Jess_K
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Hi All.
Well I'm not sure where to turn at the moment and thought maybe I could draw from a little strength from you all here. My husband decided last night that he was leaving and was walking away from me and our two kids. I'm asking for prayers for my kids and strength for me to help them get thru this. Last night my husband got very drunk (10+) beers. He had a work function and drank over half the beers there. I got upset with him and he took it from there. He handed over his wedding ring, his house key and told my kids.. yes my kids.. almost 4 yr old and a 2 yr old that Daddy was leaving because Mommy didn't want him around anymore. :cry: I'm so angry at him for making my 4 yr old SO upset last night. It was heartbreaking. Now I guess there's a chance he'll come crawling back home and decide to stay, but I'm not sure. He went on and on at me last night until almost 1 am about how this was all MY fault and how I can explain it to my kids. He called me several names in the book. I just ignored him the best I could and this morning he said Goodbye, and that was it. It's been a more than rocky road, so I shouldn't be suprised at it all. I'm the most upset about how he told our son that it was Mommy's fault he was leaving and goodbye.. he did this several times to the poor child. Now I'm stuck trying to figure out where to go from here. I've been a stay at home Mom for 2 years and not sure where to start. I know we will have to sell the house and move out as I can't find a job to pay the mortgage (most likely) and I'm not sure. The kicker is that I just told my parents to give us space and that there would be no communication until further notice. There have been issues with my husband and parents for years, so I was trying to protect him. (another book about this topic)
any suggestions on how to even start moving on would be helpful. I will do anything to keep custody of my kids and make a good life for them, I just will need a few little pushes.
sorry this is so long. . thanks for reading it if you made it this far and if you can remember my kids in the process I'd be very grateful.
Jess
Ok I think I need to add some more.. yes he's an alcoholic... it's at about a six pack a night if not more. I'm not sure I want to continue with him at this point or not. After last night he hurt my son SO bad that I'm not quick to forgive that. Honestly I can't figure out if our marriage is worth saving.. I have a feeling he'll be back later today and who knows where that will go. It's been a terrible cycle of this in the past and I'm afraid it was the deal breaker last night. He also threatened me if I go to my parents and they see the kids then they will be "banned from them" whatever that means. If he leaves he leaves.. at this point I'm angry at him and think I can do it without him if he is going to continue to live like this. We don't have much of a marraige to save.. he goes to work comes home and spends his nights in the garage drinking. *shrug* what's to miss of that. Thanks for the responses up until now..
Well I'm not sure where to turn at the moment and thought maybe I could draw from a little strength from you all here. My husband decided last night that he was leaving and was walking away from me and our two kids. I'm asking for prayers for my kids and strength for me to help them get thru this. Last night my husband got very drunk (10+) beers. He had a work function and drank over half the beers there. I got upset with him and he took it from there. He handed over his wedding ring, his house key and told my kids.. yes my kids.. almost 4 yr old and a 2 yr old that Daddy was leaving because Mommy didn't want him around anymore. :cry: I'm so angry at him for making my 4 yr old SO upset last night. It was heartbreaking. Now I guess there's a chance he'll come crawling back home and decide to stay, but I'm not sure. He went on and on at me last night until almost 1 am about how this was all MY fault and how I can explain it to my kids. He called me several names in the book. I just ignored him the best I could and this morning he said Goodbye, and that was it. It's been a more than rocky road, so I shouldn't be suprised at it all. I'm the most upset about how he told our son that it was Mommy's fault he was leaving and goodbye.. he did this several times to the poor child. Now I'm stuck trying to figure out where to go from here. I've been a stay at home Mom for 2 years and not sure where to start. I know we will have to sell the house and move out as I can't find a job to pay the mortgage (most likely) and I'm not sure. The kicker is that I just told my parents to give us space and that there would be no communication until further notice. There have been issues with my husband and parents for years, so I was trying to protect him. (another book about this topic)
any suggestions on how to even start moving on would be helpful. I will do anything to keep custody of my kids and make a good life for them, I just will need a few little pushes.
sorry this is so long. . thanks for reading it if you made it this far and if you can remember my kids in the process I'd be very grateful.
Jess
Ok I think I need to add some more.. yes he's an alcoholic... it's at about a six pack a night if not more. I'm not sure I want to continue with him at this point or not. After last night he hurt my son SO bad that I'm not quick to forgive that. Honestly I can't figure out if our marriage is worth saving.. I have a feeling he'll be back later today and who knows where that will go. It's been a terrible cycle of this in the past and I'm afraid it was the deal breaker last night. He also threatened me if I go to my parents and they see the kids then they will be "banned from them" whatever that means. If he leaves he leaves.. at this point I'm angry at him and think I can do it without him if he is going to continue to live like this. We don't have much of a marraige to save.. he goes to work comes home and spends his nights in the garage drinking. *shrug* what's to miss of that. Thanks for the responses up until now..
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