Is This Possible or Just Plain Taboo?

[GermantownPC]

Recently I found out that a former teachers daughter is engaged. She had already signed with someone else for a bridal registry with another consultant, however, when she found out that I was a consultant she asked if it was possible to switch her registry to underneath me. Is this something that is possible or is this completely taboo? I would hate to do this to another consultant but the gal asked so I wanted to give her the proper information.

Thanks!

 

[jrstephens]

I personally would not be comfortable doing that. But I have no idea if it can actually be done or not. I would say it could not be done and think I remember that somewhere but I do not know for sure.

You could do a shower for her and be the consultant for that.

 

[DebbieSAChef]

Switch itI think sometimes a person is assigned to a consultant who she doesn't necessarily know and when she finds out that somebody she knows is a consultant she wants to switch. I don't see a problem with that.
I think you should tell her to call HO or the consultant and cancel the registry. Then restart one with you.

Debbie

 

[jrstephens]

I will clarify my answer more. If it was just a "random home office " assignment I think it would be fine, but not if she "choose" the consultant herself I would not be comfortable with it. I did not think about random assignments from HO.

 

[crystalscookingnow]

The only problem would be if she already had sales on the current registry. To change, you have to cancel the first registry, then start a new one. If she already has sales on the current one, she'd lose those to start over.

 

[GermantownPC]

Thank you. Again, I would feel horrible doing this to another consultant but from what I was told, the only interraction that she has had with her consultant was the sign up information and a catalog.

 

[crystalscookingnow]

I would say as long as she doesn't have sales on the current one that she would be fine to switch to you!

 

[Grandmarita]

This happened to me, this spring. Altho I had given the bride a catalog, and my card at a party she attended, she incorrectly went to the website of pampered chef.com and entered her information. I waited for ten days after the party before calling the hostess, who was waiting for an incentive gift from me, for any registries she might prompt from her party. The hostess said that her friend had signed up. I then called to confirm how she did it, and she offered to cancel the first registry, and put in my name which she was not sure if she had done or not. She had not been called by the randomly assigned person, at that point.

She later did a catalog party for me, through her hostess friend, but send me
a message that was not far from cordial about how high priced our products are, and she even put on her registry message that her friends could go to Wal-Mart or the Dollar Store and get it cheaper! Can you believe that? I'm not sure that she did me any favors by switching, other than the fact it gave her original hostess friend, some ideas of what PC products to order for her
Shower. I have had no online sales from her registry, and don't expect to.

 

[dwyerkim]

Thank you. Again, I would feel horrible doing this to another consultant but from what I was told, the only interraction that she has had with her consultant was the sign up information and a catalog.

But in what context did she receive those? Did she sign at a party, or at some kind of bridal event? Thinking from the other person's shoes... if you invested $400 plus for a table at a bridal show and then had brides switch to another consultant, wouldn't you be a little upset? I know I would be. I just personally wouldn't do it, I think it is bad karma. I agree with the PP... you could do a show or bridal shower for her but I would just leave the registry piece alone.

 

[Kathytnt]

I have a consultant that just signed last week and her daughter's registry is under me. I am planning to move it under her if I can. But that is a different situation

 

[MGG]

In this case, I personally would not switch the registry. Do onto others as you would want done to you. Be honest with the girl, tell her you're uncomfortable advising her to do something to another consultant you would not want done to you. Tell her the only way to do it would be to cancel that registry all together and that her current consultant would be out the money for the catalog & the cost of sending said catalog to her. Once she has the facts and your honest thoughts on the matter, the choice and the ethical dilema is hers.
I taught high school inner city kids 4 years before retiring to be a SAHM and always told them if your that doubtful about the ethics of your choice, don't do it. That doubt stems from something inside you-learn to listen to that and you'll cultivate high standards and ethics.