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Pampered Chef: My sister is finally leaving her husband

  1. babywings76

    babywings76 Legend Member Gold Member

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    Please keep my sister in your prayers. I just hope and pray that this step will be the first step of her finally working towards getting some peace.

    It's a really long story, but right now my parents are with her packing up all her things and helping her move out. She will be staying with them now for who knows how long. She has been trying to hold on to the marriage for so long now. Then she started hanging in there while she formulated an exit strategy, but things have gotten so bad she can't stay there any more.

    On a side note, does anyone have any connections to a divorce lawyer, or just someone they can ask for some advice on her behalf? Her husband has racked up a huge amount of debt (some of the debt they did together, some has been him going crazy.) He has a lawyer in the family and we worry that somehow he's going to work things to be against my sister and somehow saddle her with it. Is there a way they divide the debt or something?

    Sadly, but thankfully, they don't have children together so they don't have to worry about that aspect. But he has children from a previous marriage who my sister has been helping to raise for over 10 years. It's really hard on her.
     
    Mar 10, 2009
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  2. candiejayne

    candiejayne Veteran Member

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    I feel for your sister, my ex stuck me with everything but his truck payment, then when he stopped paying for it and it got repoed, they came after me for that too. I didn't do the smart thing and get myself an attorney though, and did it all myself.

    I know there is a free online site that helps with questions, but for the life of me I can't remember what it is. I'll do some searching and see if I can find it. I believe it covers all states and is a group of volunteer lawyers from each state.
     
    Mar 10, 2009
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  3. Trish in Texas

    Trish in Texas Member Gold Member

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    My daughter who left her husband because he used all the family money for fixing up racing cars had to finally go to Legal Aid. They advised her to file for bankruptcy so that they couldn't come after her for his debts. Since then, she has really been able to rebound and is a paralegal now.

    Trish in Texas
    Independent Consultant
     
  4. raebates

    raebates Legend Member Staff Member

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    I have prayed for your sister and her situation.
     
    Mar 10, 2009
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  5. Crystal Patton

    Crystal Patton Advanced Member

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    Prayers for her and you too.
     
  6. Crystal Patton

    Crystal Patton Advanced Member

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    And your folks!!
     
  7. tlag1986

    tlag1986 Veteran Member Gold Member

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    Prayers for all of you. I do hope your sister can get some peace.
     
    Mar 10, 2009
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  8. sklay723

    sklay723 Advanced Member Gold Member

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    Prayers for your entire family during this time! Prayers especially for your sister, that she might find the strength and confidence she needs to carry her through it all. She is so lucky to have a family who stands behind and beside her in support...it will make a huge difference for her.
     
    Mar 10, 2009
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  9. amanda
    Where are you in PA? The is a great divoice lwyer in Bloomsburg, PA. Her name is Susan Hill. She will help your sister get a fair deal.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  10. legacypc46

    legacypc46 Senior Member Gold Member

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    I can recommend a gal in the Harrisburg area if that is near you.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  11. Camoblonde39

    Camoblonde39 Novice Member

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    I work in the court system and please tell her not to go to the online websites for advice. Ask around with your family and friends who a good attorney is in your area. There is always a lot of information given on those websites that are not correct.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  12. susanr613

    susanr613 Senior Member Gold Member

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    So sorry to hear about your sister. She's blessed to have you and the rest of your family for support. I'm also sorry that she is losing her stepchildren. I have been there and it's hard.

    Given her situation with the debt, I agree that she should bite the bullet and get an attorney. My brother voluntarily took on most of his ex's debt just to get out of the marriage and will be paying it off for the next 5-10 years. That seriously impacts his lifestyle and ability to save for his son's college education. It also means he has to live in a relatively unsafe neighborhood, and his son is only 8 years old.

    Best of luck to her -
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  13. babywings76

    babywings76 Legend Member Gold Member

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    I'm in Lancaster county, so this location is far but doable. Thanks. I'll pass it along to my sister.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  14. babywings76

    babywings76 Legend Member Gold Member

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    Oh yes, please. :) That is closer to us. If you want to email me I'm at amandapc@frontiernet.net
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  15. babywings76

    babywings76 Legend Member Gold Member

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    Thank you everyone. I haven't spoken to my sister yet today to see how day #2 is going. I just wish I could be more help to her.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  16. legacypc46

    legacypc46 Senior Member Gold Member

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    I just PM'd you her name, number, and some additional info. I wish your sister the best...it's a tough road, but it does eventually get better.
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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  17. babywings76

    babywings76 Legend Member Gold Member

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    Thanks so much!
     
    Mar 11, 2009
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