cookingwithlove
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We have all come across the rude person, not only in our businesses, but also in our lives. This was printed in the newspaper today and I found it very useful.
If someone is being rude, consider these points, adapted from a tip sheet by psychologist Arthur Ciaramicoli, before you react.
1. Don't personalize rude behavior. It's unlikely to be about you, even though it's directed at you.
2. Be aware that rude behavior comes from various sources (sleep deprivation, depression, stress, illness, insecurity, etc.)
3. Respond with calmness rather than behavior that escalates rude behavior.
4. "An eye for an eye" is poor approach.
5. Self-righteous behaviour only reflects poorly on you; don't use the opportunity to demean another.
6. Try to address the underlying cause of the behavior. ("I can see you are very stressed. Maybe I could help if you tell me what's bothering you")
7. When necessary, set limits tactfully, not aggressively.
8. If the converstaion remains irrational, know when to quit.
9. Don't assume rudeness is a permanent part of someone's personality. It is a pattern of rudeness (not one mishap) that determnines character.
10. In the end, always let empathy be your guide in understaning rudeness, knowing how to respond to a rude individual and knowing when to leave the scene.
Hope this helps as we head into the hectic holiday season!
If someone is being rude, consider these points, adapted from a tip sheet by psychologist Arthur Ciaramicoli, before you react.
1. Don't personalize rude behavior. It's unlikely to be about you, even though it's directed at you.
2. Be aware that rude behavior comes from various sources (sleep deprivation, depression, stress, illness, insecurity, etc.)
3. Respond with calmness rather than behavior that escalates rude behavior.
4. "An eye for an eye" is poor approach.
5. Self-righteous behaviour only reflects poorly on you; don't use the opportunity to demean another.
6. Try to address the underlying cause of the behavior. ("I can see you are very stressed. Maybe I could help if you tell me what's bothering you")
7. When necessary, set limits tactfully, not aggressively.
8. If the converstaion remains irrational, know when to quit.
9. Don't assume rudeness is a permanent part of someone's personality. It is a pattern of rudeness (not one mishap) that determnines character.
10. In the end, always let empathy be your guide in understaning rudeness, knowing how to respond to a rude individual and knowing when to leave the scene.
Hope this helps as we head into the hectic holiday season!