Anyone Ever Not Want to Do a Show?

[MissChef]

schel,
This happened to me a couple of months ago and I washed my hands of the host too! She has still NEVER called me back after many attempts to reach her, at least to get my host pack back! So I'm done.... finished:grumpy: !
A lot of people say just show up, but that's not my style and I will not show up with my kit and food bought, standing there at her door looking like an idiot! JMHO! And that is what I'd feel like! I'd rather be home with my family!
So, I support your decision and if you are truely done, just move on. I haven't thought of the host I mentioned until I read your post and it felt good and still does feel good to just get the grief out of my life!:yuck: I love my PC business and have phenominal host relationships and I will not let people who do not respect me enough to call me back and go through with their shows, ruin my thoughts and attitude about my business and that's what will happen if you focus on this one bad apple! :grumpy: !

 

[pamperedgirl3]

I'm getting nervous about my show this weekend. We already had to reschedule from last month (I knew about that a couple of weeks before the show). I never got a guest list, but she kept saying she'd send it. That was two weeks ago! I haven't heard from her since then--I keep calling every other day to discuss recipes & have to leave a message every time. I've also sent two emails about recipes. Nothing. It's an hour away & I'm wondering if I should call tomorrow with a message that since I haven't heard from her to discuss her show at all & never received her guest list that I am assuming she's not having her show. I really don't want to drive 2 hours (there & back) for nothing! I just don't understand why she hasn't even replied to an email! This is only the second time in my PC career that this has happened. The other time I left a message that I assumed the show was off & never heard from her again. But this person is someone I'll see often b/c all her family members have had shows & they've already talked about starting over again in the fall/winter.

 

[schel]

I'm getting nervous about my show this weekend. We already had to reschedule from last month (I knew about that a couple of weeks before the show). I never got a guest list, but she kept saying she'd send it. That was two weeks ago! I haven't heard from her since then--I keep calling every other day to discuss recipes & have to leave a message every time. I've also sent two emails about recipes. Nothing. It's an hour away & I'm wondering if I should call tomorrow with a message that since I haven't heard from her to discuss her show at all & never received her guest list that I am assuming she's not having her show. I really don't want to drive 2 hours (there & back) for nothing! I just don't understand why she hasn't even replied to an email! This is only the second time in my PC career that this has happened. The other time I left a message that I assumed the show was off & never heard from her again. But this person is someone I'll see often b/c all her family members have had shows & they've already talked about starting over again in the fall/winter.

I would do as I did.... I finally called for the last time stating...
"I am calling to touch base with you about your show. If I do not hear back from you by 9:00AM, (on such n such a date) I will assume we will not be doing a show."
I am now done with her. I will wash my hands of it and move on. I also will spend a quality dinner with my family tonight around my own table!
So, like Julie Wietz has said in the past... Look at it as a "gift from GOD"
he has provided me with time to spend with my family.
I don't know why people have to be so wishy washy!
Good luck.

 

[pamperedgirl3]

Well, I finally heard back from the host. She postponed the show, but I'm actually glad. We never sent out invites & I could use a Saturday with my family. I'm just glad to know today rather than Saturday morning!

 

[schel]

Glad for you. I hate those flakey hosts!

 

[Kitchen2u]

Ginny...your story touched me to! I've had shows in less desirable places, but most of the time, the host is a jewel in the rough...and I cherish my experience there! Sometimes I've dreaded shows, and come away with very little sales, but 2 bookings, that turn out to be a long string of shows, one show (that was booked from a small show in a trailer) was a $900 show. I'm still having shows 2 years after that small show in the trailer...and have some potential recruits from these recent shows....

If you've never done it...sorta 'family tree' your shows...Take one host that got a couple bookings,...and see how many shows and bookings came from that ONE show...it's amazing !!

Nicole ~ your post so perfectly stated...that's where I wanted to finish my post...but forgot ~ trying to type through my tears I shed every time I tell it.

Ginny,
That is such a cool story and what an amazing experience you had. Thank you so much for sharing it. How incredible that that one day and that experience changed your life. Wow. I guess it does go to show, you may never know a person's situation. What a great example to try not to pre-judge.

Thanks everyone, but I didn't post it to get all the kudos...just wanted to realize what can happen if we judge. Like Becky said, "you may never know a person's situation." So remember this situation when you "judge" the next time.

Wow...Ginny.

Your story is proof that God uses us in many different ways. He obviously used you to help her out in her time of need. You really made a difference there!

It continues to amaze me how God has used many of our PC businesses to touch lives...much deeper than just getting them free product or a business! He is so good!

Kelly ~ you are definitely correct, "God used us in many different ways." But I looked at this situation that I was also the fortunate one. Don't get me wrong, she was fortunate God put me there for her. But I got a gift at the same time...a message well taken to my heart too!

I pray that she did not have children who witnessed all that abuse. What a caring lady you are!

Amy ~ another blessing, the kids were not home at THIS time. But I can't answer for the other abusive times. I hope not. Funny, I didn't look at this as a "caring" lady...I was put there for a reason, right?

My wish/outcome out of this. I hope all of you will remember this situation. Remember it when we "think" of prejudging. Remember who we are and why we are doing PC.

. . . And definitely don't forget: Kindness and compassion ~ treat others as you would like to treat you ~ that's all I was doing.

 

[Kitchen2u]

PS ~ Schel ~ sorry for the hijack! LOL

 

[schel]

So guess what I thought I'd be a pain in the *#@ Pampered Chef Lady and call and see if I even got an answer from that lady and her husband answered and actually gave the phone to her and she said; "I don't think I will be doing a show, I have no one coming. Could I do a book show?"
I told her yes and was very polite and told her if she got her sales to $300.00 I would submit as a cooking show. She said she thinks she can get her sales to this and she would call me next Wednesday. I politly said ok I will talk to you then. I will be totally surprised if she calls me. I guess nothing should surprise me anymore.

 

[Kitchen2u]

Hopefully, for you, she does get some orders...crossing my fingers for ya Schel!

 

[Paula R. Lewis]

Who needs soap operas? Sometimes I think we all live in one!

Good luck, Schel, and keep us posted on the "next episode"!! lol

Paula

 

[heatherkiss]

Ginny,

Thanks for sharing your story. I will always remember it.

 

[schel]

Hopefully, for you, she does get some orders...crossing my fingers for ya Schel!

Thanks Ginny and everyone else for the oppertunity to VENT!!! :yuck:

 

[MissChef]

Ginny,

Thanks for sharing your story. I will always remember it.

Quick small hijack here!! :balloon: Heatherkiss, I love your avatar! How fun! I'm assuming that's you and your (hubby?) sweetheart!:love: ?!
You two look great!:love: :thumbup:
Schel.... good luck! I hope it works out well, you never know, it could turn out to be a great catalog show!

 

[vwpamperedchef]

Ginny! Amazing story, thank you for sharing, brought tears to my eyes!

 

[smspamperedchef]

You made me BOOHOO!

Make lemonade out of lemons! Remember, the appearance of someone, their house, the neighborhood is not a reflection on you. As we've been trained to know ~ nor should you judge someone/house/neighborhood. I've been to places I wouldn't dare go on my own, but my attitude and having FUN at the shows have made the difference. I treat every host/party the same. I have no idea their situation at hand. I coach each host the same, I expect the same from all of them too. Everyone deserves respect.

Mind you, I'm not perfect or a saint by any means. My attitude and judgement wasn't always like this until...

Similiar to your story, the host's house was a mess. Dirty laundry all over the house, carpet obviously hadn't been vacumned in months, kids had free range of coloring on the walls, kids didn't look like they bathed in a long time, half clothed, not groomed at all, food all of the counter/floor/table/etc. ~ it was so filthy, I really didn't want to put my crate down...yes, it was that bad...the list goes on! Then the thoughts in my head was going a mile a minute. How could she have people over to a mess like this? She was cooking food for everyone ~ would I eat something made in this house? I can't tell you or could you ever imagine...

But we did the show, she had 17 of her family/friends over...it was a $2K show...but that wasn't my concern at all. The first time in my PC career, sales weren't on my mind. SHE worried me. There was something about her (I just can't explain) that concerned me. I treated her the same as any of my other hosts...no different, with respect and kindness.

Got excited and told her how much she was getting for free/discounted. I talked her up to the hilt. After everyone left, I continued to tell her how great she did, yada, yada, yada. We closed out her show that day, I gave her a hug (like I always do), thanked her and told I would bring over her receipts the next day. We set a time for me to come the next day. Mind you, normally I would send receipts in the mail. She didn't live near me, it was about a 40 minute drive...but my gut feeling was I NEEDED to bring them to her the next day.

So I get there the next day at 10 AM. I get up to the door and I hear a LOT of yelling and screaming coming from inside. It was obviously a man and her. I decided to call 911. The authories came, long story short, they arrested her husband.

I stuck around, only because she asked me to. After everything cleared we went back into her house. She cleared a place for me to sit down, covering it with what looked liked a clean towel. I held her hand, she was shaking of course. I just held her hand. No words were exchanged. About 20 minutes passed. She said this to me...I will nevery forget these words...

"Ginny, thank you. You save my life. I'm sorry for the mess this house was in yesterday for my party. But I could not cancel this party on YOU. You always treated my with the upmost respect...more than ANYONE has in my entire life. I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you. I had my house in the best shape it's ever been about 2 hours before you arrived. My husband came home in a dunken stuper and went through this house like a mad man. Luckily, he left on his own about 10 minutes before you came. I worried the entire time of the party, he would come during the party. Thank goodness he didn't.

Two days ago, I got the papers to serve him with a divorce. I was just trying to think how I was going to it. I didn't have any family/friends who would serve him (wow, I thought ~ no one would serve him?) so I knew the only way would be have the sherriff dept do it.

Well, this morning, he arrived at the house about 10 minutes before you came. I KNEW you were coming and I tried to get him to leave. He started on a rampage again, accusing me of having an affair and trying to get rid of him before the "other" person came...that's why the house was so clean yesterday! Of course, it got into a heated argument. I blurted out that the sheriff dept would be serving him in the next few days. I know I should not have said this, but I did. He said that both he and I would not be alive for that day to come. He began beating me again. (The day of her party she wore long pants, turtleneck sweater, only her face was showing...it was 105 degrees that day). I just prayed and prayed you would arrive when you said you would, but I knew you would because you're always have in the past. When you said you would call, you did. If you said you would come by, you did. So I was counting on you to be on time. You were. Now. he's being served with papers while sitting in his jail cell.

I woke up today with 2 choices. Face him and die or take my own life. I chose to face him with your help, Ginny. Thank you, thank you, thank you for saving my life."

That day, changed my life forever. I learned so much from this experience. I was ashamed of myself, the thoughts I had, etc. I have learned so much from this wonderful lady...she and I have grown from that day ~ and so has our friendship...4 years later. She thanked me, I should have thanked her that day!

SORRY ~ this my not pertain to your situation, I just had to share it. I have had uncomfortable situations turn out to be WONDERFUL. Best wishes with you!

 

[Paula R. Lewis]

Ginny,
It is truly an inspirational story! Thanks for "re-living" it with all of us!!

Blessings,
Paula