Feeling Guilty After Guilt-Tripping a Host

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Discussion Overview

This thread discusses a participant's feelings of guilt after a conversation with a host regarding closing a catalog show. The participant expresses concern about potentially guilt-tripping the host into making a decision that may not align with her preferences. Other participants share their thoughts and experiences related to handling host specials and booking shows.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Technical explanation

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, shares their experience of feeling guilty after suggesting a host close a show early to help them qualify.
  • Several participants mention ways to offer the host the special they wanted by using another host's order, suggesting it could be a minimal cost with commission.
  • Another participant expresses uncertainty about how to process orders and asks for clarification on terms like "On Account" and "Consultant's Gift."
  • One participant notes that hosts may not want to pay out of pocket for specials and suggests ways to navigate this situation.
  • Another participant emphasizes the importance of encouraging the host to seek bookings from friends and family to qualify for the special.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ on the best approach to handle the situation with the host, with some participants suggesting proactive measures while others focus on the emotional aspect of the initial conversation.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects personal experiences and strategies related to managing host interactions and promotions within the context of Pampered Chef consulting.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants navigating similar feelings of guilt or uncertainty in their interactions with hosts may find the shared experiences and suggestions relevant.

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Well, for the last three days I have been trying to contact a Host about closing her catalog show by the end of this month, so I can qualify. I left her messages telling her that I'd like to close the show but she can wait 'til July if she wanted the Host Special for that month. Well, she called back this morning and said she wanted to wait 'til July. But my BIG MOUTH said "Awww, I was really hoping for your to close it this month so I can qualify as a Consultant." She said, "Oh, then I will close it this month and help you out." She sounded really bummed becaue she wanted next month's special. I told her "No, no...it's okay....we can wait." But she insisted that she didn't mind, all that while sounding bummed out. I feel like I guilt-tripped her into closing it this month. :( I know I shouldn't have said that...but it slipped. Ugh...me and my big mouth. :o She then asked me "Is this a trick for me to book a show in July?" I said "No, not at all!" Well, she laughed and told me she would give me the orders on the 28th.

I feel so bad that I said that.
 
Hey, it's ok! Can you offer her the special that she wanted for July by ordering it on another Host's order (at 20-30% off) in July, and with your commission, it shouldn't cost you more than a few dollars!

Also, sometimes my host's don't want to pay out of pocket at all, so they don't take advantage of the host special, or the past host that they booked from don't want to buy it either. You can buy it using their name, if so.
 
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jwpamp said:
Hey, it's ok! Can you offer her the special that she wanted for July by ordering it on another Host's order (at 20-30% off) in July, and with your commission, it shouldn't cost you more than a few dollars!

Also, sometimes my host's don't want to pay out of pocket at all, so they don't take advantage of the host special, or the past host that they booked from don't want to buy it either. You can buy it using their name, if so.
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How do I do that??? I am still trying to figure things out....so I don't really know how to do it on PP.
 
You would purchase it under a July hosts name on the hosts order. If that July host gets a 20% discount plus your commission off of it (say 20%) it would be 40% off.

Or if a July host or past host doesn't want the special you could always offer it to this gal and purchase it under the July host's name for her.
 
Don't forget, she is eligble to buy the host special if someone books in July. Tell her to ask all her friends and family if they want a free Pampered Chef shopping spree. It would help her out and you!
 
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kcjodih said:
You would purchase it under a July hosts name on the hosts order. If that July host gets a 20% discount plus your commission off of it (say 20%) it would be 40% off.
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Okay, I just tried to do that to see if it would work...maybe I am not doing it right because PP said that I still needed to pay the Host Special Price. I don't know how to enter it. Am I really that dense??? :o

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Okay...so when "I" pay....do I do it under "On Account" or "Consultant's Gift?" What does "On Account" mean anyway???
 
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I'm not sure what 'on account' means either:confused: I've used 'consultant gift' before, then it will ask if you want to add the gift as a consultant expense...you'd say yes so it saves it for you for tax time.
Personally, I'd see if she can get someone to book a July show. If not, then wait & see like the others said, chances are someone won't purchase the host special, then you just order it on that host's order. (or past host) I've done that several times to have stuff for prizes & such.
 
speedychef said:
Don't forget, she is eligble to buy the host special if someone books in July. Tell her to ask all her friends and family if they want a free Pampered Chef shopping spree. It would help her out and you!
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That's EXACTLY what I'd suggest to your host. You took the words right out of my mouth. There's still time for her to find bookings before the show closes. Then you all get what you want out of it. Good luck!:D
 
redd3708 said:
Okay...so when "I" pay....do I do it under "On Account" or "Consultant's Gift?" What does "On Account" mean anyway???
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"On Account" means you are paying for it first and then the guest will pay it back later. You can use this for accounting purposes, to help you keep track of who owes you money. I would only do this for a friend, someone I know well!
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I do if I feel guilty after guilt-tripping a host?

It's important to acknowledge your feelings and reflect on the situation. Consider reaching out to the host to apologize and clarify your intentions. Open communication can help mend any misunderstandings and restore a positive relationship.

How can I prevent guilt-tripping hosts in the future?

To avoid guilt-tripping, focus on positive reinforcement and encouragement. Set clear expectations and communicate openly about the responsibilities of hosting. Emphasizing the fun and benefits of hosting can motivate without making them feel pressured.

What are the signs that I may be guilt-tripping a host?

Signs of guilt-tripping may include making passive-aggressive comments, emphasizing the host's obligations, or expressing disappointment if they don’t meet certain expectations. If you notice these behaviors, it may be time to reassess your approach.

How can I rebuild trust with a host after guilt-tripping them?

Rebuilding trust involves sincere apologies and demonstrating understanding of their feelings. Show appreciation for their efforts and offer support without pressure. Building a positive rapport can help restore the relationship over time.

Is it common to feel guilty in direct sales after interacting with hosts?

Yes, it's common to feel guilt in direct sales, especially when trying to motivate hosts. The key is to balance encouragement with respect for their autonomy. Reflecting on your interactions can help you grow and improve your approach in the future.

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