My BFF passed away Monday night from Stage 4 Cervical Cancer. We have known each other for over 30 years...we were suppose to grow old together:cry: She was diagnosed in September. She was only 55 yoa. We have helped each other go through some very rough patches (kids, jobs, DH, etc) over the years. It is going to be so hard knowing I can't pick up the phone and call her anymore. We have memories that could fill a book that will remain with me forever.
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Discussion Overview
This thread centers around the emotional experiences of participants reflecting on the loss of close friends and family members, particularly due to cancer. Many share their personal stories of grief and remembrance, offering support to one another during a difficult time.
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Main Points Raised
- One participant shares their deep sorrow over the loss of their best friend to Stage 4 Cervical Cancer, emphasizing their long friendship and shared memories.
- Another participant expresses empathy, recalling their own experience of losing a dear friend to early onset Alzheimer's and the lasting impact of that loss.
- Several participants offer condolences and share their own experiences of grief, including losing friends and family to cancer, highlighting the emotional void left behind.
- One participant mentions the importance of cherishing memories and the challenges of coping with the absence of loved ones during significant life events.
- Another participant reflects on the unique pain of losing friends at a young age and the feeling of being left behind.
- One participant discusses the bittersweet nature of time healing grief, while acknowledging that the pain of loss remains.
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Participants generally express agreement on the profound impact of losing close friends and the shared experience of grief, though individual stories and feelings vary widely.
Contextual Notes
The thread captures a range of personal experiences related to loss, emphasizing the emotional connections formed over years of friendship and the challenges faced in coping with grief.
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Readers within the consultant community who are navigating similar experiences of loss may find solace in the shared stories and expressions of support.
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I'm so sorry!! My heart breaks for you! I too lost a very dear to my heart friend Aug 25, 2000. Although we weren't life time friends we had a bond. We lived down the road from each other and we had so many fun times as couples. Her and her hubby would show up at our door sometimes at 11pm just to play a game!! Miss that!! I'll pray for you!!
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pkd09 said:
Pat I completely understand how you feel. I lost one of my best friends last December from early onset Altheizmers. We had known each other for 30 years. We grew up together, stood up for each other at our weddings, shared a lot over the years. She was only 48. She was diagnosed in January and by that summer she was an infant, and by December, she was gone. It was horrible. It is difficult living through it, but afterwards, there is a hole that, I believe, just can't be filled. I still think of her when I see certain things, and start to think, I should call Jan, but then I realize I can't. If you need to cry on someone's shoulder, feel free to PM me or email me at [email protected]. I won't tell you that you will miss her less as time goes on but just remember all the good times and how much joy she brought to your life, and how much you brought to hers.
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You are all so wonderful...thank you for your thoughts and prayers. As I sit here hurting, I keeping thinking about her DH and daughter Kara. Kara is 23 yoa and won't have her mom at her wedding, birth of first child, etc. How fortunate I was to be at all of mine and also in attendance at some of my grandchildrens births. DH is an awesome guy, my friends mom is also still surviving and has been with her daily since September never leaving her side. We are all blessed for every day we are able to be here on this earth, be with our loved ones, do our daily things. Life is so precious. Thank you all again for your thoughts today.
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I am truely sorry for your loss.
I lost 2 good friends to Cancer w/in an 18 month period. And yes, it is painful, and I still miss both of them. I think the thing that really hung around for quite awhile was the fact that they were both my age. And it is so weird to go on without them. With the one I was closest to, I had the odd feeling of she had packed a bag and left on a trip without me and was never coming back. I think that was because she was so sure of what came next. She wasn't worried at all. But I really did feel left behind, it was strange. It's OK to grieve, and don't put a timetable on when you think you "should" be over it, there isn't one!
I lost 2 good friends to Cancer w/in an 18 month period. And yes, it is painful, and I still miss both of them. I think the thing that really hung around for quite awhile was the fact that they were both my age. And it is so weird to go on without them. With the one I was closest to, I had the odd feeling of she had packed a bag and left on a trip without me and was never coming back. I think that was because she was so sure of what came next. She wasn't worried at all. But I really did feel left behind, it was strange. It's OK to grieve, and don't put a timetable on when you think you "should" be over it, there isn't one!
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