BethCooks4U
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Don't read any further if you don't want to read another whining post.
Yesterday was a very rollercoaster day.
First, a recruit lead called and said she was ready to sign so I called the host at the show I met her at because she too wanted to sign but later this month. I explained how it worked and said since I met Crystal at her show I wanted her to have the option to sign first if she wanted to. She asked her questions and had actually decided to sign sooner anyway. She signed at 2pm. Crystal told her that she signed too but she's not showing up so either she went to pc.com and into the lead system :cry: or didn't finish - I have a call into her and sent her an email with her options (sign with Dee... or me if she preferred, etc). WOO HOO another new recruit and maybe 2! arty:
Then, I am considering not doing meetings any more: My meeting was last night. Consultants called with "I'm in the middle of canning pears", "my husband will get home too late for me to come", "something came up"... 3 consultants came, others didn't even bother to RSVP at all - typical (normal attendance is 7-10). So the point here is it isn't that much of a priority to most of them anyway.
Now the part that really upset me: Then at my meeting I learned that a consultant (recruited by someone else) was so upset with me that she had called PC and asked to be under a different director. I am devastated that anyone would be that upset with me. Anyone who knows me knows that I bend over backwards to make everyone happy and to never hurt anyone. I go out of my way to explain myself it I even think someone misunderstood anything. [I realize that some of you may not see that part of me as I argue points on CS if I see someone bending the rules, etc. - especially if you are on the other side of the issue from me. This is different.]
What happened was: Her daughter (12) attends meetings (was not there last night) because she's the cook/the one with the passion. Her mom does PC for her. During a meeting a couple months ago I saw that the daughter wasn't using a coaster with her cup and said "Oh, please use a coaster or put it on the glass part of the table." She looked hurt so I realized I was being anal so I said I was sorry and that I just over-reacted. Everything seemed fine. Everything seemed fine since then too. They were happy go lucky at the meetings since then - I saw them at a store and they seemed happy to see me... Then last night I put a water bottle down on the glass part of my table. I winked at that consultant and said "need to use a coaster". That's when she said that she had gone so far as to contact PC about changing teams. She said once they said she couldn't without quitting she thought about it and realized she just didn't know me that well and I think she was saying she misread me that time. She didn't share any other issues with me.
I take things like this very much to heart and while part of me says she was being way over board, I am unbelievably hurt. The two other consultants who heard this stayed after the meeting and said that they thought it was a personality thing and felt the consultant has gotten past it. Maybe so but why bring it up then and how could it have been that big a deal as to cause her to want to change teams? Am I unreasonable to expect people to respect my home? I have tons of coasters sitting on the tables so it's not like it wasn't obvious that's what we do. The main thing is that it was such a little thing to make such a big deal about - am I not seeing her side?
...thanks for letting me vent.
Yesterday was a very rollercoaster day.
First, a recruit lead called and said she was ready to sign so I called the host at the show I met her at because she too wanted to sign but later this month. I explained how it worked and said since I met Crystal at her show I wanted her to have the option to sign first if she wanted to. She asked her questions and had actually decided to sign sooner anyway. She signed at 2pm. Crystal told her that she signed too but she's not showing up so either she went to pc.com and into the lead system :cry: or didn't finish - I have a call into her and sent her an email with her options (sign with Dee... or me if she preferred, etc). WOO HOO another new recruit and maybe 2! arty:
Then, I am considering not doing meetings any more: My meeting was last night. Consultants called with "I'm in the middle of canning pears", "my husband will get home too late for me to come", "something came up"... 3 consultants came, others didn't even bother to RSVP at all - typical (normal attendance is 7-10). So the point here is it isn't that much of a priority to most of them anyway.
Now the part that really upset me: Then at my meeting I learned that a consultant (recruited by someone else) was so upset with me that she had called PC and asked to be under a different director. I am devastated that anyone would be that upset with me. Anyone who knows me knows that I bend over backwards to make everyone happy and to never hurt anyone. I go out of my way to explain myself it I even think someone misunderstood anything. [I realize that some of you may not see that part of me as I argue points on CS if I see someone bending the rules, etc. - especially if you are on the other side of the issue from me. This is different.]
What happened was: Her daughter (12) attends meetings (was not there last night) because she's the cook/the one with the passion. Her mom does PC for her. During a meeting a couple months ago I saw that the daughter wasn't using a coaster with her cup and said "Oh, please use a coaster or put it on the glass part of the table." She looked hurt so I realized I was being anal so I said I was sorry and that I just over-reacted. Everything seemed fine. Everything seemed fine since then too. They were happy go lucky at the meetings since then - I saw them at a store and they seemed happy to see me... Then last night I put a water bottle down on the glass part of my table. I winked at that consultant and said "need to use a coaster". That's when she said that she had gone so far as to contact PC about changing teams. She said once they said she couldn't without quitting she thought about it and realized she just didn't know me that well and I think she was saying she misread me that time. She didn't share any other issues with me.
I take things like this very much to heart and while part of me says she was being way over board, I am unbelievably hurt. The two other consultants who heard this stayed after the meeting and said that they thought it was a personality thing and felt the consultant has gotten past it. Maybe so but why bring it up then and how could it have been that big a deal as to cause her to want to change teams? Am I unreasonable to expect people to respect my home? I have tons of coasters sitting on the tables so it's not like it wasn't obvious that's what we do. The main thing is that it was such a little thing to make such a big deal about - am I not seeing her side?
...thanks for letting me vent.