Am I Being Overlooked by My Director During Difficult Times?

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Discussion Overview

The thread centers around a participant's feelings of being overlooked by their director during a challenging personal time. The participant expresses frustration about not receiving a meeting reminder and questions their importance within the team. Various responses offer perspectives on the situation, including suggestions for communication and understanding the director's potential oversight.

Discussion Character

  • Opinion-based
  • Anecdotal
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, shares feelings of being overlooked due to not receiving a meeting reminder during a difficult personal period.
  • Another participant suggests emailing the director to clarify the situation and express a desire to remain involved despite personal challenges.
  • Several users mention that the lack of a reminder could have been an oversight and not intentional neglect, emphasizing that directors also have their own lives and responsibilities.
  • One participant notes that if the individual has communicated a preference for less frequent contact, it may have influenced the director's actions.
  • Another participant reflects on their own experiences as a director, acknowledging that mistakes happen and encouraging communication about needs and expectations.
  • Some participants suggest setting personal reminders for meetings to avoid future issues with attendance.
  • One participant highlights the challenges of feeling disconnected in larger teams and suggests seeking support from other team members.
  • Another participant emphasizes the importance of clear communication with the director regarding personal business goals and needs.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ on whether the director's actions were intentional or simply an oversight. Some participants believe that communication is key, while others suggest that the participant may need to adjust their expectations based on previous discussions with the director.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects personal experiences and feelings related to team dynamics and communication within the context of a direct sales business, particularly during challenging personal circumstances.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants who are navigating similar feelings of disconnection or oversight within their teams may find the shared experiences and perspectives relevant.

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I know I should just let this go but I if I've ever needed incouragement it's NOW!
Our monthly meeting was last night and yes it is usually the same time each month, but in this past month my mother has been in the hospital and rehab for a broken hip and my husband and I were in a five car pile up. My director usually sends an email and/or facebook group reminder about the meeting and for what ever reason did not do that this month. So, with every thing on me I had not thought about the meeting untill to late, and this morning she sent out an email to thank everyone for coming and for there help with different things. (This tells me that she talked to someone one our team)

I have been inactive for a month and I am struggleing with my business. I only want to work PT and I have told her she does not have to call me all the time (that just adds more presure) but she usually sends the reminders and I do enjoy the meeting for the most part.

I'm not sure how to handle this. Just let it go or email her. I guess I just feel like scense I told her she didn't have to call much and I don't have lots of big orders all the time that I'm just not important to her.

This is my business and I am free to work as much or as little as my life allows. But I should still be part of her team and treated as such. Right??????

Encouragement Please!!!!!!!:thumbup:
 
I would email her and ask her to check her group list, as it seems perhaps your email address was omitted when she sent out the info prior to the meeting. Let her know that while you do have a lot going on, you would still like to attend those meetings and you are still working to build your business.

While it was not her decision to make, she may have thought she was doing you a favor by not including you and making you feel like you HAD to attend or help with everything else going on.
 
I'm sorry that you feel that you were "left out" by your director. Maybe she didn't send out an email this month as a reminder since the meetings are held at the same time...did you come to the prior month meeting? Was the date discussed for this upcoming meeting?

It could have been a simple oversight. Directors have lives and things going on as well. I'm sure she never meant to make you feel slighted in any way. Maybe she had alot going on as well and just didn't send one out this time.

IF you feel you should say something I would say something like "I"m so sorry I missed the meeting, I must not have gotten the email reminder and with everything going on this month it slipped my mind..." and see if she says anything.
 
My guess is also that who would bring what was planned at the last meeting & that she forgot to send out the reminder this month.But just to be on the safe side, did you check your spam folder to make sure you didn't MISS a reminder?If you've told her that you don't want as much attention as she gives the others, then you really can't be upset with her when she obliges with your request. If she did send out an e-mail & omitted you, it was probably with good intentions, not being mean or forgetting you. She might have actually thought that you had too much on your plate to deal with worrying about the meeting too. ;)
 
We directors are human to :). I have forgotten to send an email reminding my team or I have inadvertantly left someone out. I don't think she did it intentionally. Send her a quick note telling her you did not recieve a reminder and you are sorry you missed the meeting. Tell her you are looking forward to the next meet and to ask her to make sure you are on the reminder list. If you are struggling with your business, perhaps she can help you. If this is what you want. This could be the perfect excuse to talk to her about your business and what goals you have.

I hope your mother is mending and you have replaced your car.
 
If you received the "Thank you" email, she obviously has you on her list....so I'd bet she didn't send a reminder email at all. Perhaps SHE was busy and forgot also. The time and day were the same.
I personally wouldn't worry about. You have too much going on in your life to let something as little as this mess with your mind. :) Trust me, I know! The dumbest little thing can ruin your day. Don't let it.For your own future reminder though, I would set up the meeting in your calendar that can pop up a reminder a day in advance. Then if the director forgets to send a reminder, as they will do from time to time, YOU will remember. If you don't get an email from her, when your reminder pops up, you can shoot her a quick email and just ask to confirm if the meeting was still on. Hope things get better for you!
 
If someone else besides your Director is your recruiter, you might want to get with them for a little help.
Sometimes when a cluster is as large as ours 100+, it's easy to feel like a step child if you miss a meeting. Makes me wonder how I will treat all of my team one day if it gets to be large.
 
As and AD with a large personal team and 3 downline directors, I can tell you nothing is perfect. You have told her how you want to be worked with... which is exactly what she has done. If you need more, let her know that. Believe me, she wants you to be successful, whatever success is for you. But you can't expect her to put more into your business than you are or be a mind reader. Before YOU jump to conclusions based on how you are feeling, ASK her!
 

Frequently Asked Questions

Am I Being Overlooked by My Director During Difficult Times?

It's natural to feel overlooked during challenging periods, especially in a direct sales environment where support is crucial. If you feel your director is not providing the attention you need, consider reaching out to them directly to express your concerns. Open communication can often clarify misunderstandings and help you receive the support you require.

How can I approach my director about feeling overlooked?

Approaching your director can be daunting, but it's important to be honest and respectful. Schedule a one-on-one meeting and prepare specific examples of when you felt unsupported. Express your feelings and ask for guidance on how to improve your situation. This proactive approach can foster a better relationship and open lines of communication.

What if my director is also facing challenges?

Directors in direct sales often face their own challenges, which can impact their ability to support their team. If you suspect this is the case, try to be understanding and patient. You might offer to collaborate on solutions or suggest group meetings where everyone can share their struggles and support one another.

Are there other resources I can turn to for support?

Yes, besides your director, there are various resources available. Consider reaching out to fellow consultants, joining team meetings, or participating in online forums related to Pampered Chef. Additionally, the company may offer training sessions or support groups that can provide guidance and encouragement during tough times.

What should I do if my concerns are not addressed?

If your concerns continue to go unaddressed, it may be time to evaluate your options. You can seek support from higher-level management within the company or consider finding a mentor outside of your immediate team. Ultimately, your well-being and success are important, and you deserve the support you need to thrive.

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