Dealing with a Fb Stalker: Tips for Handling Nosy Family Members and Friends

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Discussion Overview

The thread discusses experiences related to managing Facebook interactions with family members, particularly mothers, who exhibit what participants describe as "stalking" behavior on social media. Participants share personal anecdotes about their challenges and strategies for handling nosy relatives on Facebook.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant, identifying as a consultant, expresses frustration about their mother constantly commenting on their posts and mentions feeling unable to unfriend her.
  • Another participant suggests creating a separate group to limit what their mother can see on Facebook.
  • Several users mention changing privacy settings to restrict what certain family members can view, with one participant sharing their experience of blocking their mother-in-law from seeing posts.
  • One participant humorously describes calling their mother a "Facebook stalker," leading to a light-hearted exchange about the situation.
  • Another participant shares a similar experience of their mother tagging herself in pictures, expressing annoyance but also a sense of camaraderie with others facing the same issue.
  • Some participants reflect on their own boundaries with their children on social media, noting a desire to respect their privacy while still being involved.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ among participants regarding the best approach to manage family interactions on Facebook, with no clear consensus on a single solution.

Contextual Notes

Participants share personal experiences that reflect a range of emotions, from humor to frustration, regarding family dynamics and social media usage.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants navigating similar challenges with family members on social media may find the shared experiences relatable and insightful.

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pamperedlinda
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....and it's my mom! What to do about it? I can't unfriend her. But she's driving me crazy. She's always mentioning things from my friends and comments I make on their statuses. Any of y'all have this issue with a friend or relative?
 
I think there is a way you can make a seperate group and then she cannot see everything. Only the stuff you include her on.
 
You can change your settings so that she specifically can only see certain things. I'm not sure how but I know it can be done somehow.HUGS!!!
 
pamperedlinda said:
....and it's my mom! What to do about it? I can't unfriend her. But she's driving me crazy. She's always mentioning things from my friends and comments I make on their statuses. Any of y'all have this issue with a friend or relative?
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I think you can change your settings for friends of friends to not see your posts, but not your own friends...

I unfriended my son by mutual agreement. I didn't comment on his links, but decided that I really didn't want to know that much about him -- he's 21 and in college. I still am friends with my daughter -- not on enough to cause much damage, I suppose.

Just ask her not to comment on your fb. I wouldn't be offended if I was her --perhaps she doesn't understand basic fb ettiquette -- such as 'you don't comment on your kids fb posts or those of their friends.'

Good luck!
 
You know the settings of who can see your posts: Friends; friends of friends, everyone, etc.? My default is "friends only, except nosey" and the only person in that group is my Mother-in-law. She was doing the same thing, clicking on & reading everything that I said on anyone else's wall & then questioning me on it. I got tired of it & just blocked it so she can't see it. The downside is, every time I go to post a new post on my wall, I have to select the little lock button & choose the "friends of friends" or "friends only" group so she can see the posts about the kids. Otherwise, her friends/family would comment on something funny that I posted & she'd be lost. LOL
 
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It's annoying, but not so much that I will go to those extremes yet! I called her a facebook stalker the other day and she about had a fit! She was all "I am NOT a stalker" and I was all "Ummm, yes mom, you kinda are" it was rather funny. I think she may leave me alone for a while..lol!
 
Ohmygosh Linda I have the same exact issue. My mom does the same thing.. and she tags herself in every picture of my kids or me. GAH!! I don't really have any advice, just wanted to commiserate. :)
 
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beckyjsmith said:
Ohmygosh Linda I have the same exact issue. My mom does the same thing.. and she tags herself in every picture of my kids or me. GAH!! I don't really have any advice, just wanted to commiserate. :)
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Oh yes!!! She does that to! Tags herself in pics that I post and pics that my friends post....even tagged herself in the pic from conference on The Pampered Chef website that I'm in.
 
OMG -- ok, I NEVER did that to my kids! Yikes -- so sorry Linda!!!
 
Becky & Linda, THAT is hilarious!
 
{{{{HUGS}}}} My son is 21 and I do not comment on his posts...well unless I am encouraging him or liking something that he is doing. He doesn't post too much and sometimes I wish I did not see his posts when he uses cuss words to be cool with his friends.

Can't imagine having that much involvement on FB. I guess that in their defense maybe they feel that relaxed with you that they feel they are doing nothing wrong. HOWEVER!! There is a limit. Again, hugs to you both!
 
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Oh yes!!! She does that to! Tags herself in pics that I post and pics that my friends post....even tagged herself in the pic from conference on The Pampered Chef website that I'm in.
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Bahahaha!! I bet my mom just hasn't run across too many conference pics yet. oy! Think it's a southern thang?
 
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beckyjsmith said:
Bahahaha!! I bet my mom just hasn't run across too many conference pics yet. oy! Think it's a southern thang?
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no. I think that part is an I'm bored and I want everyone of my friends to see pictures of my family thing...:rolleyes: at least she doesn't make too many comments on fb, just calls me as asks "who is so and so" or "what's up with ...."
 

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What should I do if a family member is constantly checking my Facebook profile?

If a family member is frequently checking your profile and it makes you uncomfortable, consider adjusting your privacy settings to limit what they can see. You can also have a direct conversation with them about your boundaries regarding social media.

How can I handle a nosy friend who comments on all my posts?

If a friend is overly critical or intrusive in their comments, you can either ignore their remarks or address it directly. Let them know how their comments make you feel and ask them to be more respectful of your space.

Is it okay to block someone on Facebook, even if they are family?

Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to block someone on Facebook if their behavior is causing you distress. Your mental health and comfort should take precedence, and blocking can be a way to create necessary boundaries.

What are some signs that someone is stalking my Facebook profile?

Signs of someone stalking your profile may include frequent likes or comments on your posts, sending unsolicited messages, or asking about details of your life that you haven't shared directly with them. If you notice these patterns, it may be time to reassess your privacy settings.

How can I set boundaries with family and friends regarding my social media presence?

To set boundaries, communicate openly about what you are comfortable sharing on social media. You can also use Facebook's privacy settings to control who sees your posts and limit interactions with specific individuals.

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