wadesgirl
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This is completely off topic but I need some help and guidance and to see if there is anyone else going through what I am. I want a baby! DH and I have decided to be responsible and wait until we get a house to have a baby. The biggest problem is everyone around me! I’m hearing it from all sides “When are you having a baby?” “Just go off the pill” etc. I would love to have a baby right now but I know the right thing to do for us. There are a lot of people who are pregnant around me, two coworkers, four cousins, etc. Along with a lot of people who were married after us that are getting pregnant. I’ve been working very hard this year on myself since all my issues in the spring (for those who remember) but this is totally dragging me down. Talking to DH does nothing because the last time he was so negative about the situation he went back to this “I don’t even want kids, we cannot afford them” thing. My family is just as bad. I’m constantly bombarded with the baby question, including SIL who got her DH snipped after two kids but says she wants more babies around. The last time she said something I told her that if she gave us enough money for a down payment on a house I would have a baby for her. DH thought I was rude but I’m so sick of it. SIL makes enough money to not have to worry about these kind of things. I’ve been an aunt since I was 10, my sister has 5 kids. I adore her kids completely, I’ve always said that they are my babies until I have my own but it’s no longer fulfilling the need inside of me because I don’t get to see them that often. Then there are people around me who have babies who shouldn’t (ex best friend has two she could care less about). Why is it that these people can be so irresponsible and I have to be so responsible about this?! I do go back for a 6 month check up with my doctor so I’m going to talk with him about this if I get the nerve to. I just need a shoulder to lean on right and really have no one around me I can spill to. I love my sister with all my heart but she’s been one of the biggest pushers for me to have a baby. I’m know I’m not getting any younger (I’m 27, I'm not that old though) but my biggest thought is DH. He’s 38 and I don’t want him to be too old when our kids are older. Along with the fact that his parents would love to have more grandbabies and his dad’s health isn’t exactly the best. I would love to give his dad another grandbaby. In my mind if we wait and his dad is no longer around, I’ll feel so bad. DH’s sister passed away over 5 years ago and wasn’t able to have kids and his only brother is done having kids so we are the only ones left in his family. I’m rambling on now but I feel so much more comfortable telling my virtual “family” about this than talking with anyone close to me.