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Personal Moving On: My Journey After Ending a Toxic Relationship - A Personal Story

In summary, the speaker's boyfriend's son was abusive towards her and they mutually decided for her to move out while he gets help. However, the speaker received an email from her boyfriend's ex telling her to remove pictures of her daughter from her social media. The boyfriend then broke up with her via text and the ex claimed they were back together. The speaker is upset and feeling discouraged about relationships but is trying to stay positive and find humor in the situation. Others offer support and advice to focus on self-care and not rush into a new relationship.
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heck no, but I took ALLLLLLL of the PC stuff, so he asked me for a catalog tonight so he can start restocking his kitchen! LOL I told him I only accept cash, he didn't think it was funny, but I did and I was serious too!
 
  • #52
candiejayne said:
heck no, but I took ALLLLLLL of the PC stuff, so he asked me for a catalog tonight so he can start restocking his kitchen! LOL I told him I only accept cash, he didn't think it was funny, but I did and I was serious too!
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Silly boy, he doesn't learn does he? Of all the things to ask you for after he did that to you! Take him for all he's worth!
 
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  • #53
He was the reason I started PC, he loves the products, BUT I took everything anyways, it's my business, not his, and he can't prove he paid for any of it. I did let him keep his grilling tools, but I don't care about those, I don't grill. Of course I didn't have a catalog with me... grrrrrr... so I'll be stopping by sometime this week and leaving it with him. He's up to about $300 right now for things I know he wants, woohoo commission! LOL
 
  • #54
I'm so very proud of you. You kept your dignity. That can't be replaced.He didn't deserve you, and you're much better off without him. How do I know that? He let you go. Years from now you'll look back and wonder what you ever saw in him.BTW, my ankle-kicking services are still available, should you feel the need for a bit of anonymous revenge. Though, it seems like you got a good parting shot in with that hug. ;)
 
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  • #55
lol that was the best hug of my life, just knowing her gossip of a step mother was gonna be on the phone in a heartbeat! hehe
 
  • #56
I am so proud of you, what awesome strenght! That's great that you got to speak your mind and mess with the other girl's mom; what a great touch! I'm glad you can eat and you must feel so strong and proud of yourself and I think all of us here think so too! Keep up the good work, God is good and you will be amazed and the great things he has in store for you! Trust me, I've been there! ;)
 
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  • #57
:D I'm like beaming right now, I really am!

I have been through worse, I've been married before, and it was an extremely abusive relationship, not so much physical, but very mentally draining. The best 14 months of my marriage was when he was in Iraq on a tour. I survived that 8 years of heckel, plus the divorce, there isn't much thats going to take me down too far. I know I'm a very strong person, and I was raised to always be the better person. I'm not perfect, far from it, but I am working on myself to be the best person that I can be.
 
  • #58
I'm glad you are feeling better. It is nice to have you back.
 
  • #59
Thanks for the update, Andrea. You are a very strong woman, and you KNOW you'll come out on top. Great job today!
 
  • #60
you shoulda stashed a lacy pair of panties in between the sheets
 
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Teresa Lynn said:
you shoulda stashed a lacy pair of panties in between the sheets
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hahaha... That cracked me up!!

&& a pair in his car for good measure!!
 
  • #62
yes and not a pair in your size, we wouldn't want it to be obvious
 
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  • #63
LOL, even though I gave my keys back, I know how to get back into the house! haha!
 
  • #64
I'm so relieved you got your stuff back and had a civil talk,too. That's great!
 
  • #65
I say stash the panties!!! Can you imagine the step mom's reaction?!?!
 
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Ladies, ladies. let's not go off the deep end.

Oh, what the heck, lets jump in both feet - go for the cheap lingerie with a torn shoulder strap. LOL

Man are we evil or what, but you know what they say about a woman scorned ...

Andrea - good one with the hug!!! I'm lovin' it!!!!!
 
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You go girl!!!!

If not the cheap panties how about a pair of boxers?

If you still want me to fed-ex you my brother I am willing..........
 
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:thumbup: you guys are TOO funny! How about a couple pairs of each?? You could really make her wonder!
 
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and lipstick on a wine glass left by the bathtubHope we're still bringing smiles
 
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& fuzzy red handcuffs in the nightstand drawer!
 
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A viagra wrapper?
 
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ACK!! roflmao!!
 
  • #73
WOW! - I am glad you recognized the things that you did right in that situation - congrats on handling yourself so well - I would not have been. :)

It is a blessing in disguise - hang in there, chicky. (((hugs)))
 
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You guys are SO FUNNY!!! This strand is a hoot. I am so sorry for this mess Andrea.. You are so above him and his cowardness!! Rise above!! And rejoice that you found this out NOW and not later after you invested more time with him.... sounds like they are the perfect match...... You are wonderful and will find someone who appreciates you!!! The rest of you are hysterical!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Andrea
I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. He is so not worth it, someone who lies to you is so not worth it. It sounds like you have been through a lot, hang in thier things ill get easier. (it seems to already)
 
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Yeah!!! I am so glad that you got your stuff back and you are feeling better!! Congrats!!!

(if you plan to stash anything ask your best friend if she'll go in and do it so if the step-mom is home, she sees another girl!!)
 
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babyicebean said:
What a charmer!


I have a single, quite presentable brother - want me to Fed-Ex him over to you?
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YES!

(oh wait. it's not about me..well, if candiejayne doesn't want him, send him north!)
 
  • #78
Jean, have I ever told you how much I LOVE your sense of humour? Well I do! You always put a smile on my face. Nice to see you here - it's been a while.
 
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I'm getting back to my old self again. I've been distant from everywhere lately. I've been online, but playing games and not socializing really. I no longer think my heart is going to explode or jump out of my chest at the thought of him, and honestly, my thoughts of him are few and far between.

I decided to try out forgiving him. I truely have forgiven him, but while saying that, I have not forgotten, nor will I forget. I feel so much better with the hate in me gone.

Haha! I did call him today though, he still wants a cattie, but I remembered something else I forgot in the house. I called and said, will you check in the bathroom for my pads and tampons... I asked him to bag them up and bring them to me LOL! I said I really could use them any day now!

He's going to call me tomorrow and set up a time to swap them for a catalog so he can place an order.

SOOO... over all things are good. Although it's one of our craziest weeks at work, it hasn't been too bad. The only thing I need to do now is to find some friends in my area to do things with. I get pretty bored pretty easily. I'm not use to being alone after having so much action all of the time with a 6 yo running around.
 
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candiejayne said:
I'm getting back to my old self again. I've been distant from everywhere lately. I've been online, but playing games and not socializing really. I no longer think my heart is going to explode or jump out of my chest at the thought of him, and honestly, my thoughts of him are few and far between.

I decided to try out forgiving him. I truely have forgiven him, but while saying that, I have not forgotten, nor will I forget. I feel so much better with the hate in me gone.

Haha! I did call him today though, he still wants a cattie, but I remembered something else I forgot in the house. I called and said, will you check in the bathroom for my pads and tampons... I asked him to bag them up and bring them to me LOL! I said I really could use them any day now!

He's going to call me tomorrow and set up a time to swap them for a catalog so he can place an order.

SOOO... over all things are good. Although it's one of our craziest weeks at work, it hasn't been too bad. The only thing I need to do now is to find some friends in my area to do things with. I get pretty bored pretty easily. I'm not use to being alone after having so much action all of the time with a 6 yo running around.
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Two tampon stories in one day! I've got some in my other thread for you!
 
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  • #81
LOL I JUST READ IT!!!!! too funny!
 
  • #82
I'd even be leery of his cash to pay for any PC... The chick may break it all and then return it to HO blaming you for damaged stuff! He isn't worth any amount of commission IMHO!
 
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candiejayne said:
LOL I JUST READ IT!!!!! too funny!
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I just read it too! LMButtO
 
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pcchefjane said:
I'd even be leery of his cash to pay for any PC... The chick may break it all and then return it to HO blaming you for damaged stuff! He isn't worth any amount of commission IMHO!
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I'll do direct ship to his house, i won't even touch the stuff, can't blame me that way. I was even smart, I'm giving him a catalog that is blank, doesn't even have my name on it. he knows how to get ahold of me without having to have my business info, LOL, besides everything in my info is now his not mine! I need to buy EVERYTHING new, but I'm waiting until I move again.
 
<h2>1. What was the reason for ending the toxic relationship?</h2><p>The decision to end the relationship was a mutual agreement due to the difficult situation with his son, who was mentally and physically abusive towards the person asking the question.</p><h2>2. What steps were taken after the breakup?</h2><p>The person moved out of their partner's house and back to their parents' house. They have been in contact with their ex-partner since then and even spent some time together, but ultimately, the relationship ended.</p><h2>3. What happened when the ex-partner's daughter's mother got involved?</h2><p>The person received a message from the ex-partner's daughter's mother, asking them to remove all pictures of her daughter from their social media. The person clarified that they were still together, but later received another message from the mother, stating that the ex-partner was back with her and telling the person to remove the pictures.</p><h2>4. How did the person react to the breakup?</h2><p>The person was upset and angry that their ex-partner didn't have the courage to tell them the truth a week ago and is now avoiding them. They have been in a funk all week and have temporarily lost their motivation for everything, including their job at Pampered Chef.</p><h2>5. Any lighthearted thoughts to end on?</h2><p>The person joked about finding a new partner and lightening their mood. They also mentioned that they may have ignored advice from others in the past, which could have prevented this pain now.</p>

1. What was the reason for ending the toxic relationship?

The decision to end the relationship was a mutual agreement due to the difficult situation with his son, who was mentally and physically abusive towards the person asking the question.

2. What steps were taken after the breakup?

The person moved out of their partner's house and back to their parents' house. They have been in contact with their ex-partner since then and even spent some time together, but ultimately, the relationship ended.

3. What happened when the ex-partner's daughter's mother got involved?

The person received a message from the ex-partner's daughter's mother, asking them to remove all pictures of her daughter from their social media. The person clarified that they were still together, but later received another message from the mother, stating that the ex-partner was back with her and telling the person to remove the pictures.

4. How did the person react to the breakup?

The person was upset and angry that their ex-partner didn't have the courage to tell them the truth a week ago and is now avoiding them. They have been in a funk all week and have temporarily lost their motivation for everything, including their job at Pampered Chef.

5. Any lighthearted thoughts to end on?

The person joked about finding a new partner and lightening their mood. They also mentioned that they may have ignored advice from others in the past, which could have prevented this pain now.

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