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Hi everybody,
It's been a while since I have posted something or even responded to someone else thread, but I need someone else opinion not related to PC.
MY MOM IS ADDICTED TO OUR COMPUTER/INTERNET!!!
At first it didn't bother me and my DH. She would call and see if we were home and ask if she could get her "Madelyn fix." our dd. She would come once a week, may be once every 5-6 days. No biggie. Then we started to notice she would get her "Madelyn fix" of 1-2 minute if that and dart right to the computer. A few times she even came unannounced and after a few times I told her to please call. That worked for a little bit. There was even one time I was using it for work and that didn't stop her.
Now she calls and sometimes I don't answer right away because I'm busy being a Mom, making dinner, or just avoiding what I KNOW she wants to ask. I don't feel like I should always be available for her need of our computer. I don't always call other people back right away, why should I be the same for her. It can take hours or even days before I return a call. When I don't call back she has just pops in that same night or calls again.
Now, I know what you are all going to say, "Just talk to her and tell her how you feel." I know. I want to about this and so many other things, but my Mom gets super defensive and then turns the subject on to her. So, what do I do I keep it locked in and say nothing. But my blood is boiling.
I don't sell PC that much anymore and have started a personal chef business and that has taken a lot of my time and efforts. What bothers me and my DH is when we ask her to babysit, we have seen her go right to the computer and 1/2 pay attention to our dh. The worst was right before we left and our dh wanted grandma to help her with a puzzle, but she was to busy on the computer. It broke my heart in half. Since that time, we have even disconnected the internet so she would pay full attention to her. Bad I know, but with it being hard to talk to her I didn't know what to do.
HELP!
It's been a while since I have posted something or even responded to someone else thread, but I need someone else opinion not related to PC.
MY MOM IS ADDICTED TO OUR COMPUTER/INTERNET!!!
At first it didn't bother me and my DH. She would call and see if we were home and ask if she could get her "Madelyn fix." our dd. She would come once a week, may be once every 5-6 days. No biggie. Then we started to notice she would get her "Madelyn fix" of 1-2 minute if that and dart right to the computer. A few times she even came unannounced and after a few times I told her to please call. That worked for a little bit. There was even one time I was using it for work and that didn't stop her.
Now she calls and sometimes I don't answer right away because I'm busy being a Mom, making dinner, or just avoiding what I KNOW she wants to ask. I don't feel like I should always be available for her need of our computer. I don't always call other people back right away, why should I be the same for her. It can take hours or even days before I return a call. When I don't call back she has just pops in that same night or calls again.
Now, I know what you are all going to say, "Just talk to her and tell her how you feel." I know. I want to about this and so many other things, but my Mom gets super defensive and then turns the subject on to her. So, what do I do I keep it locked in and say nothing. But my blood is boiling.
I don't sell PC that much anymore and have started a personal chef business and that has taken a lot of my time and efforts. What bothers me and my DH is when we ask her to babysit, we have seen her go right to the computer and 1/2 pay attention to our dh. The worst was right before we left and our dh wanted grandma to help her with a puzzle, but she was to busy on the computer. It broke my heart in half. Since that time, we have even disconnected the internet so she would pay full attention to her. Bad I know, but with it being hard to talk to her I didn't know what to do.
HELP!