My Mil Signed Up Under My Aunt: Annoyed?

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Discussion Overview

This thread explores the feelings and experiences of participants regarding family members or friends who choose to join different direct sales companies instead of Pampered Chef. Participants share personal anecdotes about their reactions and the dynamics of such situations.

Discussion Character

  • Anecdotal
  • Opinion-based
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • One participant expresses annoyance at their mother-in-law for signing up under an aunt instead of them, noting it stung but they are trying not to take it personally.
  • Another participant suggests that the mother-in-law may be more passionate about skin care than kitchen tools, indicating that personal interest can influence such decisions.
  • Several participants mention that friends and family can be challenging in business contexts, with one stating that they should work to move beyond that circle.
  • One participant shares a personal story of a friend who initially chose another company but later joined their team, emphasizing the importance of maintaining relationships.
  • Another participant notes that many people sign up with other companies for discounts rather than to actively sell, which could lead to future opportunities with Pampered Chef.
  • One participant reflects on their own experience of switching from Mary Kay to Pampered Chef, highlighting the supportive environment of the latter.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Views differ among participants regarding the emotional impact of family members choosing other companies, with some expressing understanding and others feeling disappointed. No clear consensus emerges on how to handle these situations.

Contextual Notes

Participants share a range of personal experiences and feelings related to family dynamics and business choices, emphasizing the emotional aspects of these decisions without making definitive claims about the companies involved.

Who May Find This Useful

Consultants who are navigating similar feelings about family or friends joining other direct sales companies may find the shared experiences and perspectives relevant.

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my mil told me she wanted to sign up under me for pampered chef and then last night she signed up under my aunt for aubornne. I was kinda annoyed but I am trying not to take it personally. do you ever get upset at family or friends that sign up under a different company? I would never be mad at her but it still kinda stung a bit
 
Maybe her passion is skin care and not kitchen tools. Don't let it bother you. Personally, I think that the way Arbonne is structured she will have to work a lot harder than if she were with PC, but then again, if she is passionate about it she may find it works for her. If not, she may eventually come around and sign with you too.

Don't let her know you are upset with her. Congratulate her on her ner business and whenever you can :) tell her how well you are doing with PC :) but, don't rub it in! kwim

Also, did she sign with Arbonne to do the business or just for the personal discount? I thnk it's basically the same process it's just how you choose to use it.
 
friends & family are the worst to deal with in business...let it go and work hard to get out of that circle!
 
chefmeg said:
friends & family are the worst to deal with in business...let it go and work hard to get out of that circle!
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absolutely...my one and only sister has never hosted a show for me and never will....it stings, but you get over it....
 
chefmeg said:
friends & family are the worst to deal with in business...let it go and work hard to get out of that circle!
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I couldnt agree more---
 
sign her up---It may not mean she is going to do parties--That company-is notorious for signing people for a personal discount---A friend of mine said her consultant-signed her and many others KEPT there kits-and didn't charge them to get recruits---sad---
 
I agree with Morfia. Most people I know who signed with Arbonne did it for the discount. Did she tell you she does not want to sign with PC? If not, go for it!
 
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I am not quite sure she just sent me an email saying her sister was going to have a aparty to support her so I just figured that meant she signed up to be a consultant, she was asking them lots of questions last night so I know she was thinking about it. I know I am just being a total baby but I was excited to start building a team.. but I think she will realize its very hard and that stuff is very expensive.. but we shall see
 
DO NOT give up on herI have a similar story, but it is working out in the end. I have a favorite hostess of mine (consistently does $1000 shows) that is now a friend. She sold Tupperware several years ago, and after her 1st $1000 show, she was going to sign with me. She decided to sell Lia Sophia, instead. We remained friends, and just recently she moved downstate to a more rural area. I got an E-mail from her yesterday, that Lia Sophia really does not go as well in her new area, and believes it is time to join my team. If I had given up on her, or had an attitude 3 years ago, we would not have our friendship now, and she would be joining someone else's team.
 
I think the biggest disappointment is that she didn't TELL you that she was going to do this. But don't be upset b/c you never know what will happen or what she's thinking. I personally could only sell PC and I have friends that sell other stuff that say they couldn't sell PC. My best friend started selling TW about 1 yr after I started PC and her logic was that we share family and so she didn't want to "compete". They don't exactly do shows for me so it wouldn't be a big deal. HOWEVER, now she's the BEST helper ever at expos! She knows the product pretty well and we can practically read each other's minds so work super well together. So, I have a super helper, but I keep the sales & the leads. Of course, I treat her to a girl's getaway once or twice a year so she gets "paid". Good luck! I'm sure that it will work out somehow.
 
As disheartening as it is, not every product line is for everyone. I love our products, but I know people who do well selling other things because that's what they're interested in. Personally, I could never sell cosmetics, skin care, or vitamins because it helps to actually use the products one is selling. Not to wish her bad luck with her new endeavor, but maybe in a couple of years she'll see that PC products are more practical and therefore appeal to a larger market.
 
I hope things work out for you. I wish she had not of gotten your hopes up to begin with. I think when it comes to family someone needs to be sure before they make a comment like that.
 
I had told my sister about one of the many recruiting promos we had going and I had actually signed 4 consultants under me and was getting anxious excited...well my sister said that scrapbooking was more her thing. I completely understood and helped her launch a very short lived career with them.
She still doesn't want to sell PC, but as long as she hosts every now and again, I am okay with it!!
 
You never know what may happen still-many people sign up for Arbonne for the discount. She could still sign up with you to make money...I had a family member sign up to do Beauticontrol and I was crushed at first. She has still done shows for me since. Even if she doesn't sign under you, you will at least still most likely have a good customer from the experience. We have to remember everyone has to find their "niche".

I wish you the best, whichever direction this goes...
 
Some people think taking the PC stuff is too much to carry.... and they don't want to clean up after shows.
A gal I know that does Silpada carries all her stuff in one plastic box. It is practically the entire product line. It is a lot less to carry, and not nearly as heavy as PC.
 
melaniepc said:
my mil told me she wanted to sign up under me for pampered chef and then last night she signed up under my aunt for aubornne. I was kinda annoyed but I am trying not to take it personally. do you ever get upset at family or friends that sign up under a different company? I would never be mad at her but it still kinda stung a bit
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I have a personal story that can relate to this. My recruiter is a good friend who I have done shows for since she started nearly 4 years ago. I would go to her shows and say "ooh I LOVE that!" and she would tell me I needed to sell it. Well about a year ago I decided to go back to selling Mary Kay as I had done several years ago. Andrea made a comment like "bummer you could have done Pampered Chef" but she supported me in my decision. Of course since I have an aversion to the whole Mary Kay inventory thing, it hasn't worked out. Even trying to place an order every so many months to be able to keep my discount hasn't worked. I still did my standard show about every 6 months with Andrea like I always had. Finally I told her as soon as I had the money for the kit, I would let her know since that was my only obstacle. Then I got a bonus and here I am. Just a couple weeks into it and I am LOVING IT and can't wait to do more. Mary Kay NEVER had the kind of support system you find in here, as well as my recruiter.

My advice....be supportive of her, but still remind her about Pampered Chef. Encourage her to do shows as she has in the past. Let her see your excitement. As Arbonne fizzes out, she will come around.
 

Frequently Asked Questions

Why did my aunt sign up my Mil under her instead of me?

It’s possible that your aunt saw an opportunity to help your Mil get started in direct sales and wanted to support her directly. Sometimes, family members choose to sign up under someone they feel more comfortable with or who they believe can provide better guidance.

How can I address my feelings of annoyance about this situation?

It’s important to communicate your feelings openly with your aunt and Mil. Share your thoughts and concerns without placing blame. This can help clear the air and may lead to a better understanding of each other’s perspectives.

Will this affect my own Pampered Chef business?

While it might feel frustrating, your Mil signing up under your aunt shouldn’t directly impact your business unless you were relying on her as a key team member. Focus on building your own customer base and team, and remember that everyone’s journey in direct sales is unique.

Can I still support my Mil in her Pampered Chef journey?

Absolutely! You can still offer your support and guidance to your Mil, even if she is signed up under your aunt. Sharing tips, resources, and encouragement can strengthen your relationship and help her succeed in her new venture.

What should I do if I feel left out of the Pampered Chef community?

If you feel left out, consider reaching out to other consultants or joining local or online groups related to Pampered Chef. Building connections with others in the community can provide you with support, motivation, and new friendships, helping you feel more included.

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