Anyone Ever Dealt With Teen-Age Bullies??

[itsjustCarla]

Just an update.....I shot off an email to the principal a week or so ago (my son won't tell me much, because he knows I kick into "mom mode"). He said that he took care of the bully problem immediately and that he and my son have a "signal" that Tyler gives to the principal if he has any problems. So far, things have been going good and have "improved significantly."

 

[JAE]

Glad to hear it, Carla.

My friend ended up having a meeting with the superintendent after speaking with the principal. It turned out quite well as far as what was understood between them. Now, we just have to see if he will follow through. We are happy that at least he agreed that bullying should not be tolerated. Boys will be boys, but they still have to learn that bullying is not acceptable in any way shape or form. One thing the super said was "This is a Christian school. This shouldn't be happening and we use the bible to back us up." The bible is the leg we stand on, and the principal has to have a back bone. It shouldn't happen anywhere, but a Christian school can go to the kids and the parents and say "Hello? Not going to happen here. Ever!"

Again, we'll see what the superintendent does with this. I hope a specific policy is written about bullying, not just using the "behavior" policy.

 

[Curlyone]

My son had the same problems when he was in middle school. He was very small for his age (premie) but he was very smart. These boys tried to trap him in the hallways. He wanted to handle this on his own and he did. But it did transfer over into high school. Believe it or not, my son and some of these boys are now actually friends. Not great friends, but friends just the same.

He is now in the Corps of Cadets at Virginia Tech. He had a lot of problems in his first year there. The freshmen are the lowest of the low. They are actually called "Rats". He had a few in his company constantly doing things to him. Hitting him during football games, calling him names, making fun of his feet, and trying to get him to quit the Corps. But he hung in there (now a Junior) and they main kid that was doing this actually quit the Coprs. at the end of his freshman year.

My son is quite the mature man now. I see how he handled this (I would have been kicking some serious butt) and even though everyone (from his "buds" to the upper levels) knew this was going on. They allowed it to weed out the "weeklings". Some of the Seniors and people in his chain of command told him "don't take no s *** off your buds. Nip it in the bud!" It just made me hot knowing that we were PAYING big $'s to a school where my son was being bullied! My son is a bigger person that I am.

I feel your pain, but now that it is over with, he feels better having handled it him self.

My only advice is if you feel that your son is in danger, get the princliple involved. My DH wasn't as upset as I was (I guess it is a guy thing). The kids today are very mean and some of their parents arn't much better. The apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree.

I pray for ALL the children in the world to be safe, even the bullies.

Connie