sklay723
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So DH told me before Thanksgiving that he wants to have his family over to our house (instead of us going to theirs) on Christmas Day. We have twin almost-three-year-olds and he thought it might be fun to have everyone here. We only live 45 minutes from them. DH and his dad are currently both working night shift, so DH told his dad his idea a few days before Thanksgiving one night while they were working (they talk on the phone back and forth during their shifts).
Fast forward to Thanksgiving Day, when my MIL makes a very pointed remark in the middle of Thanksgiving dinner that it's TRADITION to have Thanksgiving and Christmas at their house. It didn't even hit me then what she was talking about. To be honest, I just kept on eating just like everyone else and didn't even pay attention to the fact that the comment was somewhat directed toward me.
Just a while ago I'm talking to my brother-in-law's girlfriend. She wanted to know what my DH wants for Christmas, since they drew his name in the gift exchange. Then she mentions something about looking forward to Christmas dinner...here. At my house. Um, yeah, OK...haven't heard that from anyone yet!
The girlfriend then tells me that according to my MIL, they're just going to "give in" and let us host Christmas dinner here, including all food prep, since I was so insistent and MADE my DH go talk to his dad so that he would talk MIL into it. What??? Really? Why would I actually fight to be able to host a massive meal for approximately a DOZEN people at my house when we are on a tight budget just to buy our groceries each week? And since it was DH's idea, and DH discussed it with his dad, shouldn't they be the ones with the finger pointed at them? And if his folks had already decided that yes, we'll have dinner here instead of there, wouldn't it have been nice to call us and at least let us know before we started finding out from other family members???
MIL's never been all that fond of me, but this just takes it to a completely new level. I have gone out of my way over the course of the past year to be the most easy-going, relaxed daughter-in-law, because I learned before then that I was never going to win no matter how hard I tried. I have accommodated strange requests, taken the kids there to visit even when Steve was working and couldn't come with us, and we even gave money to my FIL when they had budget issues and he asked for help...MIL still doesn't know that happened. So frustrating.
Anyway, just had to vent. I'm sure I'm not the only one with in-law stories to vent about, but I sure needed to get this off my chest. DH is supposed to mention it to his dad tonight, but every ounce of me just wants to pick up the phone and call MIL and just get it out in the open. That would completely go against my mission to be easy-going and relaxed though...
Fast forward to Thanksgiving Day, when my MIL makes a very pointed remark in the middle of Thanksgiving dinner that it's TRADITION to have Thanksgiving and Christmas at their house. It didn't even hit me then what she was talking about. To be honest, I just kept on eating just like everyone else and didn't even pay attention to the fact that the comment was somewhat directed toward me.
Just a while ago I'm talking to my brother-in-law's girlfriend. She wanted to know what my DH wants for Christmas, since they drew his name in the gift exchange. Then she mentions something about looking forward to Christmas dinner...here. At my house. Um, yeah, OK...haven't heard that from anyone yet!
The girlfriend then tells me that according to my MIL, they're just going to "give in" and let us host Christmas dinner here, including all food prep, since I was so insistent and MADE my DH go talk to his dad so that he would talk MIL into it. What??? Really? Why would I actually fight to be able to host a massive meal for approximately a DOZEN people at my house when we are on a tight budget just to buy our groceries each week? And since it was DH's idea, and DH discussed it with his dad, shouldn't they be the ones with the finger pointed at them? And if his folks had already decided that yes, we'll have dinner here instead of there, wouldn't it have been nice to call us and at least let us know before we started finding out from other family members???
MIL's never been all that fond of me, but this just takes it to a completely new level. I have gone out of my way over the course of the past year to be the most easy-going, relaxed daughter-in-law, because I learned before then that I was never going to win no matter how hard I tried. I have accommodated strange requests, taken the kids there to visit even when Steve was working and couldn't come with us, and we even gave money to my FIL when they had budget issues and he asked for help...MIL still doesn't know that happened. So frustrating.
Anyway, just had to vent. I'm sure I'm not the only one with in-law stories to vent about, but I sure needed to get this off my chest. DH is supposed to mention it to his dad tonight, but every ounce of me just wants to pick up the phone and call MIL and just get it out in the open. That would completely go against my mission to be easy-going and relaxed though...