Farewell to Thee, Oh Pampered Chef Forum!

[WonderMonkey]

My wife doesn't understand my desire to become a consultant so I am going to not go forward with it. She isn't, and never would, tell me 'no' but without her willing support I don't want to do it. And since I'm not going to be a consultant I don't think it would be productive to spend time here learning all about it.

I want to thank the forum and those that answered all my questions. This is a good community and I hope it grows and stays positive.

 

[ChefJWarren]

Aw shucks! Sorry to see you go! Sometimes its hard for our spouses to have the same passion as we do about our businesses. I make it a daily prayer that my husband see the passion in my heart and embrace it the best way he can.

 

[lacychef]

Oh, that's really too bad! Maybe she'll come around in the future so you can give it a try.

 

[raebates]

Maybe it isn't goodbye. Maybe it's just TTFN (ta ta for now). I applaud your decision to respect your wife's position and wish you well.

 

[janetupnorth]

Just so you know you don't HAVE to leave here. Hang out - other non-consultants or past consultant's do. If it makes you feel better, I waiting over 10 years to sign!!!! PC will be there when it is right for your family.

 

[Sheila]

Ask the consultant that's working to recruit you to order you the book "Come to the Basement" - it's all about how to be a supportive spouse to you PC Consultant. It's small and VERY informative. My hubby read it front to back in just a few minutes. He's now the CEO of my company ... the Carry Everything Outer. I pack my bag before a show and he loads it in the car. When I come home from shows, he unloads my car & does the dishes, instructing me to sit down & do my data entry from the order forms. He's convinced that when he retires from the military, that I'll be established enough to support us and we won't have to touch his retirement money.

If your consultant doesn't get it for you, PM me. I'll order it for you!

 

[Jess_K]

take care !!! come back when the time is right for you and your family.

 

[pamperedpals]

We are sorry to see you go. However, I agree with other's that PC will be here when you and your wife are ready. I also applaud you for respecting your wife's position.

My DH has been very supportive, but last night he finally "got it" and how I feel about my business.

Good luck in whatever your future holds.

 

[WonderMonkey]

* peeking back in *My wife doesn't have any issues with supporting the things that I do, or me supporting the things she does. She does have an issue with *why* I want to do it. Both her and I make good money and we have no struggles there. We are debt free aside from our house payment, etc. So going to make some extra money doesn't make sense to her. I make extra money on the side to stay busy but I do it from 10PM to midnight writing software. To take time away from the family, which I am very involved with, doesn't click with her. I certainly can't fault her reasoning so I just left it at "I'd like to do it" and ended the series of discussions.

 

[chefsteph07]

As far as the "why", why make it about extra money? How about getting awesome cooking tools (*that was my reason when I signed, then it became about extra money) and learning new recipes and tips, plus meeting great hosts and getting out for a hobby??

Maybe if you make it less about the MONEY she'll come around...

 

[PChefPEI]

Sad to see you go, but I envy your relationship. Sounds like you guys are a very closeknit family.

As Rae said, TTFN....you never know!

And, feel free to *peek in* anytime!

 

[PamperedDor]

Everyone's "why" is different - I didn't sign for the money, I did it to get my self out of the house and have fun! I have met so many wonderful people, thru cluster meetings, hosts, guests, conference, here!!! You can make it something you can do together as well - its all how you look at it -

I wish you luck in whatever you end up deciding together. AND like Janet said, you can still come here whenever you want..........

 

[WonderMonkey]

As far as the "why", why make it about extra money? How about getting awesome cooking tools (*that was my reason when I signed, then it became about extra money) and learning new recipes and tips, plus meeting great hosts and getting out for a hobby??

Maybe if you make it less about the MONEY she'll come around...

I didn't make it about money. It was more that I wanted to do it. Yes there are free and/or lower cost PC items but from her point of view she would rather just buy the stuff and not have me be too busy (which I tend to be). She doesn't want me to work myself into the hospital (which I have done) when we could easily buy the stuff if we wanted.

 

[chefsteph07]

Oh, I thought in your previous post you had stated that your wife didn't want you doing it because you didn't need the extra money...

Well...good luck, hopefully you will join us when the time is right!

 

[Kitchen2u]

My husband felt exactly the way your wife does during the first year with PC (8 years later!). But once I involved all of them with my business...it changed his mind. Occassionally he comes with me to my shows as well as my daughter. Before my son started working, he did too. Once I FIGURED OUT I wasn't spending the "night time" time with them...that's when it became a problem. Make it about THEM, not just you. (sounding like recruiting folks too...make it about them and they will sign)

Best wishes to you and your family ~

 

[pampchefsarah]

Ah, WonderMonkey, I hope you stick around the forum - if only to be with like-minded friends. I do understand your wife's position, and agree it would be difficult without her support. But, we'll miss you here if you leave us completely!

 

[WonderMonkey]

Oh, I thought in your previous post you had stated that your wife didn't want you doing it because you didn't need the extra money...

Well...good luck, hopefully you will join us when the time is right!

Well true... that's one of the reasons she doesn't understand. But if the family NEEDED money and the kids were doing without we would put personal wants and time with the family and do what needs to be done to provide for them. But since we are not in that situation she can't see why I would want to trade that time to do PC.

 

[Curlyone]

My Hubby did not support me either when I first started (04/08). :cry: He still has his moments. But I like getting out and I love the products. So I guess this is about me and not him. If it was causing a problem with my marriage, then I would not do it. I can understand your wifes' point of view about the trading of time. My family is my most important bond and they come first. :love:

Spend time with them. She might tell you to go do PC just to get you out of her hair!!!! Just kidding. If this is where you are supposed to be, then God will make the way for you to be here. If not, then maybe now is not the right time to be with PC. Put this in His hands, and then see what plans He has for you.