Successful Weight Loss: My Mom's Unsupportive Response

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Discussion Overview

This thread centers around a participant's experience with weight loss and the negative reaction received from their mother. Participants share their thoughts on weight loss, family dynamics, and personal experiences related to dieting and support.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant shares their excitement about losing 6 lbs and feeling discouraged by their mother's negative comments about weight loss.
  • Another participant expresses pride in the weight loss and suggests that the original poster's mother is overly worried.
  • Several users mention that losing weight can be easier for those who start at a higher weight, referencing shows like "The Biggest Loser" as examples.
  • One participant notes that emotional eating is a challenge and shares their strategy of waiting for meals instead of eating out of frustration.
  • Another participant discusses their own weight loss journey and the lack of support from their mother, suggesting that affirmations should come from others.
  • One participant emphasizes the importance of proving oneself wrong rather than seeking validation from family.
  • Several users express solidarity and encouragement, celebrating the weight loss as a personal achievement.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants generally agree that mothers can sometimes be critical, and many express support for the original poster's weight loss journey. However, there is no clear consensus on the best approach to dealing with unsupportive family members.

Contextual Notes

The discussion reflects personal experiences with weight loss and family dynamics, highlighting the emotional aspects of dieting and the varying reactions from family members.

Who May Find This Useful

This thread may be of interest to individuals navigating weight loss journeys, particularly those seeking community support in the face of unsupportive family dynamics.

rennea
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This month I have decided that it's the month to lose weight. I did my weigh in this week today and lost 6lbs and lost an inch on my hips and waist. Yahoo for me.........I wanted to share the good news so I called my Mom and all she had to say is "ya you'll probably just get sick" and "people who lose that much weight in a week are just starving themselves".

Well I'm not!!! 4 meals aday, lots of fruits and veg. Measuring my protein and dairy. So bummed that somebody would be so negative over my good news:(
 
6 lbs is sooo wonderful!! At about 10 lbs. you can usually see a big difference in your face and that is always awesome. While many of us are putting on lbs. you are taking off and doing it in a healthy way. Your mom is a worry wort. You need a weight loss partner so you can encourage each other. I am proud of you! I need to do just what you are doing.
 
sorry your mom wasn't as happy as you!!! I think the more you weigh the more you are able to lose without making yourself sick. On biggest loser they lose 15lbs in a week or 2 but they are unhealthy overweight. not saying you are I have no idea. mother in law is overweight bad and she lost almost 10lbs in one week. granted she took metabolism boosters and didn't do it the right way and gained it back. but nothing wrong losing 6lbs! way to go!! sorry I went off, didn't mean too!! keep up the great work!!!
 
6 lbs is amazing! Don't be bummed! Be proud of yourself! Even one pound is great!
 
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sorry your mom wasn't as happy as you!!! I think the more you weigh the more you are able to lose without making yourself sick. On biggest loser they lose 15lbs in a week or 2 but they are unhealthy overweight. not saying you are I have no idea. mother in law is overweight bad and she lost almost 10lbs in one week. granted she took metabolism boosters and didn't do it the right way and gained it back. but nothing wrong losing 6lbs! way to go!! sorry I went off, didn't mean too!! keep up the great work!!!
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Well I'm not obese but I do want to lose another 30lbs, right now I'm a size 10/11. Don't really care about final dress size, as long as I look and feel good. I'm surprised it's come off this way I am down from a size 12. Feeling better just pissed at my mom. She of course is pencil thin!!!
 
Why are mom's sometimes our worst critics - Blow it off as a jealousy thing and enjoy your success and most of all PROVE HER WRONG!!!!

6 Lbs is awesome - Don't expect it everyweek and it is not good to lose the much each week but you will do awesome Maybe you shouldn't share with mom. Have her ask you how much you lost rather than automatically calling her

Shar your successes with us and we will be your cheerleaders!!!
 
Way To Go!!!! I'm So Proud Of You!!!!
 
Good job on the weight loss. Mom's can be so awful sometimes. Just focus on her good parts. AND focus on your successes.
 
{{{HUGS}}} and GOOD JOB!!!
 
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Thanks guys.:) I’m determined to prove her wrong and I’m very stubborn. I’m an emotional eater so the first thing I wanted to do when I got off the phone was to shove something into my mouth. But instead I waited for lunch and had shrimp salad and a whole wheat bun with veggies on it. So poo poo on her!!! I have filled our home with veggies, fruit , low fat dairy and whole grains and my DH has lost 3lbs this week as well and he’s not even trying!!!

So far so good, I sure haven't gone hungry and don't feel deprived at all. Now just to up my excerise:rolleyes:
 
I find that avocados on my salad help to fill me up, and I don't feel the need to use dressing. Of course, I love avocados on just about anthing. I lost weight at conference, about 2 pounds. I ordered vegetarian "cuisine" and didn't always care for the breakfast choices (good choices for someone eating bread, meat, and eggs). I also had salad at about every meal because I couldn't always find what I wanted. But I did have a rockin sandwich at the Corner Bakery just before the train left to take us home. I was so ready for a filling and delicious meal that I gave in to the bread and cheese on the panini. It's just north of the Hilton on Michigan Ave. We of course took the long way around and went to the one by the Palmer House, thanks to the concierge not telling us about the one that is closer. That probably helped with the weight loss. We had all of our luggage and it was a nice sunny day. I was so hungry I ate the chips too. That's a veggie isn't it?
 
rennea said:
This month I have decided that it's the month to lose weight. I did my weigh in this week today and lost 6lbs and lost an inch on my hips and waist. Yahoo for me.........I wanted to share the good news so I called my Mom and all she had to say is "ya you'll probably just get sick" and "people who lose that much weight in a week are just starving themselves".

Well I'm not!!! 4 meals aday, lots of fruits and veg. Measuring my protein and dairy. So bummed that somebody would be so negative over my good news:(
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You did GREAT! A loss is a loss is a loss is a loss is a loss.... etc. Soooo much better than continuing to gain! Good for you! I'm doing weight watchers myself. I gained 35 pounds in 3 months from a medication. I'm down 11, was hoping to be "myself" again for my big walk, but I'm so proud of myself, I refuse to feel bad! :)

After seeing me in my new dresses, my Mom asked me if I wanted her truthful reaction (yes).... She said I looked pregnant in my favorite one! Can you believe it???? My favorite ~ the one I wanted to wear. *sigh* Now I have to decide which skirt to wear instead.
 
My kids say I look pregnant in some of my fashionable shirts. It's the style, and my friends and other fashionable people know I'm not pregnant.
 
rennea said:
So bummed that somebody would be so negative over my good news:(
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Congratulations on losing weight! I probably found it! I'm sorry your mom
brought you down. She sounds just like my mom!! I've learned not to expect support from her. I have to get my affirmations (is that the word I'm really looking for?) from someone else! Keep up the good work & don't let her discourage you!!
 
rennea said:
Thanks guys.:) I’m determined to prove her wrong and I’m very stubborn.
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Congratulations on your loss! (now that's sounds kind of funny!) Like someone else sai, Moms can be our worse critics. She's just worrie you're losing too fast and the only way in her mind if you're starving yourself.

But do the weight loss not prove something to her ~ but for YOU and ONLY YOU. Once one makes up their mind, determination and dedication, it shall be achieve!

Good luck ~
Ginny
 
rennea said:
Thanks guys.:) I’m determined to prove her wrong and I’m very stubborn. I’m an emotional eater so the first thing I wanted to do when I got off the phone was to shove something into my mouth. But instead I waited for lunch and had shrimp salad and a whole wheat bun with veggies on it. So poo poo on her!!! I have filled our home with veggies, fruit , low fat dairy and whole grains and my DH has lost 3lbs this week as well and he’s not even trying!!!

So far so good, I sure haven't gone hungry and don't feel deprived at all. Now just to up my excerise:rolleyes:
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That is great!! Use proving her wrong as motivation!! :D I bet that will help!! I wish I could get under a size 12 but I don't have the body structure. I'm a whole lot of bones and muscles....thanks grandma! hahaha!! got my hips from her!! :D anyway keep up the great work!! It is really hard not to be an emotional eater so if you can be strong and not give in to it you are going in the right direction!!
 
I completely agree with the sentiment that moms can be our worst critics. (Side note, I was telling my mom about some of the products introduced at conference, and she told me "You'll never sell that. That's just ridiculous to pay that for xxxx." I almost hung up on her, because that's her first reaction whenever she looks in our catalog. Even after I explained that it's an investment...) Anyhoo-- Great job! Heaven knows I should be trying to lose some weight, but I'm just too lazy to bother.
 

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I do if my mom is unsupportive of my weight loss journey?

It's important to communicate openly with your mom about your goals and why they matter to you. Share your motivations and the positive changes you're experiencing. If she remains unsupportive, seek encouragement from friends, support groups, or online communities that understand your journey.

How can I cope with negative comments from family members?

Developing a thick skin can be helpful. Remind yourself of your goals and the reasons behind your weight loss journey. Surround yourself with positive influences and practice self-affirmation. Consider discussing your feelings with a trusted friend or therapist to help process any hurtful comments.

Is it common for family members to be unsupportive during weight loss?

Yes, it's quite common for family members to have mixed reactions to someone's weight loss journey. They may feel threatened by the changes or simply not understand the importance of your goals. It's essential to remember that their reactions often stem from their own insecurities or misconceptions.

How can I encourage my mom to be more supportive?

Try to involve her in your journey by sharing your successes and asking for her input on healthy meals or activities. You can also invite her to join you in cooking healthy recipes or exercising together. The more she understands your goals, the more likely she may become supportive.

What if my mom's unsupportive response affects my motivation?

If her response is impacting your motivation, focus on your personal reasons for wanting to lose weight. Set clear goals and remind yourself of your progress. Consider seeking support from friends, online communities, or a coach who can provide the encouragement you need to stay motivated.

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