How Did My Ex-Dh Handle the DC Dilemma?

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Discussion Overview

This thread centers around a participant's positive experience discussing a trip to Washington, D.C. with her ex-husband and his current wife. Participants express relief and happiness regarding the cooperative approach taken by the ex-husband in planning the trip, as well as sharing personal anecdotes and opinions about ex-partner relationships.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as Carolyn, shares her relief that her ex-husband is open to discussing the trip and is willing to involve his current wife.
  • Several participants express happiness for Carolyn, noting that her ex seems to prioritize the children's happiness over personal grievances.
  • One participant mentions missing their ex but humorously reflects on their own situation.
  • Another participant appreciates the positive dynamics between Carolyn and her ex, suggesting that more divorced parents should adopt a similar approach for their children's sake.
  • Some participants speculate about the willingness of the ex-husband's current wife to join the trip, with mixed opinions on her potential response.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

General agreement exists among participants regarding the positive nature of Carolyn's situation and the importance of cooperation between ex-partners for the benefit of their children. However, views differ on the likelihood of the current wife agreeing to join the trip.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects personal experiences and feelings related to co-parenting and relationships with ex-partners, highlighting the emotional complexities involved.

Who May Find This Useful

This thread may be of interest to members of the consultant community who are navigating similar co-parenting situations or seeking to share experiences related to family dynamics after divorce.

dannyzmom
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I sat down with my ex last night to discuss the DC dilemma...and he was totally cool with it. He is going to talk to his wife and see if she'd agree to coming with us to DC for the trip...and if not, then we'll just swap Mother's Day and Father's Day.
I am SO relieved!!!!
He's a good GOOD man....:balloon:
 
That's great!
 
Good news Carolyn! I know you are relieved and the kids will be so happy!
 
Oh Carolyn - I am so glad that it worked out that way - obviously he loves his boys, and is more interested in giving them good things, than in just keeping score of who gets what.
 
I miss my ex.But my aim is improving.
 
The_Kitchen_Guy said:
I miss my ex.

But my aim is improving.
I would love to meet you some day, KG! I'm adding you to my list of people I'd like to have dinner with. I'll sit you right next to Sean Connery. :)

BTW, I call my hubby's ex his practice wife. hee hee

Carolyn, I am sooo very happy that things worked out like they did! What a blessing. I prayed for your family and that situation. Whoo-hoo!!

oh, it'll be hotter than a well diggers fanny in the Belgin Congo in DC in June. :) bring bottled water because the tax rate in DC is like 12.5% (if memory serves me right) so a bottle of water from a street vendor is really expensive. :)
 
Whew! Good to hear he's being reasonable.
 
Glad to hear Carolyn. That'll be so much fun for you to have your boys with you!
 
It's always refreshing to hear about ex's working together in the interest of their children. Sounds like he has his priorities in order. Am so glad it worked out Carolyn!
leggy
 
HOORAY for you Carolyn! I am so glad you were able to work it out!

Lisa
 
YAHOO! I'm so thankful this worked out and I'm so impressed with the way you handled the situation! Your honest up front approach has been rewarded as well it should be!
 
More kids (of divorced parents) need parents like you and your ex....afterall, it's "what's in the best interest of the kids, right?"
 
Great news Carolyn!!

I'm so glad I don't have an X!! (husband that is)
 
That's wonderful Caroline! I'm sure he knows how hard you worked to earn that!
 
I hope she can be the better woman and agree to go.
 
That is super Caroline! I am so glad that you don't have to worry about it any further! Very nice thing for him to do...
 
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wadesgirl said:
I hope she can be the better woman and agree to go.

I can't imagine that she will...and believe me, she is a WONDERFUL person - if I'd met her outside of my ex-DH she is someone I would be really good friends with. She's an awesome person - but seriously...would YOU want to go on a trip with your brand new Dh and his ex-wife and kids and everyone?? I know if I were in her shoes I wouldn't want any part of it - LOL If she goes for it, I'll be very impressed...
 
I've seen stranger things!
 

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What is the DC Dilemma in the context of direct sales?

The DC Dilemma refers to the challenges and conflicts that can arise when a direct seller, such as a Pampered Chef consultant, must balance their business responsibilities with personal relationships, particularly after a separation or divorce. This can include managing time, finances, and emotional stress while trying to maintain a successful business.

How did my ex-DH cope with the pressures of the DC Dilemma?

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