it at WOW for now.

 

[chefshawna]

I checked and they're not online anymore.

 

[cwinter474]

This is unbelievable! Praying for her safety. I find this very distrubing.

 

[susanr613]

Good then lets MOVE ON or hijack this thread for the positive!

What's the funniest thing that ever happened to you in your PC biz?

I started in November and did a show in January for a potential recruit. I had to bring 11-year old DS. He was the only kid and mostly hung out in a spare bedroom and played his gameboy. Curiosity and general hamminess got the better of him, so he ventured out to the crowd of ladies and asked to help. This was before the interactive show, so I was making a spread for the 30-min Chicken. DS asked to help; after the ladies said yes I had him shake some spices into the bowl. On the last shake he said BAM!!! Everyone laughed her head off, and yes the host did sign and is my one and only recruit.

 

[pamperedlinda]

I checked and they're not online anymore.

Maybe they are invisible...

 

[pamperedlinda]

cute story Susan

 

[susanr613]

waiting for yours, linda......

 

[etteluap70PC]

AdminGreg, any chance you can inactivate this thread so no one can post possible inflammatory comments? Some of us are concerned about the effect the comments will have on a member of the CS community.

Thank you

If this is truly disturbing and you are worried then everyone should hit the "report post" (The little triangle outlined in red under avatar pictures) button on the initial message. Let Greg know your concerns and stop posting.

Please remember posting anything inflamitory could have very bad ramifications for Kristina.

Also if we stop posting it will drop off the "New posts" that many of us read first.

 

[pamperedlinda]

waiting for yours, linda......

hmmm, I'll have to think a bit. I'm supposed to be doing my 3-2-1 right now - I need to replace a show I just lost

 

[PChefPEI]

Good then lets MOVE ON or hijack this thread for the positive!

What's the funniest thing that ever happened to you in your PC biz?

I started in November and did a show in January for a potential recruit. I had to bring 11-year old DS. He was the only kid and mostly hung out in a spare bedroom and played his gameboy. Curiosity and general hamminess got the better of him, so he ventured out to the crowd of ladies and asked to help. This was before the interactive show, so I was making a spread for the 30-min Chicken. DS asked to help; after the ladies said yes I had him shake some spices into the bowl. On the last shake he said BAM!!! Everyone laughed her head off, and yes the host did sign and is my one and only recruit.

LOL! Great story! I can't wait until I can bring DD to my shows with me. She helped with my open house, setting things up and it was a lot of fun having her help out. She's my Little Pampered Chef (or Princess, I should say!! )

Now the funniest thing that ever happened....I need to think about that one!

 

[chefshawna]

Maybe they are invisible...

How do you become invsible?? Is it a cool spray? LOL

 

[pamperedlinda]

How do you become invsible?? Is it a cool spray? LOL

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[janetupnorth]

1. It needs to stay.
2. It needs to be locked.

 

[sk8rgrrl99]

Good then lets MOVE ON or hijack this thread for the positive!

What's the funniest thing that ever happened to you in your PC biz?

I started in November and did a show in January for a potential recruit. I had to bring 11-year old DS. He was the only kid and mostly hung out in a spare bedroom and played his gameboy. Curiosity and general hamminess got the better of him, so he ventured out to the crowd of ladies and asked to help. This was before the interactive show, so I was making a spread for the 30-min Chicken. DS asked to help; after the ladies said yes I had him shake some spices into the bowl. On the last shake he said BAM!!! Everyone laughed her head off, and yes the host did sign and is my one and only recruit.

I don't have a funny one but I have a cute one.

I had an open house to get started and my recruiter brought her DD (about 7 years old I think.) Her daughter was good as gold and sat coloring while we had our show. A few days later in the mail I got an adorable picture that her DD had drawn of my kitty Harvey. I have the picture on my fridge.

 

[chefdiana2007]

Still worried and hope she is well. Very scary when somebody is so controlling and have gotten to the point were they are not worried what others will think. I have seen this so many times before.


Let's all pray and send good vibes to Kristina.

I aagree with you. He is either an abusive control freak or he is just trying to stir up trouble. From the tone of the email, which should be a HUGE RED FLAG for all of us, it is probably the first.

 

[susanr613]

its so much fun when the kids get involved. wasn't it wc fields who refused to work with animals or children? not me....having kids participate in the show is great!

 

[sk8rgrrl99]

I agree - I love to cook and bake with my nieces. They are 1 and 3. We make a mess and have to hose down them and the kitchen after but it's worth it.

 

[Jenni]

Greetings CS community, This is Kristi's husband.I would like to start by saying that Kristi has gotten some good ideas and other information that is beneficial to her business, and we thank you all for that.The problem is that she gets these "good ideas", and then does nothing with them because she is looking for more of them; and thus does nothing but sit here reading these forums, when she could be making calls or planning events.It is because of this, that I have discussed with her an intervention. I have just changed her password and email for this forum, and will now be limiting/denying her access to them; for as helpful as they are, they are also proving to be a hindrance.I hope in the future she will learn to manage her time a bit better and may have the abilities to work time on this forum into her schedule, without neglecting more important tasks.With that said, I shall depart; and so shall she. Farewell for now.

I am changing my post... I meant every word I said but I should not be adding fuel to the fire.

 

[kspry]

Oh good grief, now you're mentioning idvorce? That is over the top.

 

[jrstephens]

I cannot find "report post" anywhere? Help please. I think the whole thread should either be deleted or locked.

Thank u dear Lord for my great husband!

 

[sk8rgrrl99]

I just reported it - it's the little red triangle with the black line in it. Sorry, that was vague but it's under your avatar picture.