My husband and I are separated, I live in my parents' Guest House with my 2 year old daughter, and my husband lives w/ his parents. His parents do not like me- never accepted that he moved on from his high-school sweetheart. Long time ago! Anyway....they refuse to ever call me to invite me to anything- tell my husband to let me know where to be. I feel very disrespected, and do not attend- have asked them to please call ME and I would be happy to bring their granddaughter out to see them anytime.... which has never happened. The few times we are together, they are (passively) rude to me right in front of my daughter! My husband tells me they will call me tomorrow morning to invite me to X-Mas Eve at their house. SHORT notice!!!! I have plans- how do I tell them I cannot attend without looking like a total B? (Or am I being one? I invited them by card in the mail 3 weeks ago to our X-Mas party on X-Mas Day, have not heard a word. Invited them to our Thanksgiving (celebrated the Sunday following the "real" Thanksgiving) and they sent a card saying they could not make it due to prior plans) I understand they don't want me around, do want their granddaughter, but have too much pride to simply call me (and give me a little notice) like I've asked. How do I handle this?