I buy the Pampered Chef invitations for the shower- I have heard of some consultants who have the host pay for them. I give the host the option of buying the apron and pens. Although some consultants will buy it as their gift to the bride to be. I will usually suggest that I make the appetizer and they can purchase a personalized cake. But I'm always flexible. Some consultants make up a cute corsage for the bride to be made up of little tools like a small bamboo spoon, quickcut knife, citrus peeler etc. I have never done this, but think it's a great idea. Just because it's a show doesn't mean the host and other close relatives can't get outside orders from people they work with etc. Think of the possibilities. It's very important to work closely with the host. This is much more than a show- it will be an important family memory.