How can we support loved ones during difficult end-of-life decisions?

[jasonmva]

In a previous post a couple of months ago I told you guys how my partner's uncle was not doing well and wasn't necessarily in a comma but a deep sleep as the doctor's say. About a week ago during a restless reaction, he unintentionally removed his feeding tube. With his son knowing that he did want to stay in this condition, the son opted not to have the tube replaced so we knew it was now a waiting game. Well....tha wait is over as he passed yesterday afternoon. We know he is in a better place now but I feel for his son because this was his last surviving parent.

 

[ginamkiely]

My prayers are with you and your partner during this time. Our condolences.

 

[PCwithStay-C]

My thoughts are with you all. Its hard to say goodbye, but sometimes for the best.

 

[PamperedTammy]

I am really sorry to hear your news. I hope the best for the families involved. Take care and know that you will be in my prayers.

 

[SilverCeladon]

I'll light a candle right now. I'm so sorry.

 

[katie0128]

In a previous post a couple of months ago I told you guys how my partner's uncle was not doing well and wasn't necessarily in a comma but a deep sleep as the doctor's say. About a week ago during a restless reaction, he unintentionally removed his feeding tube. With his son knowing that he did want to stay in this condition, the son opted not to have the tube replaced so we knew it was now a waiting game. Well....tha wait is over as he passed yesterday afternoon. We know he is in a better place now but I feel for his son because this was his last surviving parent.

Please accept my condolences for your loss...

When I hear stories like this one, I wonder how many of these "unintentional" actions aren't really all that unintentional... especially when they are "for the best" or what the person really wanted anyway.

ETA... I'm not implying that anyone removed the feeding tube, just thinking outloud about God's divine intervention in situations.

 

[missydivine]

Jason our thoughts are with you, your partner and the family.

 

[jenniferp417]

My prayers are with you and him.

 

[Dawn4]

My prayers are with you, your partner and your extended families.

 

[MamaChef]

Prayers being lifted for this dear family!

 

[mommyhugz1978]

Jason,

I am sorry for your loss.... sending prayers and lighting a candle for you and your family!!!

 

[raebates]

I'm sorry, Jason. You, your partner, and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[pcchris]

Jason,

Prayers coming your way. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. That must have been a difficult decision to make. Wishes of love and peace for you and your partner.

 

[yummybytes]

I am so sorry.

I lost my father in January under the same conditions so my heart goes out to your partners cousin. I don't have the words to comfort because I'm still trying to find a way to deal with it all. I can say this -- while the hurt never goes away, you find a way to manage and work through it.

Lots of love and prayers going your way. Be there for his cousin, even if jsut to remind him of the good things in life. Keep him involved and active, invite him places, dinner, even just to watch movies or play a board game. He is truly going to need that support and family interaction right now.

 

[AJPratt]

Jason: Sometimes our wills are strong, despite what medications we might be on. I think it was his uncle's will that pulled out that feeding tube. I am sorry for the loss, but know that he is still around your family (sorry if I offend anyone, but I believe our loved ones who pass keep an eye on us). I am sending good thoughts your way.