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Dealing with Butterflies: Tips from Experienced Women
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Discussion Overview
This thread explores the experiences of participants regarding the nervousness or "butterflies" they feel before and during cooking shows. Various participants share their personal feelings, coping strategies, and reflections on how their nerves have evolved over time.
Discussion Character
- Anecdotal
- Opinion-based
- Exploratory
Main Points Raised
- One participant, identifying as a consultant, expresses frustration with still feeling butterflies and seeks solutions from more experienced members.
- Another participant shares that after a few shows, their nerves diminished, attributing their comfort to their outgoing nature.
- Several users mention that it is normal to experience nerves even after years in the business, with some noting that they find ways to manage their anxiety, such as pumping themselves up before shows.
- One participant describes feeling more relaxed once the show starts, suggesting that familiarity with the routine helps ease nerves.
- Another participant shares that they feel more nervous when performing in front of friends and family compared to strangers, highlighting a common sentiment among others.
- Several participants discuss the impact of audience dynamics, noting that noisy groups can increase their anxiety, while engaging with guests can help alleviate it.
- One participant mentions using humor and audience interaction as strategies to manage nervousness during shows.
- Another participant reflects on how their nerves have lessened over time, but they still experience anxiety, particularly with new hosts or larger crowds.
Areas of Agreement / Disagreement
Views differ on the intensity and management of nerves, with some participants feeling that it improves with experience while others continue to struggle with anxiety regardless of their time in the business. No clear consensus emerges on a singular solution to managing nerves.
Contextual Notes
Participants share personal anecdotes and coping mechanisms related to their experiences in hosting cooking shows, emphasizing the emotional aspect of public speaking and performance in a social setting.
Who May Find This Useful
Consultants who experience nervousness before shows or are looking for relatable experiences from peers in similar situations may find this discussion helpful.
DebbieSAChef
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It's normal!It's very normal to still get the butterflies. This November it will be two years for me in the PC business and I still get the butterflies when I am doing shows with women I don't really know.
It's natural for us to want people to like us, to like our products and not wanting to mess up and look like an idiot.
I am not a shy person and I love using the products and doing the demos but I sometimes have to really pump myself up in the hosts bathroom (quietly) or on the ride over there to get myself excited, motivated and ready!
After I get started I usually relax and then it's just fun!!
Debbie
It's natural for us to want people to like us, to like our products and not wanting to mess up and look like an idiot.
I am not a shy person and I love using the products and doing the demos but I sometimes have to really pump myself up in the hosts bathroom (quietly) or on the ride over there to get myself excited, motivated and ready!
After I get started I usually relax and then it's just fun!!
Debbie
pamperedgirl3
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PamperedMelanie
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I just did my fifth cooking show last night for my biggest crowd-14 people! I was soooo nervous, I felt like I looked like an idiot up there. They were all so quite and I asked my hosts mom (whom I know very well and she sells Princess House) if I looked ok, and she said "yes, they were all listening to you"! Woo hoo! I have learned so far that I feel the nervousness much more than people can see it, it does get better, though, the more shows I do.
chefann
Gold Member
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Eventually, you'll get to the point where you're only nervous if there's someone special in the group - like a chef or nutritionist - who could refute whatever you say. Sometimes it helps to think of the guests at your shows as friends, who you're just sharing some of your favorite stuff with. Like Show and Tell!
TinasKitchen
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I get nervous for sure! Even if it is someone I know. I find that I talk fast but my best friend was at my last show and she told me I didnt talk fast and sounded fine. I'm fine and funny when it comes to a few close friends but in front of a room full of people I'm all smiles and sweet but not as funny as I wish!
My director told us to pump up our favorite music in the car and just get ourselves going. She said that helps to get you motivated and revved up. Try it. I guess it cant hurt
Good luck!
My director told us to pump up our favorite music in the car and just get ourselves going. She said that helps to get you motivated and revved up. Try it. I guess it cant hurt
Good luck!
pampered1224
Silver Member
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It even happens later!I found all I could do was get used to it. I have been in 5 years and still get nervous. Especially with a new host. I simply take a deep breath and GO!
My set up helps take the nerves out too as I talk to my host most of the time so that when it comes time to do my bit, I am a little more relaxed as I then realize that they aren't there to judge me. And you know what else, that nevousness is a good thing. It means you will be on your toes. It means you will actually sound more excited. It works to your advantage as long as you don't make yourslef sick!
No nevousness, to ****y, lousy show!
My set up helps take the nerves out too as I talk to my host most of the time so that when it comes time to do my bit, I am a little more relaxed as I then realize that they aren't there to judge me. And you know what else, that nevousness is a good thing. It means you will be on your toes. It means you will actually sound more excited. It works to your advantage as long as you don't make yourslef sick!
No nevousness, to ****y, lousy show!
ChefMommyinOC
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Me tooI've been doing PC for 3 years, and have been performing (singing, dancing, playing the piano) for 20 years and STILL get butterflies. For me it comes from a fear of judgement; that everyone up there is constantly critiquing me. I know that's not the case, but it gets me every time. I feed off the butterflies, thought. Harness the energy, make it work for you. Put that energy into humor ("Whoops, that tomato really doesn't want to die today!") or into getting the guests involved. I've been making my shows less demo, more Q&A. Having someone ask me questions about the products instead of feeling like being on display or putting on a show makes my butteflies calm down a bit.
HTH!
HTH!
KellyTheChef
Gold Member
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It has definately gotten better with time, but my first few shows (well, Okay, maybe first TEN shows) I was so nervous that my voice actually shook! You know, when you can't even swallow you are so nervous!! Thank God that has gone away. Still, I usually go to the bathroom once I have all of my stuff unpacked and say a prayer to help calm my nerves.
I also agree that I am less self conscious when I am answering questions from the guests during my demo than when I am just up there alone talking and talking. When that happens, I really feel like they all must be bored stiff! I really enjoy those crowds that interact with me a lot.
I found that once I could stop thinking about the recipe (which comes with practice and making a recipe a few times) that I could focus on having FUN!
Good luck!
I also agree that I am less self conscious when I am answering questions from the guests during my demo than when I am just up there alone talking and talking. When that happens, I really feel like they all must be bored stiff! I really enjoy those crowds that interact with me a lot.
I found that once I could stop thinking about the recipe (which comes with practice and making a recipe a few times) that I could focus on having FUN!
Good luck!
ChefinHarmony
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I actually get nervous doing shows for people I know! I do better at shows where I don't know anyone - even when the Host is "new" to me. I just feel like my close friends and family see me differently when I'm "working" and I feel weird. Like they are watching my every move. My sister made a comment to me privately once about "you shouldn't have touched the lettuce with your hands" - and that was at my 3rd show, so I've been so nervous about that since then. And my friends feel they can be honest/make comments that are tough to take sometimes! I PREFER strangers! And they always say "you were the best consultant, etc"
Joanne
Joanne
JoyfulChef
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Whew....I'm glad everyone gets like that! I agree with ChefMommyinOC. I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm not shy and I love the attention but I think mine is also fear of judgment and negative critics! Thanks for the reassurance!
I do the music in the car thing too! That usually psyches me up!
I do the music in the car thing too! That usually psyches me up!
pcleah
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Chef Diane
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lost control?
Here's an idea I got from my director. When things get out of control she stops and starts looking around on the table, under the table, in her crate, bag and what ever else she can find; with that confused look on her face. Someone always says "what are you looking for" and she replies, "control, I seemed to have lost it a few minutes back". Everyone laughs and the show goes on. Try it what do you have to lose
pcleah said:
Here's an idea I got from my director. When things get out of control she stops and starts looking around on the table, under the table, in her crate, bag and what ever else she can find; with that confused look on her face. Someone always says "what are you looking for" and she replies, "control, I seemed to have lost it a few minutes back". Everyone laughs and the show goes on. Try it what do you have to lose
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Chozengirl
Gold Member
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Frequently Asked Questions
What are "butterflies" in the context of direct sales?
In direct sales, "butterflies" refer to potential customers or team members who show initial interest but may not commit right away. They often flit from one opportunity to another, making it essential for sales representatives to engage them effectively.
How can I identify butterflies in my network?
You can identify butterflies by observing individuals who frequently ask questions about your products or business but do not follow through with a purchase or sign-up. They may also express excitement but hesitate to take the next step.
What strategies can I use to engage butterflies?
To engage butterflies, build a relationship by providing valuable information and support. Share success stories, offer samples, and invite them to events. Personalize your approach based on their interests to make them feel valued and understood.
How do I follow up with butterflies without being pushy?
Follow up with butterflies by sending friendly, non-intrusive messages. Ask for their feedback on products or events they attended, and express genuine interest in their thoughts. Keep the conversation light and open-ended to encourage dialogue without pressure.
What are some common mistakes to avoid when dealing with butterflies?
Avoid being overly aggressive or making them feel obligated to buy or join. Also, steer clear of generic messages; personalization is key. Lastly, don’t forget to listen to their concerns and preferences, as this can help you tailor your approach more effectively.
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