My husband and I have been best friends with a couple from our church for about 6 years now. Last week the wife and 2 daughters (4 yrs. & 1 yr.) of this family moved in with the wife's mom in Oklahoma, about 16 hours from here...separating from the husband. Apparently the separation is "amicable" and a decision on both their parts. I've been struggling with this alot....they swear that it's all temporary, and they are still fighting to make it all work in the end. There are just a lot of indicators that family and friends alike see as the "beginning to the end". I don't want to seem negative...it's just been really hard not too. #1...I don't see how they are going to be able to work on the marriage when she decided to move 16 hours away, #2...this situation didn't come up until after her trip to OK in the spring, where she was reacquainted with an ex from high school, and with whom she's kept in constant contact with ever since (unknowingly to her husband) #3...all of a sudden, she's decided to go back to college while she's there, so that she has a degree if "God forbid anything would happen to" the husband. I love my friend dearly, and I don't want to think the worst of her, but things have changed so much in such a short period of time. She was sort of upset with me before she left becuase I didn't seem supportive of her decision. I've just had a really hard time even trying to fake any kind of support when I don't really agree with what she's done....especially if my worst fears have a foundation.
I hope all of this has made some sense. It's been kind of a whirwind couple of weeks as well as emotional.
Thanks for your thoughts!
I hope all of this has made some sense. It's been kind of a whirwind couple of weeks as well as emotional.
Thanks for your thoughts!