You can't put yourself as the host or co-host in this situation. What you can do is put the friend's name as co-host and choose for her order to ship directly to her. Make sure the division of host benefits has all of the benefits going to the co-host. Put your spouse's/child's/friend's name as host, with the shipping address c/o you and your address. Just be sure to leave that order blank. This will bring all of the "ship to host" items to your house.
Does that make sense?