A Day of Hardship: My Worst Nightmare

[BettieC]

Please, don't stop posting! I look forward to your posts, as I am new too. You are about 1-2 months ahead of me. I started 11-08.

I understand being upset, about certain posts, but sometimes people are so pationate about certain subjects, that it's hard to communicate to each other without hurting feelings, especially in postings. It's hard to hear a person's meaning when reading a post...kwim?

I'm glad everything is worked out.....on all issues

BIG Hugs!!

 

[janetupnorth]

Totally missed this until now, and I guess I'm kind of glad I did.If you saw my thread today, I'm going through vehicle issues too...always at the worst time, but it too shall pass!Hang in there, glad the house is good...

 

[chefsteph07]

Please, don't stop posting! I look forward to your posts, as I am new too. You are about 1-2 months ahead of me. I started 11-08.

I understand being upset, about certain posts, but sometimes people are so pationate about certain subjects, that it's hard to communicate to each other without hurting feelings, especially in postings. It's hard to hear a person's meaning when reading a post...kwim?

I'm glad everything is worked out.....on all issues

BIG Hugs!!

Andrea, I just PM'd you about basically this same thing...

 

[AnnieBee]

To those of you who saw my need for a "shoulder to cry on", thank you very much for your kind words.

To those of you who gave good advice, thank you too.

To those of you who were extremely rude to me in your responses, I want to thank you too. Thank you for helping me to relealize why I need to keep my mouth shut and not look to anyone for support but myself. I'm the only one who can't let me down.

This will be my last post on this site. At least for now. I'm just totally completely frustrated how people can be so mean to people they have never even met. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I respect that, but to belittle a person the way that I was is just plain wrong.

For those of you who actually care about the situation, I want all of you to know that last night I did move the dog into the garage which is heated to about 50 degrees, and my bf helped me do it. We also had a very long discussion this morning about it. No decissions will be made until he talks to his son about exactly what happened.

Also, to those still concerned about the forclosure on the house, it has all been settled. The bank refinanced the house and has worked wonderfully with us (him) to make arrangements. My BF has also been able to get over the slump during the holidays and is back to work for his business, although he is still laid off from his full time job. I got a promotion and raise at work, and now that he is doing some side work, things aren't a struggle as much anymore. Also, the other truck came out of the shop today for almost $200 less then what was thought! Thats a major plus! The wrecked truck will just sit there until the spring when he can work on it.

I am so glad to hear that things have settled done a bit, and so glad to hear the good news about the house and vehicle repairs being better than expected.

I'm really glad you and DB were able to talk things through a bit this morning. And we all are prone to not handing ourselves well when we are tired and stressed, and having a child hurt on top of that would probably put me at breaking point! I really hope the two of you are able to keep open and calm communication! You are a team, and his son needs you to be one!

As for not posting, I also request that you don't stop. Please don't let one bad experience put you off, when there are so many people here who want to help. And re-reading my post, I hope there was nothing there that made you feel hurt or attacked, my hope was to be supportive, and hopefully give some ideas, while remembering that a dog attacking a child is NOT a small matter.

And I hope you don't really believe that you should not look for support because "only you can't let yourself down". Because firstly, there are many people who won't let you down, (or at least not intentionally - nobody's perfect!), and secondly, it is VERY possible to let ourselves down. I'm sure each one of us has. Which is why we need others to encourage us, motivate us, help us, let us cry on their shoulders, and on occasion give us a kick in the pants . Really, without relationships (meaning family, friends, SO's etc) life is SO less meaningful. Why walk by yourself when you can have company .

ANyway, again this is not meant to be preachy but helpful, encouraging, and a way of saying don't go, we'll miss you.

 

[susanr613]

Andrea, I'm glad things are looking up for you and your family. If you need to take a break from posting, take a break. You can always PM any of us if/when you want/need advice, especially about the business itself. There's a wealth of information here.

Take care,

 

[Teresa Lynn]

Please don't stop posting....
I hope you didn't feel my post was rude, when I wrote it I was intending for it to be a vote for your DS and his side of the story.... not attacking youI watched my parent's dog attack our son, we know it wasn't provoked it can happen

 

[pampchefrhondab]

Wow I missed this post until now - I guess I'm glad I did too.

Although I think people were just trying to give you their honest opinion, I can see how you could take it as being beat up when you are already down.

I know how you feel. We just had to put a lot of money into our old car. We had first spent $800 fixing the heating system, a week later the engine blew! We had to spend $1,800 getting a new (used) engine. It had a 30 day guarantee so we took the car back when it was leaking antifreeze. Found out it was a gasket which was not covered under the warranty, but they gave us a bargain and fixed it for $200. When then just got all new tires and an wheel allignment this week. While putting on the new tires they discovered we had to replace a rim which was an additional $75. We have now spent $3,300 on that car! Oh, and this was after my husband replaced other parts prior to this! The only thing I can say is it is much less then a new car! We just hope we are done for a while! We just wish the engine would have blown before we paid the $800 for the heating system! We could have purchased a decent care for $3,500!

I'm sorry things have been so rough lately, but glad to hear things are looking up. Please don't stop posting!

 

[candiejayne]

I tried, but I can not stay away... I thought about it and I think I over reacted by saying I wasn't going to post anymore, but the rest I pretty much meant.

I'm over the depressed feeling sorry for my life, although things havent gotten that much better LOL! I can laugh at things now. Maybe I'm just going crazy! hehe

I came home from my cluster meeting this morning to the sound of the bath tub running in the laundry room (no bathtub in there) I opened the door to see water flying out of the wall!!! I freaked out called my BF, he's all calm, tells me turn off the main valve... yeah cause I know where that is. LOL I got it turned off, got everything moved out of there, and guided the water down the drain. When he got off work, he ran to the store and picked up some pieces, came home and fixed it in about 10 min! He laughed at how freaked out I was. I'm laughing now too, but I just have never seen water shooting out of the wall like a fire hydrent does when they flush them.

Gotta love this cold weather! Funny thing was it was the hot water pipe that froze and exploded!

The dog helped me clean everything up. He thought he was in heaven with water coming out everywhere! He's a lab that loves water, as long as it's not from the hose! For some reason he hates that thing!

 

[pcchefjane]

Be sure and turn all your faucets (but not washer) in sinks & bathtubs on with a bare stream. That will keep the pipes from freezing.

 

[pampchefsarah]

Andrea, I just sent you a PM, but I should have waited a few minutes, and I would have known it wasn't necessary.

Hmm, maybe the dog prefered the 'wall' water over the 'hose' water, because it was warm on a cold day, rather than freezing (even on a hot day). Or, maybe that's just me!

Glad you're back to your normal crazy self. :balloon: :love:

 

[candiejayne]

by the time i let him in there i had the water shut off, he was just excited about the "pool" in there. he was pouncing around and trying to drink it all. the little brat kept trying to pull the wet laundry out of the shower though. Thank goodness laundry was almost done and there was only a load of towels laying on the floor. I was picking up the wet towel, rug, and foam floor tiles and throwing them in the shower to drain some and he was pulling it all back out! I kept telling him to help me carry the stuff in there, but he had his own ideas of helping!

 

[Crystal Patton]

So glad you couldn't stay away!:sing:

I can totally relate to 'the girl reaction'. LOL My DH is sooo handy to have around. I didn't know how handy until he started working on the road and I (that would be me alone) had to plunge the toilet. Do they pull guys out of class in high school and give them a course in this? 'Cus it took me an hour and you know what was everywhere!!!:yuck: I didn't give up, mostly because I really had to go to the bathroom, and I was in the right room - I had major potty mouth. I did prevail!! But man was I not happy about it, I kept saying, "This is why I got married! So I would have a man around to deal with this s**t!" That was two years ago, I can clear that toilet in two plunges now.

Of course I'll post this and tomorrow night it will plug and I'll be suck in there trying to clear it for an hour again.

 

[candiejayne]

lol! I know! My exhusband was worthless, and I learned to do quite a bit on my own, but I much rather prefer having someone around that knows what they are doing. I knew my BF was at work, I had just stopped by and seen him and taken him a sandwich for lunch since his employee didn't show up and he was swamped, so I didn't want to call him. I almost called my dad with the "DADDY!!! HELP!!!" type of call. Luckily I was able to get the valve closed though and it mostly stopped the leaking. I was also very thankful that the valve was under the sink and not down in the crawlspace. That would have definatly been a phone call to any and all males to come help me!

 

[Crystal Patton]

I never did anything 'guy' myself before my DH became a Road-Dog. Before I was married I just tossed my hair and looked needy. Some strapping young man would come and change the tire, or do whatever else I pointed at. I was shameless. My Dh saw right through that and said, 'Hey just ask OK.' So I did, everytime. When I tried to do it myself I alway made it worse and he would say, 'Don't worry, I got it. It's a small thing and I like to take care of you.' (I miss him!!!:cry Now I do it all and he laughs at my stories when I tell him how I try and try until I get right.

I can't toss my hair anymore - he ran all the other guys off. LOL

 

[candiejayne]

LOL! I try to be all big and bad and fix things on my own knowing that if I "struggle" long enough I won't have to do it at all.

Kinda like last summer, I decided to be nice and mow the lawn. There is about an acre here, so I called my BF he was on day 16 in a row of working, I said "how do i start the rider? so he tells me... no problem. I made 2 strips in the yard, hopped off to pick up a large stick, and it has not started since! I so don't know what I did wrong, and he can't figure it out either! I have been banned from yard work, with the exception of planting flowers. I can't screw that up! It worked out great, but now the rider doesnt work so he has to push mow the lawn and I feel sooooo bad!

 

[Crystal Patton]

I told my honey BC (Before Children) that I wanted a pond in our front yard. He said no problem, he would finish it if I dug the hole. I know he was thinking 'No way is she going to do this.' It took me two weekends, 8 hours each day but I got that sucker dug. It was 4 feet by 5 feet, two feet deep with a plant shelf 6 inches wide. He was totalyy blown away that I finished it. Major bennies to him because he kept up his end of the bargin and cemented it in, sealed it and put in a waterfall and pump. It was sooo awesome!!

That'll teach him to challenge me!

Between you and me I was exhasted!

 

[candiejayne]

I BET!!! I keep saying I want one too, but was told the same thing. Maybe this spring I'll show him and start digging a hole in the yard!

Alright, I'm off to bed, I have a basket weaving class tomorrow morning! ttyl!

 

[Crystal Patton]

Me too, - the bed part - Goodnight!

 

[pcsharon1]

I'm an Army wife - if I don't do it, chances are it's going to take months to get done. Right now he is home all the time - well, by that I mean he sleeps here - because he is a recruiter. But he works 12-14 hour days. Last week he dug the holes and put in the posts but I built the rest of the chicken coop!

I didn't read all of the posts after about half of page one I skipped down here but......I am a country girl and I have to tell you that if it is a large, outdoor dog he would probably rather be outside in a dog house filled with straw than stuck inside with a six year old. And the straw is actually really warm. At the same time, if it was cold enough for you to be concerned I'm glad you found a solution.