Daughter ran away...is okay

nikked · 09-30-2007, 05:09 AM

PLEASE be praying for our family. It's 2 am MST (AZ). Quick backstory: After DH left for Iraq at the beginning of July, things came to a head with our then 15 year old daughter. My mother graciously offered to help by taking her in, and trying to reach her where we had failed.

It appeared that things were going really well, but over the last few weeks there had been warning signs that something was going on. But, she was so isolated at my mom's place, we couldn't figure out what.

She turned 16 on Thursday, and I came out from Albuquerque to surprise her. Took her 6 year old sister out of school for two days, etc. She had no idea we were coming, and seemed genuinely pleased to see us.

We had a surprise party for her, let her do dramatic blonde streaks in her hair, took her to the home coming football game at the highschool, and lots of other fun stuff. I told her earlier today that I felt like the weekend parent who got to come in and do all the fun stuff (no offense to anyone in that situation, please).

Tonight, we discovered that for the last three weeks, she had been up to her old tricks...too long to explain what. She got mad at us for catching her, and ran away. Keep in mind that we are 8+miles from town at 7,000 feet, and it is reaching deep into the twenties at night right now.

So, I called the Sherriff's, and they found her about 2 1/2 miles down the road (she was moving fast). The Deputy saw right through her BS (pardon my implied language), thank God. When asked what she would do if taken back, she threatened suicide, so now she is being admitted for a mandatory 72 hour psych evaluation.

I am so beyond exhausted. I was supposed to drive back to ABQ tomorrow so Theresa (6 years) could be back at school on Monday, but now don't know what will happen.

I am unable to leave the three little ones, so my Mom is driving the 50 miles (from where she is) to Flagstaff to handle paperwork etc. My mom's house is 8 miles south of town, where she was staying while I'm here is 20 miles out of town the opposite direction. So, there was no way for her to come here and me to go. It would eat up too much time. Plus, I don't think I could drive right now.

So, I'm scared, angry, thankful that maybe she might get some help, and BEYOND exhaused. I know that right now I'm the only one on CS, but when you see this, please pray.

Sorry this is so long...I think I rambled too much!

Thank you...

raebates · 09-30-2007, 06:32 AM

Oh, Nicole, I'm so sorry. You have my prayers.

chefheidi2003 · 09-30-2007, 06:44 AM

Nicole your family will definately be in my prayers...I will share your story with my pastor this morning...The Lord with help you through this...I have a friend with a 7 year old who has been in and out of psych facilities this year...I will be praying for you.

chefkristin · 09-30-2007, 06:53 AM

Your all in my prayers. I am so sorry you have to go through this and I hope your daughter gets the help she needs.

ChefNic · 09-30-2007, 07:17 AM

You've got more on your plate (daughter and husband !) than I can possibly imagine!
You are definitely in my prayers!

jenniferp417 · 09-30-2007, 09:18 AM

You're in my prayers.

KellyTheChef · 09-30-2007, 09:28 AM

Nicole~

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this (and that your daughter is having such a hard time...it's not easy for her either...)
I will keep you all in prayer!

vwpamperedchef · 09-30-2007, 09:29 AM

Stay strong, & God Bless your family.

With Love & Prayers...

missydivine · 09-30-2007, 09:33 AM

You and your family are in my prayers!

lacychef · 09-30-2007, 10:13 AM

Oh man Nicole, I'm so glad they found her & I hope she gets the counsel that she needs. Your family has been through so much; I will say a prayer for you.

nikked · 09-30-2007, 10:22 AM

Thank you all so much. I just had a quick minute to check email before heading to Flagstaff to sign admittance paperwork for her. We went back and forth on whether she would be admitted, because she packpedaled (sp?...don't really care right now, I guess) her suicide threat, but in the end it was decided that it was best to have her evaluated before trying to head back to NM. So, now I have to figure out how to drive six hours with three kids on 2 hours sleep, find a home for the six and two year old for a few days, and drive back Monday or Tuesday before she's released.

Yuck. I appreciate so much this site and all y'all on it. I found great comfort in being able to "share" with you and knowing that you would respond.

Thank you.

lacychef · 09-30-2007, 10:33 AM

Definately be cautious of the suicide threats....I had a cousin that did it 9 yrs ago & there were no signs.
{{{{hugs}}}}to you.

pamperedbecky · 09-30-2007, 10:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nikked

Thank you all so much. I just had a quick minute to check email before heading to Flagstaff to sign admittance paperwork for her. We went back and forth on whether she would be admitted, because she packpedaled (sp?...don't really care right now, I guess) her suicide threat, but in the end it was decided that it was best to have her evaluated before trying to head back to NM.

Thank you.

You definitely did the right thing by having her admitted. I was a therapist in a psychiatric hospital on the inpatient child and adolescent unit for 5 1/2 years before quitting (thanks to PC) so I've seen plenty of kids backpedal. It's good that she can be there to get the help she needs. It goes so quickly so hopefully she'll be honest with herself, staff and family to get some help. Good luck! You'll all be in my prayers.

ljeffries · 09-30-2007, 10:54 AM

IMHO you made the right decision. Any hardships that the drive/childcare cause now will be more than worth it in the long run. Take care.

ChefBeckyD · 09-30-2007, 12:00 PM

Praying that God will be your peace, strength, and rest as you deal with this. Also praying that God will wrap His arms around your daughter and be her daddy while her other daddy is away!

StacieB · 09-30-2007, 12:04 PM

Prayers on the way for everything!!

dannyzmom · 09-30-2007, 12:14 PM

(((((((((((((Nicole)))))))))))))

dianevill · 09-30-2007, 12:17 PM

Nicole,
I'm so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this. You will all be in my prayers.

CookingwithMary · 09-30-2007, 01:01 PM

Praying for you too...newbie here, delurking.

You made the right decision. The psych eval and intervention can be a blessing "in disguise', as upsetting as it is right now. Opens the door for all the issues to be addressed. Right now concentrate on driving safely!

M.

crystalscookingnow · 09-30-2007, 01:57 PM

You & you family are in our prayers. God will bless you & keep you safe while you make the drive.

09-30-2007, 05:09 AM	#1
nikked Location: Albuquerque NM Posts: 1,454 Best Show: 1210 Experience: ?? # of Shows: 97 My Mood:	Daughter ran away...is okay PLEASE be praying for our family. It's 2 am MST (AZ). Quick backstory: After DH left for Iraq at the beginning of July, things came to a head with our then 15 year old daughter. My mother graciously offered to help by taking her in, and trying to reach her where we had failed. It appeared that things were going really well, but over the last few weeks there had been warning signs that something was going on. But, she was so isolated at my mom's place, we couldn't figure out what. She turned 16 on Thursday, and I came out from Albuquerque to surprise her. Took her 6 year old sister out of school for two days, etc. She had no idea we were coming, and seemed genuinely pleased to see us. We had a surprise party for her, let her do dramatic blonde streaks in her hair, took her to the home coming football game at the highschool, and lots of other fun stuff. I told her earlier today that I felt like the weekend parent who got to come in and do all the fun stuff (no offense to anyone in that situation, please). Tonight, we discovered that for the last three weeks, she had been up to her old tricks...too long to explain what. She got mad at us for catching her, and ran away. Keep in mind that we are 8+miles from town at 7,000 feet, and it is reaching deep into the twenties at night right now. So, I called the Sherriff's, and they found her about 2 1/2 miles down the road (she was moving fast). The Deputy saw right through her BS (pardon my implied language), thank God. When asked what she would do if taken back, she threatened suicide, so now she is being admitted for a mandatory 72 hour psych evaluation. I am so beyond exhausted. I was supposed to drive back to ABQ tomorrow so Theresa (6 years) could be back at school on Monday, but now don't know what will happen. I am unable to leave the three little ones, so my Mom is driving the 50 miles (from where she is) to Flagstaff to handle paperwork etc. My mom's house is 8 miles south of town, where she was staying while I'm here is 20 miles out of town the opposite direction. So, there was no way for her to come here and me to go. It would eat up too much time. Plus, I don't think I could drive right now. So, I'm scared, angry, thankful that maybe she might get some help, and BEYOND exhaused. I know that right now I'm the only one on CS, but when you see this, please pray. Sorry this is so long...I think I rambled too much! Thank you...

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